I was innocent about sexual intercourse during my first wedding night. One close relative of my wife provided this information. I want to confirm that facts but how?
2006-07-30 00:45:19 · 11 answers · asked by bilal_qadeer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She was. I was habitual with her before you. She was very, very good. Please send her my regards.
2006-07-30 00:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First let me tell u, u are in a very very tense situation of your marriage, and if u don't deal with this situation with tact then your marriage will be in trouble and after that also your emotions regarding marriage.
Let me believe that what your relative said was true and your wife is habitual of men before marriage.
Now, ask yourself, does it bother you if no then forget it and never mention anything to her about this
if yes, then ask your relative about any facts/truth about this, otherwise if he cannot provide a valid truth then beat him for dishonoring your wife, if he is able to provide the truth then call your wife and say this to her
First talk about day to day things with her.
Then, ask her this question "whether u were in love with anyone before marriage or u liked someone?" Beware, don't use the word/intention "Sex" here but just say the word love.
If she tells u all truth, then O Man! u do have a nice wife, then also know the reason
why if there was a love did they got separated?
Finally ask her if "Are u happy with me or I can help u in this regard?" (As a good husband and a life partner u need to support her in every phase of her life).
If she doesn't tell u then show her the proof the relative gave to you and ask for further clarification, always demand clarification not answers. Your tone should be for asking clarification and not answers. This time her character will be at test, if she sees no regret in what she has done, then its your decision to continue/leave her. If she regrets and promises to remain faithful to you then forgive her as you are now husband and wife and what happened before marriage is entirely irrelevant, remember you need both to remain faithful to your marriage after this (no revenge from ur side, ok!)
Further, i might ask you as a friend (as i am also a virgin before marriage) "did it never occured to u on your first night that ur wife had some experience in sex and you don't have any? Did that thing didn't never occured to you while u were having sex?
2006-07-30 12:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by CONFUSED_AND_IGNORED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what your wife did before you marriage is not important...that was a previous life and the person who told you this is creating mess and drama and you need to check the relative. Why would they want to say something like that about someone they are related to. My guess it is a woman and she is probably attracted to you....stranger things have happened.
Give the person a dime and tell the person to go and buy some business!
2006-08-02 22:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by femmenoire@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What went on before your marriage and before you two met is in the past .Some relative she has , talking about her personnel life with you like that , Seems like a busy body . If you two are happy and are having great relations , where's the problem .
2006-07-30 09:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by vpsinbad50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriages are based on trust,just go and ask her straight...now since you guys are life partners you need to know all about each other,tell her how these thoughts have been bothering you and you need to know to feel relieved!!
and you have to remember one thing that everyone today has a past,if you really love her you have to accept her with all her blues,if she has any and also be firm that it does'nt get repeated any further!!
make her feel confident about you and only then will she be able to confide in you!!and even if she does'nt feel comfrtable sharing things of her past,pls do not force,just leave it and bother about your future together and see how you can make it beautifull!!
2006-07-30 08:03:15 · answer #5 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you mean your wife may have been cohabitant with other men prior to marriage. I don't see the problem if you are truly in love. But that's just me.
2006-07-30 07:52:13 · answer #6 · answered by The Stranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
judging by your name you sound muslim, i would say if its really a problem talk to her about it nicely, i know its an honor thing it wrong her not to tell you her past, you would not have married her if you knew the truth, so talk to her and tell her what you heard, if not tell that person who told you to bring you proof, i think the marriage is based on lies if you dont say something, dont keep secrets from each other.
2006-07-30 09:32:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let anyone say anything about her, she is your honour now and she is the best thing that happened in your life , dont believe others unless you are a fool to give her away to her relative who told you these things to get you angry to leave her and you will see how he will ask for her hand after you .
2006-07-30 07:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont care about what people say about her as now you are married. Just make the things work not worse. BE cool.
2006-07-30 08:43:01 · answer #9 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear, hw can u doubt your own wife?? if she aint truthful to u abt her past, maeb she is afraid of wat u'd tink bt her.. i was habitual of men in ma lyf before but afta miting my fiance, i juz stopped... i was hesitant to tell him abt my lyf before miting him but he stil luvd me for hu i m n nt hw i was..
aniwaes, will getting the facts make u hapi? will it satisfy u? r u sure u will b able to accept ur wife n nt c her in a different lyt? maebe u shuld try to talk it out u noe.. slowly la of cuz..
trust is the word.. gud luck k?
2006-07-30 08:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by curious_ash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋