I let one of my friends go because we were really good friends and had a play play relationship. I was enjoying all of the trips, the dates, the spending the night and the sex. I felt like one day we would eventually be together, but that day was never coming and it's been almost a year. I got real bold and sent him a text saying that my feelings were too strong for him to continue being "just" his friend and that our friendship had to end. I felt like I was doing it to save me from heart ache in the long run, but I'm lost without him. Was it wrong for me to end a friendship because I've fallen in love with him? Is it wrong for me to want him back? How can I get him back? How can I continue to be his friend while having feelings for him? I need help!!! I'm use to being/talking to him 24/7, and it's been 3 days since we last spoke.
2006-07-30 02:30:51 · 13 answers · asked by Charlies_Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, call him. thats not a way of dealing with it. he may feel the same way, and does not know how to say it. but don't settle now. if thats all he wants then let it go. including the friendship. you need to move on if thats the case. and you can't move on if your puttin up with that kind of relationship. what it sounds like is your taking what ever you can get from him. go with your first instinct though. you told him you can't do that anymore. you know you need to take care of yourself. so dont' back down from that. but you should talk to him about it instead of a cheap a$$ text message. easy way out. you need to give him a chance to respond. thats not fair if you don't. he has a part in that relationship to. and needs to be able to voice his opinion.
2006-07-30 02:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You miss him and want him back because he was a big part of your life like you said. You were use to talking to him 24/7 and now you are not talking. If he does not see anything developing past friendship maybe it is better you not speak to him until you feel you can look at him as just your friend and nothing else. It is not worth going back to the old ways the two of you have if he does not feel the same way, you may just take longer to get over him. So stay away for awhile, until you think you can be his friend, and if you can't then avoid him!
2006-07-30 09:42:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know for sure that he doesn't want to have more than friendship?
First of all you have to be a 1000% sure he doesn't want anything more intimate. If he does ... slowly get back into it... remind him of the good old times ... and so on ....
But if you are sure ... just be his friend. A friend not just some stranger. A friend has value. And for you this one has A LOOOT!
So why on earth would you also break the friendship .... to be left with ........... nothing?
ok .. first don't leave out the friendship, it is a real shame .. ok?
but you don't have to stop there .. be nice to him, friendly ...
trie to go out together , to the mall, shopping, ....to the park!!! whatever ... and try to get close to him, dress cute, so he'll think you are cute and adorable and then ... you just will get closer to him again
2006-07-30 09:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by Shiry Madison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you better get the "we're just friends" out of your head NOW. You were not friends, you were lovers. That's 2 different things. Don't confuse one with the other. He was most likely taking advantage of the fact that he can get free *** without the commitment.
Ask yourself. Do you want to be taken advantage of? If so, then continue to be his "friend". Otherwise, find someone who REALLY loves you and wants a relationship. Also, if you want to be his friend.... NO MORE SEX. Friends don't have sex with each other. Once this happens, it's no longer a friendship.
2006-07-30 09:35:14 · answer #4 · answered by Private Account 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your one confused little girl arnt ya??
A whole year?? and it didnt look like it was going anywhere?
Where do you kids get your sense of timing? A good relationship should develop over a number of years. While both people pursue a career that will provide a decent income to ensure a happy and succesful life outside of the relationship. Then you work on the relationship and how your individual lives can come together to become solid, firm, loving and progressive.
2006-07-30 09:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you had him just like you needed but you got impatient. was he seeing anyone else while you two were everywhere doing everything together 24/7? he gave you all of the time you wanted.
**note** just because its not official, doesnt mean that the feelings werent there.
maybe you should call him and explain, but also be prepared for the worse. you did hurt his feelings with a text message to end it all. so dont expect him to welcome you back with open arms.
but if you have been together like you said, then he should at least want to hear you out.
good luck
2006-07-30 09:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were in love with the relationship . It was safe for you . Now you let HIM go . Forget about it !You broke his heart and now it's time for your heart to break , turn about fair play ! After a year , you think he was letting in moss grow under his bed ? I don't think so . You lost out on a good thing . Move on!
2006-07-30 09:36:44 · answer #7 · answered by vpsinbad50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is someone u want to still keep as a friend , u have to talk 'urself' outta ur feelings. else, let go..its hard but no other choice
2006-07-30 09:34:11 · answer #8 · answered by hidimba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should have continued to be friends with him because i think you would rather be friends with him and have feelings than not be friends with him and have feelings. my advice is go with the flow and do what feels right for you, but take it slow
2006-07-30 09:35:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG you need to start answering questions on here.......he was looking for you!!!
2006-07-30 09:32:55 · answer #10 · answered by doereen69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋