how do i stop my 3yr old shouting?

Question

We have had her hearing tested but she will not talk only shout

Answer 1

i thought i was the only parent saying to my three year old SHUT UP AND TALK DONT SHOUT!!!!!!!!! do you know i think it is just a phase!!!!!!!! I HOPE...

Answer 2

Have you tried the I won't answer you until you lower your voice. Just ignore it, until she starts talking at a normal volume. Have you considered how loud the rest of you are, and the reasons why she may feel the need to shout? If she's 3 you should be able to have a decent conversation with her, and find out why she shouts.

Answer 3

1. The moment after she starts shouting: put her somewhere where there is no family. Like the home entrance hall. She may NOT return the living room UNTIL she promises she'll stop shouting. The moment she starts shouting again: goto 1. In a few weeks it's over. Be consistent.

First, you might want to remove the breakable things in the entrance hall or replace them with unbreakable things. In Holland we have soft 'anti stress balls'. They can do no harm, you might want to put one of those in the hall.

The door to the living room might need a new paint job, after the few weeks.

Note: hitting won't help (as far it's not illegal), and the kid will hit her kids in future.

Answer 4

My son is three and he shouts most of the time. There is nothing wrong with his hearing because we just had it checked two days ago, so it must be a phase. Yelling or shouting back at him isn't going to help him learn not to do this so I speak to him in normal tones.

Answer 5

Do you respond to her when she shouts?

Perhaps try only answering her when she speaks to you. If she shouts say 'you do not need to shout, ask me quietly' if she doesnt simply walk away and dont answer.

Very frustrating for both of you and will take a lot of will power but should work

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Answer 6

Make her sit in a corner for a while or take away a favourite toy etc but make absolutely sure she understands you are doing it in response to her unacceptable shouting. When the discipline incidence/period is over re assure her that you love her and that you are unhappy only with her shouting i.e. you are not unhappy with her only her shouting.

Answer 7

Feeling angry and upset at times is natural and acceptable, so let your child know this.
Acknowledge their feelings, but set limits: "I know you feel angry, but I don’t want to see any hitting; biting; shouting or swearing."
Watch for triggers. Are there particular events that set your child off? If you start to see when, you can sometimes work out why.
If children see problems solved with raised voices or fists, they learn to follow suit. If you want to stop a child being violent, you may first have to address what is happening around them.
Learn how to diffuse an angry situation. Lower your voice instead of shouting and look them in the eye.
Talk with and listen to your child when they’re calm. Look at why they might be feeling bad before looking at what they may do to control their behaviour.
You can’t wave a magic wand and vanish away a child’s unhappy feelings. What you can do is help them learn how to manage what they do about them. So encourage them to say, "I feel angry/left out/put down", instead of hitting out.
Get help for yourself. Children are often upset when they see their family having problems. You can ring Parentline Plus, free, on tel: [phone] or ask your own GP for someone to talk to or visit www.relate.org.uk.
It isn’t easy loving or showing affection for a child who is being hurtful. But they need to be shown that they are acceptable. Separate who they are from what they do by saying, "I love you and always will, but I don’t love what you’re doing."
Be positive and praise them when they do well. Blaming, shaming, or punishing children can make them feel worse about themselves and so even more aggressive.
Coping with a potentially violent child is very challenging and no parent should expect to have to do this alone.

Answer 8

She might be doing it for attention... Buy you can play the whisper game, where you go around and use the "inside voice" all day or at least for 30 min. If that does not work then maybe you should get her ears checked... this works to: Have here pretend she is a radio or a T.V. and teach her how to turn her volume down. Children love to pretend.

Answer 9

Try putting your hand over her mouth to make funny noises. Don't close your hand but just kind of pat her mouth like a drum until she laughs. Maybe this will help her to modulate her voice. And while you are having her checked out, you might as well have her nasal cavity checked out as well. There is a central nerve connection between the eyes ears and nose that could be impacted by too much nasal pressure.

Answer 10

i have worked with kids in creche that talk like this. keep saying dont shout at me/use indoor voice/turn away when they shout. most kids just do this as normal BUT can speak quieter if they are trained to. most do know the difference if it is always pointed out.

Answer 11

do you shout at her ? if the answer is no then explain you will not be able to answer her question if she shouts, also when you speak to her do you bring yourself down to her level when you speak to her when you are telling her somthing she willlearn you dont have to shout to get attention. good luck