I get dumped for waiting to have sex until I'm married. It hurts a lot. How do I cope with this?
2006-07-30 03:01:19 · 19 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry about it. If someone isn't willing to wait for you, then they probably weren't in it for the right reasons. Waiting until marriage is a good idea. And trust me, there are alot of guys out there who respect a girl waiting. But if they aren't waiting for you, don't worry about it.
You actully may want to tell a person who you a seeing pretty early in the relationship that you are waiting until marriage. It will save you time and heartbreak if they don't wanna wait for you. & don't give yourself up. If you believe strongly that waiting is the right idea, stay with it. Don't give yourself up just to keep someone. That wont help the situation at all. Because you never know, once they get it, they may leave you. So stay true to what you believe in. I know I'm waiting until marriage & yeah, I've had guys not want to deal with that but there are guys out there who believe that too & will respect you for it.
Another thing, you may want to just try to focus on study's or work or what have you for awhile. When you don't look for love & become over obsessed with finding it, it tends to find you. I know it hurts, but just relax & take care of you. Someone will come along. It just may take some time. Your 21, you have time. Just take it easy.
Hope some of this helped. Good luck!
2006-07-30 03:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have chosen to save something precious for the man who will love you.
Of course you will find true love as you meet good men. One of them will come along one day and you will know he is your special friend whom you waited for. And he will treasure you coz you waited too.
To help yourself in meeting a really nice guy, try going to places where really nice guys are, like Habitat for Humanity or some other group where people donate their time to help others.You will meet many special people, so when you do love someone, be sure you give your relationship a year or more to see if you are really right for each other.
Any man worth having will not insist you give up your virginity outside of marriage.
Hang in there!
2006-07-30 10:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by a_phantoms_rose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i am proud of u and hang in there and don't worry about the losers and when u find a real man he will honor your wish and be good to u at the same time until u get married. Have a bless day
2006-07-30 10:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by jdhmusic3029 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one. I know I wouldn't be able to wait to get married. I guess when you finally find the guy who is willing to wait than you found a winner. Maybe try satisfying the men your with in other ways (if you get my point)
2006-07-30 10:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by ricgrif 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one that is willing to wait is the one for u and it's not easy to cope with heart break
2006-07-30 10:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by chaopred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just come c me , we'll pretend were married and act married and have a lotta sex till we find out howyou like the sex then we'l really go get married and live happily ever after
2006-07-30 10:29:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was right to dump you, you need to start having sex, there is no reason for you to wait.
2006-07-30 10:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont wait until marriage, once you have it you'll be like, WHY DID I WAIT THIS LONG! it could lead to depression and suicide. Men have to be relived at least every twoo weeks or they risk medical problems, you ought to help a guy out with your mouth or an least a hj.
2006-07-30 10:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at it this way, you are waiting until marriage! that is the best thing you can do for yourself! if people dump you for who you are, then they dont understand and you dont need someone who doesnt understand you!! wait until you find someone who understands!! dont have sex with someone cuz they say " if you love me you would have sex with me" they dont understand you!
2006-07-30 10:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh im sure ther is a guy out ther for u ..whu can respect u,....and dnt ever feel down for those losers ...tat only makes tat they dnt love u and tat they only wanted sex......ull get ure true love sis ...
gud luck
2006-07-30 10:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋