i don't know love anymore since i took a break after exiting on 2 failed relationships.i met this guy once.but haven't established any further conncetions.except for a lil general chat.after meeting him,i felt a bit elctrified.i didn't mind it coz i thought its just nothing but,as days that turned into months passed by,i've kept on thinking bout him.24/7.and until now that we've met again after 4 months w/o any communication,i still feel the same and thingk its growing.this is our 2nd time to meet again and would be followed by our first date but just discovered from him during the day of our 2nd meeting that he has a girl.tried to call the date off but he insisted.what am i supposed to do? got no plans on luring him.just befriends w/him.though i really like him though...what am i to do? pls help.i could use as much advices as you can give me! thanks!
2006-07-30 02:00:32 · 20 answers · asked by peek-a-boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I think that if you felt electrified the first time that you met and after 4 months you still feel the same way there is probably something that the two of you could make of this. but until the two of you really get to know each other and go out a few more times you can't really tell if he's interested.
So my best advice would be to work it out. Find out some of the things that he likes and compare them to what you like. Cause if you two have nothing in common than i don't think you should bring this to anything more than a friendship but if you two share a lot of interests than it is propably worth a try.
Most importantly make sure that he is not currently involved in a relationship and if he is than remain Friends for that time but if you can't just be friends with him than try not to see as much of him. That doesn't mean that you need to totally and completely ignore him but just don't see as much of him.
Good luck and i hope that helped!!
2006-07-30 02:20:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U know that u are an independant person and that u can make u own choices in life. Love somtimes make us so stupid that we end up making a fool out of ourselves. However to your situation u losing faith in something that we can't do with out. We as human need someone to love us thats our nature. This guy that u say that u love who already has a girlfriend i think that u should let him know how u feel about him and let him choose whether or not he wants you or the other girl. Try to come to some conclusion with him and whatever u all agree with work with it. A little piece of advice u should never love with u heart rather love with your head ok. i'm sayin this because if a situation like this happen to u again you would be smart enough to make the right decision and the guy wouldn't make u his fool. most importantly you would not have such an hang over and would not stress urself so much . find a man that would love u more than u love him ok.
2006-07-30 02:21:58 · answer #2 · answered by sweetbiscuit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to start off,if he has a girlfriend and is trying to date you,do you really want him.once a cheater always a cheater..or at least thats what everyone says....but lets just say you had a boyfriend...he didnt really do it for you...then you meet the perfect guy that you know you could be happt the rest of your life with.but you let him get away cuz you are still tied down to mr.boring.that would be tragic.you would be stuck with some dummy that cant make you happy and mr.right is now making some othr girl happy.so my advise would be to start a FRIENDSHIP with him and leave it at that and tell him it wont go no further while hes with someone else.if he says he will dump her right away up goes a flag.even if he fell madly in love with you,a good guy would agonize over how to end it with the other girl,he couldnt just tell he to hit the bricks.as a friend you get to know him,and see how he handles the other realationships in his life.looks and electricity isnt everything,you need heart.if you are a beautiful girl any guy will play and pertend to be anything they think you want to get in your pants,let him first show himself worthy before dating him.see if he treats everyone as good as you would have him treat you.good luck and have a great day.
2006-07-30 02:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you have to ask yourself is can you handle him as just a friend? It sounds like you really like him. If he has a girl then all you can do is ait and hope that he dumps her. Until then, you'll just have to forget about him and date other people. Its not gonna be easy but its all you can do for the moment. I hope your patient, because you may be waiting a long time. Its very nice of you not to try and lure him or anything like that. I know this isnt the best advice but you dont have many options right now.
2006-07-30 02:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by T-Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's really interested in being with you, he wouldn't be contacting you so rarely. Absence doesn't make love grow fonder when you are just starting a relationship. The difference between my girlfriend and my female friends is whether I call her everyday no matter what, even for a few minutes or email them only when I'm not busy. I think you should make it clear to him that you should stay as friends, and if he doesn't like that, that's not your problem. Don't be a pushover, if he's being persistent, you are the one who has to draw the line.
I don't think this is one relationship worth pursuing further. You obviously deserve someone who thinks more of you.
2006-07-30 02:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by loki_niflheim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up on love it will come to you when ready. He has a girl, how did you feel finding out imagine how she would feel. He probably has many other girls. Dont let someone like this play with your heart and emotions. Get your self together you dont want go down same track again.This man is not worthy of you as if hes cheating on his gf he will prob do same on you . Look him in the eye say sorry i 'm no sucker have a nice life, walk out with your head held high,you can do that your on your way to new start in life, He sounds like he only wants you for fun. you deserve better.
2006-07-30 02:11:36 · answer #6 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay here is my take on this....if I read this wrong I am truely sorry......HOWEVER! If the man reveals he has a girlfriend after you have met......he is a loser looking to have his cake and eat it too! If he insists on the date anyway I would do a little check on circuit court records and make sure that there aren't a few things you aren't being told otherwise as well.....like ohhhhhh say sexual assault charges or convictions......bankruptsy......tax warrants....you know things that might come in handy prior to getting involved with him further than you already have. Be careful.....some men (not all) are out there looking for their next meal ticket. Good luck!
2006-07-30 02:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by kittkatt2u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the date off. Don't let him talk you out of it. I know you don't intend for it to be anything more then friends but you like him and think he likes you so I'm sure you know where this will lead.
The only way I could see the two of you hanging out is if his girlfriend is also there. You don't want to get involved with a guy who's going to cheat because if he cheated on her he'll cheat on you.
2006-07-30 02:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are attracted to him and are hoping for more than just a friendship, I would suggest that you call off the date and move on. If he's already got a girlfriend then you are just setting yourself up for some heartache.
I don't know why he is insisting on keeping this date unless maybe he's not serious about his girlfriend and has some interest in you. In any case, if he's not serious about her and wants to explore things with you then he should break up with his girl first.
2006-07-30 02:08:18 · answer #9 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...my first impression is he's a player or he currently have problems with his girl.
Play it safe. it's great that you decided not to 'lure' him or anything because it would totally be unfair to the other girl.
go on with the date...but don't let him get too friendly because in the end, you're going to be the one crying...just remind yourself he got a girl and that he's just a friend
I can't really advise you on anything since nothing really IS happening yet. but DO always remember that think of the consequences first and always think if you are willing to take the risk of breaking your heart again..
2006-07-30 02:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jacky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋