i am 29 ,now it is 5 years that i married ,my husband and i think it is time to have a baby,but i work from 7 am to 6 pm . i want to be a good mother but like my job too. what should i do?
2006-07-30 02:03:26 · 16 answers · asked by ayat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
work pt if possible
2006-07-30 02:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by Maritza 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no magic formula to being a good parent. Research doesn't show proof positive that stay home parents raise more stable or happier children than working parents. I belive it's the quality of time not the quantity of time. I'm not saying you should or shouldn't stay home either. I think it's about persnonal choice. Lots of things to consider. Finances are a biggie. Can you financially make it if you don't work? Also consider this; will you be happy and fulfilled if you are not working? Does your job give you satisfaction and self-worth? If so, that's tough to give up. If you don't find those things at home with the baby you are not going to be happy. You may also start to feel resentment toward your husband and baby.
Sorry, this probably wasn't a lot of help. Only you can decide what you really want your life to be.
Good luck.
2006-07-30 02:16:22 · answer #2 · answered by THP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am almost in your situation, married young, but not pregnant yet and I am thinking of it to. The best advice I can give, from what others tell me, is to just do it. Everything always works out. It is very common to be a working mother as I would be too (9-5 though). There are very good options for child care, you may even have some offerings through your job, many people do not know that, or you could even do a maternity leave for the first few months, and then return to your job. I would go for it, your only going to get older thinking about it. Good Luck!!
2006-07-30 02:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by dnelak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely have a baby. Keep working up until a week or so before you are due to deliver, and don't quit your job unless you decide you want to. With my first, I knew that I was not going back; I wanted to be a stay-at-home-mom. But if you love your job, keep your options open. You may find, after you deliver, that you would rather be a full time mother. But you shouldn't wait any longer. I'm almost 30 with two - you need the energy that comes with being young.
2006-07-30 02:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by Iamnotarobot (former believer) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your Baby!!! You deserve to bring a piece of you and your husband in the world!!!! I would say work up until your eight month and just save some extra cash in the bank!!! You can take maternity leaves for a period of 6month these days and maybe when baby is a little older you can maybe work alternate shifts than your husband that way one of you are always there to give the baby the undivided attention that he or she needs!!!! Best wishes!
2006-07-30 02:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,sweetie you need to priortise.set your priorities right and then decide what you want?
i believe you should do everything in life as per your age and requirement.you've worked long enough and now i guess its high time you should move towards family,afterall you ahve to keep your age in check,there are so many biological issues that come up while having a ababy after 30.........work,theres a time for everything and i believe whatever you do should give it your best shot so now is the time to have a baby and take care of him/her and trst me you yourself will change your mind on working,no matter how much u like it afetr u ahve your baby in your arms,its not easy to work leaving the lil one back home with some one else(mom or mom-in-law)remember its not u.......dont u think even your child will need you while he is growing,just to know that he has you by him always?
think..........
2006-07-30 02:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want one bad enough and your husband does too, then sit down and see if you are financially ready . you can work up till your 9th month in some places and take a month off and go back to work if you want to. i personally think a baby needs his /her mother till at least 2 . also how about insurance ? do you or your husband have insurance to cover everything or are you going to quit and have welfare pay ? (no offense please ) Take everything into consideration before you have a child ,( money , health , job security , insurance , & money )
2006-07-30 02:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by vpsinbad50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are in an office and it is not stressful then continue working untill you are no longer able. can you take your work home????maybe after you have your child you can work for the same company at home.then as your child gets older you can return.
i had to work when my children were born,i had no choice and no husband.if i had it to do over,really i would'nt change a thing. however, i wish that i could have stayed home with them.they still turned out to be great children.
2006-07-30 02:25:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 18:12:24 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do whatever will make you happy and you're the only one who can know what that is. Good luck!
2006-07-30 02:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! You can hava a baby & work after a while, or you can work at something at home.
2006-07-30 02:09:45 · answer #11 · answered by lupulescud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋