My daughters 4, and i've been trying everything under the sun to potty train her but she's stubborn!!! Ideas?

Answer 1

I haven't dealt with potty training yet, but I've gotten some interesting tips from other moms.

First seems to be involving the child. This makes sense since my son likes to be involved in everything we do (he's just 15mo - hence the no potty training yet) and even at that age, I can tell he's more invested in the things he has had a hand in.

I would suggest going to the store together to pick out big girl panties. Let her choose her own, and explain that she can't wear them until she is using the potty. Make it exciting.

Also, kids need to understand that there are repurcussions to their actions. If she makes a mess, have her help clean it up. What's the motivation if making a mess causes no change in her daily life?

I like the suggestion someone else gave about talking about preschool, but I wouldn't use it as blackmail. However, you might take her to a preschool and show her what fun all the kids are having there and just let her know that only big girls who wear big girl underpants can go there.

Also, I'm not into playing tricks on kids. I think it builds mistrust, however, one desperate Mom I know tried this and its almost too cute to see it as sneaky.

Her son loved batman. So, she bought him Batman pullups while he was potty training. She also bought matching plain pullups. Whenever he had an accident she switched him to the plain pullups when she changed him (w/o him realizing it... kids tend not to look down during diaper changes I gues) and told him that Batman had been upset about the accident and didn't want to be down there when it was all wet, so he had gone away. Her son was so concerned about Batman's feelings that he stopped peeing himself almost right away.

Mostly, be kind and talk to your child like she was an adult. Explain the whole situation to her. Tell her why you use the potty and why she should.

And, like someone else said, you might want to talk to your pediatrician too. It could actually be a bladder issue. Or, he might just have some suggestions. He sees a lot of kids!

Answer 2

Let here pick out her own NEW big girl panties.

Reward here with something she loves (other than food) if she gets potty trained along the way give her something towards that big reward.

My daughters favorite things were stickers at the time, so I made a board where she could put her stickers on it every time she used the potty. If she used the potty all day with no accidents she got two stickers at the end of the day. Within two weeks wee were going everyday without accidents and she could wear her big girl panties and got a new baby doll.

DO NOT PUNISH HER WHEN SHE DOES NOT USE THE POTTY, this only pushes her further away from it. All it is an accident so treat it as such.

Answer 3

Here it is- it has worked for my 2 kids,and others after I tell them........

1. get m and m's handy
2. get a small potty chair
3. get a couple books about potty
4. you need to be home for about 4-5 days straight
5. now you can start. let them run around bare-but
6. Set the timer for 1/2 hour. Tell him/her to sit on the potty for 5 min. (read them a book in the mean time if it's to long for them.) If they go, give lots and lots of praise!!! I mean go crazy!! Give them about 3 m and m's.
7. Set the timer for 1/2 hour
8. Avoid asking the question "you got to go potty?'
9. Timer goes off- ok! What does that mean junior? Time to go potty again he or she would say, or you say it if they don't
10. repeat process all day long. If they go # 2 in the potty, reward with a handful of m and m's. They are very colorful and kids love them!!

11. Praise praise praise. I do spank my kids for behavior problems such as lying, disobedience, and bad attitudes, but never for having an accident. If there is an accident, clean it up queitly, and don't say much at all. Remind them it's ok, but try to make it in the potty next time, or in your own words.

Good luck!!! Hope this helps you. My girl was potty-trained in two days with the method. Took my 2 1/2 year old son a week. Leave pull-ups on them at night just in case.
p.s. if this doen't work at all, try again in a few months.

( I saw another girl said to have them clean it up, I don't think that's very nice- they have been going in their diaper their whole life, accidents will happen)

Answer 4

Did you get her her own potty? That may be part of the problem.

Assuming you did, the rest is all encouragement.

Does she have any other issues as far as being alone? You might want to think if she is not holding on to her parents a bit too long.

Worse comes to worst you can always try the playdate routine. Find a parent whose child is already potty trained and see if she gets the message. You will be amazed how early that trick will work on a child.

Answer 5

First of all, DON'T use food or treats as a reward, this can later down the road lead to eating disorders.
My youngest girl was the same way, refused to train.
I printed up a potty chart and let her pick out some stickers from the dollar store.
Everytime she went potty, she got to put a sticker on the chart, and when the chart was full, she got to put it up on her wall.
After a while, she just got used to going potty.
I also brought her in every half an hour to use the bathroom.
And if you are still using them, get rid of the diapers/pull ups, they encourage kids to use them instead of the potty.

Answer 6

Four years old is quite old for a child to NOT be potty trained.

I would first bribe or blackmail her. In other words, reward her when she does use the bathroom ( I would give my kids a gummy bear or a couple of m and m's)and secondly blackmail her.
When my daughter who was three was not potty trained, I told her she would not be allowed in preschool. She never peed or pooped her pants again.
Barring that not working, if she is NOT remaining dry at night, I would bring her to the doctor to make sure there is no anatomical problem with her bladder.

Answer 7

enable right here %. out her own NEW vast lady panties. advantages right here with some thing she loves (different than nutrition) if she gets potty knowledgeable alongside the way supply her some thing in the direction of that super advantages. My daughters well-known issues have been stickers on the time, so I made a board the place she ought to placed her stickers on it every time she used the potty. If she used the potty all day with out injuries she have been given 2 stickers on the tip of the day. interior 2 weeks wee have been going primary with out injuries and he or she ought to placed on her vast lady panties and have been given a sparkling infant doll. do no longer PUNISH HER whilst SHE does not USE THE POTTY, this purely pushes her further removed from it. All this is an accident so cope with it as such.

Answer 8

take her to the toliet when ur out and tell her to go after u, make it fun and not a big deal un till after she goes then shower her with praise.. be consistant get her big girl knickers of her choice and take her to the loo regulary and give her treats as praise....she does know at the age of four not to wee in her nappy she is nearly starting school so u need to nip it in the bud. start afreash dont get annoyed at her lots of attention for the good stuff and no attention for the bad.

just think if 15 month children can do it she can.

good luck

Answer 9

She will be starting kindergarten soon, so she needs to know how to go on her own. Refrain from yelling at her. That just scares her, and she knows that she needs to learn so she is upset, frusterated, and embarrassed already. Don't add yelling and stress. But "big girl" underwear on her and tell her that she has to tell her that if she goes potty in her big girl panties that she will have to put a diaper on. She needs to tell you when she has to go.

Answer 10

Give her time. She will not go in the potty until she is ready. You will only get frustrated if you try and make her