I've never had boys in my family, so I don't know how they act when they're little. Can anyone tell me y my 1 and 1/2 yr son is such a sissy? He clings to me almost non stop, if I leave him upstairs in the bedroom with his dad to get him a drink or something, he has a tantrum because i left, when his dad takes him out just dad and son, if he meets a stranger, he cries for mommy. Why is this? are all little boys like this? like I said, I have no brothers nor cousins or anything that r boys and this is bugging me. The worst part, I'm starting to like snuggling with him, ect. I'm closest with him than my other two(I have a 3 1/2 girl and a 10 month girl)
2006-07-30 00:22:49 · 20 answers · asked by threecatsfamily 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i'm getting a lot of frowns for calling him a sissy! I don't mean it meanly, I love him to pieces! I just worry that it will be a problem later on because i tend to not encourage it, but I don't tell him to stop it, u know? when he gets all glingy, i do pick him up and kiss am sooth him and i'm just wondering if i'm doing the wrong thing.
2006-07-30 00:37:14 · update #1
colleen don't yell at me- I'm not mean to him about it and i never make fun of him or actually call him names. you need to calm down a little and understand that i have 3 kids under 4 and it's hard enough without one always clinging to my leg!
2006-07-30 00:39:45 · update #2
NO! Give him plenty of hugs now while you can. Little boys need just as much mom time as your two girls do. He isn't a sissy, he is just little and is at that phase that he doesn't understand that when you leave you are coming right back.
To help him out with that when you do leave the room ignore the tantrums. Tell him softly (so he has to pipe down and listen) that you are coming right back. Do what you need to do and come back, give him a hug and go about your routine.
When they get older you have society telling them they aren't supposed to be "momma's boys" and therefore aren't supposed to be close to you. Already my seven year old thinks a hug from mom is a death sentence.
Good luck to you!
2006-07-30 00:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Guided 4 · 13⤊ 3⤋
You son isn't a sissy...and what a mean thing for you to say! Your son right now is suffering from something even FEMALE babies suffer from...stranger anxiety. Where the only person in the world they want to be with is mommies. It has nothing to do with him being a "sissy". I can't even imagine a parent calling their child such a name, how horrible for that poor child. All I can think of is that this poor child's mother is mighty immature. Take some parenting classes, you desperately need them.
2006-07-30 07:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a two brothers so I think I can help. I know that they are both really big babies. I think it might have something to do with how guys are naturally wimpier than girls - not really, but sometimes they are. My older brother was really shy when we were little. I was always the bossy spokesperson and he used to do everything I ordered him to do. My younger brother was really clingy, like your son, and he would cry when my mom took him to preschool. She would have to stay with him or not make him go. I think it has something to do with being afraid Mommy won't come back. It is also just wanting to spend time with Mommy. And it is normal for moms and their kids to have closer relationships than dads and their kinds. I know my dad didn't (and still doesn't) know what to do with himself around us (my brothers, my sister, and me). I wouldn't worry too much about it. Enjoy the cuddling while you can because there will be a time when he pushes you away!
2006-07-30 07:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kitkat Bar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello, i have a 3 1/2 year old boy and a 2 year old girl... i noticed when my boy was around one year of age, he was really clingy too. they do this because they need to be secure. before you leave the bedroom to get him a drink try to explain to him that you are going to get him some milk in his cup and you will be coming back to see him.. another question do you stay home with him since birth ? this will have a big impact on him as well. i was a stay at home mom until this past march... i had problems in the beginning when i had to leave for work he didn't want me to go. but i told him what i was going to do and when i was going to come home, i would also have to call him when i was at work and tell him i was at work and almost done and will be comeing home soon.. he will get over it, you just need to let him know what you are going to be doing and where you are going and when you will return. i hope this helps and good luck
2006-07-30 07:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by littlechicky_82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have four boys and two grandsons. Not a girl in the bunch! My youngest son is very close to me. I think it just depends on the child. Were you able to spend more time with your son than your girls? Or, he may just be the one who needs your closeness the most. I don't think this makes him a sissy- keep snuggling and enjoy this time. One day you'll wonder where that little "momma's boy" went!
2006-07-30 07:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 older brothers. and at the end of the day, he is just a 1 1/2 year old baby. Kids are all different, and just because he's a boy doesnt mean he's going to be a wuss or gay. He's just a baby.
2006-07-30 07:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by DebS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite normal for boys to attach themselves to their mother at first and girls to attach themselves to their father at first. And there is nothing wrong with you enjoying the attention. It would be wrong if you didn't. Be happy for this time while you have it. Soon you'll have the terrible twos and it is all up hill from there. BTW, him being a middle child may have something to do with this as well. He may be jealous of the baby girl. Give that a thought.
2006-07-30 07:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l have 3 wonderful childern.2 girls and then l had my wonderful son.l to don't have alot of males in my family.Anything that l had learnt about girls l had to chuck out the window,because boys are a different kettle of fish.Your lilltle boy sounds as if he is a very sensitive and caring boy, you should embrace that. Your are a very lucky women to have such a wonderful son, you should be proud of yourself for raising a sensitive and caring boy.
2006-07-30 08:32:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two boys and they are both very attached to their mommy. I think it's totally normal and nothing to worry about. Keep doing what you're doing and give him all the hugs he wants. You'll end up with a very secure little boy who loves his mommy. Nothing wrong with that!
2006-07-30 08:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by brainchild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not altogether unusual...and I caution you mightily about being closer to the middle child. His tantrums need to be addressed. When the child cries for attention, do not immediately console or pick him up. When he is in tantrum mode, he needs to learn that behavior is unacceptable. He is NOT too young to start time out. Just start with very small increments. DO NOT REWARD THE BEHAVIOR YOU WISH TO ALTER. And be consistent.
I wish you all luck, dear one.
2006-07-30 07:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋