I am renewing vows with my husband of 9 years after a 10 month separation. It will be a VERY casual ceremony with a small reception and only about 25 guests. My wedding dress, more of an evening gown I bought at Ann Taylor, still fits and is gorgeous. BUT should I wear it? We are getting new rings, moving to a new town, fresh new start for a new life together...cannot decide on the dress.
2006-07-30 01:34:54 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would feel proud to wear the same dress because there are not very many people that could fit into the dress after 9 years.It really is not what you wear but what you are entering into the renewal vows with. Let us hope that some lessons have been learned and you can really care for one another.
2006-07-30 03:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by Janis G 5 · 21⤊ 8⤋
This is the kind of thing that you should decide if the dress really fits in with your new ceremony. Is it going to be too fancy, etc. Also, you might consider that even though your dress is wonderful and you love it...maybe a fresh start really is just what you need and you want everything to be new. It's such a personal choice!
Maybe the best thing to do is to go look for other dresses. Try a bunch of stuff on and if they just don't feel right or you find yourself not liking anything and just thinking about your old dress, you should go ahead and wear it. But if you find another gorgeous dress that you love even more now, then you'll know that you should buy the new one. Good luck!
2006-07-30 04:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have said yes to the dress from Ann Taylor because it fit and and its the "something old" but you said it will be a casual ceremony.
I can't see an evening gown at a casual ceremony. I don't know what the gown looks like ... but is it possible to change it to tea length or even shorter? I would look at having it altered in some way to make it different.
This way it isn't the "same" dress but it is... :)
2006-07-30 03:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all Cograts on your 9 years of bliss. Second, honey, if you can still fit in that dress, after 9 yrs. I say YES, DEFINETLY, wear that dress!! You started out taking your vows in the dress, I say you continue the tradition. Can you imagine your husband, seeing you once again in this dress. I'm sure it will be overwhelming and bring back such wonderful memories. If I were you, tho, I would keep it a secret from him. Let him be so surprised , seeing his wife of 9 years,looking as beautiful on this special day, as she was the first time you exchanged vows. Best wishes to you both!!
2006-07-30 01:45:50 · answer #4 · answered by andie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your reasons for separating. If either one of you had a fling and that was the reason you were drawn apart...then buy a new dress...as the initial wedding dress..the purity of meaning has transpired..and been kicked to the kerb.
If you just had a brief quarrel about something not life-threatening but made it up...via dating or counselling....then re-new with the old dress.
If he was abusive in some way and you HOPE he has improved...go for the old dress as it wont last long and you shouldnt waste your money on "what-if" situations...even if kiddies are involved.
People dont change hun...they dont get more exciting or more stable....you sure you want to do this for you? Cant you just live together until you get sick of that?
2006-07-30 02:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. Fresh start should equal new wedding dress. The old dress might bring back memories of some bad times. I would buy a new dress. Something maybe similar, but maybe in a different colour. That would be pretty, but if you really want to wear the old dress, ask him how he feels about it. If hes ok with it then I would go ahead and enjoy your day in whatever you want to wear. Congrats on a fresh start.
2006-07-30 01:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes Yes Yes , if you can still fit into it , I think that it would be great , You said your very first vows in it so why not . Why not put the money you were going to spend on a new gown for something special . Yours getting new rings , wearing a blue garter no doubt , so your dress will be something old . Go for it save your money .
2006-07-30 02:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by vpsinbad50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
human beings gained't remember what you've been wearing a million 12 months and a 0.5 in the past. At a wedding ceremony, all eyes are on the brides, no longer on visitors. i will't remember what different visitors were wearing on the weddings i have been to. So do not situation. once you're somewhat afraid they could be conscious, decorate in a special way than the terrific time: diverse shoes, handbag, rings, shrug, coiffure, and so on.
2016-11-26 23:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by vaux 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, wear it.
You can still fit into it, you lucky woman. The gown can be your "something old". Your new rings are your something new, etc.
I think it is a wonderful symbol of the love you shared the first time that was apparently strong enough to endure through the years.
Congratulations and all the best...
2006-07-30 03:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No obviously if you are starting all over you are starting over as different people you have both changed. If you were getting married to someonelse you wouldn't were the same dress. You are not the same people who got married years ago.Though wearing the same dress may bring back good memmories it may also bring those feelings of how the last time worked out.
2006-07-30 03:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by baby kountry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if it is casual just find a nice skirt outfit depending on the weather. You may have a beautiful dress but do you want to stick out being georgus when your hubby and everyone else is dressed down. Good luck on your new life
2006-07-30 01:38:11 · answer #11 · answered by rmr1979_01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋