When does a request to complete a task (by my wife) stop becoming a request and becomes nagging instead?

Answer 1

She wouldn't have to ask more than once if you just did it the first time.

Answer 2

End of nagging is hearing the first time and making a choice whether you want to do it now or never, procrastination is just an age-old delay tactic applied by men all over the world just because they can’t bring themselves to be assertive, and say what they feel, yes or no, the first time.

To bring change you just have to pay attention the very first time, make a choice whether you want to do it or not, if not then say it right away politely but not without giving a reason and then never argue over it.

This way she will realize that nagging wont work and that she no longer needs to nag to get something done in the household.
We feel that if we ignore her enough she wont ask again, but women who run the household cant do without your help in the domestic arena, so reach out yourself and help once in while, and say no politely and with a firm reason when you don’t want to.

Though if your wife does all the work around the household she would end up being tired, frustrated or irritated and of course resentful and gradually she will withdraw emotionally from you so when the time comes to consummate your marriage she will hardly to be turned on by the guy who ignored her the whole day, a want her when he needs she, she will use this opportunity to get back at you or simply would be too tired emotional, physically for it. That is why as household grow, the sexual health of a many marriages decline.

Beware.

Don’t say yes when you want to say no, and when you say yes, keep your word.

Answer 3

Are you serious? You had to ask this question on yahoo to try and resolve it in your mind? Think about it. It's obvious to me that your wife probably has been asking you for weeks or maybe months to get something done. Now did you do it? If you didn't honor her request when she asked, and the task is still waiting on you then I think she has every right to turn her request into a nag. I advise you to get started fulfilling her request because asking questions on your computer ain't getting the job done. Now if you enjoy nagging then just keep those questions coming. If you love your wife, and want life at home to be sweet then finish the darn task!

Answer 4

If you gave her an accurate time for completion of the task then any regular reminders would be nagging. Try to suggest to get the requests in writing and put up on the notice board. When task is complete then put a black line through task.
Good luck.

Answer 5

It is nagging when the reason to ask to do something only reflects your wife's opinion about you. When she thinks you are no good or she's offended somehow, it's nagging. In that case she should talk about her feelings, not nag.

If the request is just about the request, then there must be a good reason for it. Then you should sharpen your mind and do it if it's ok for you to do it, if not, then explain why not and she will understand.

Answer 6

You abviously didn´t read the small print in your marriage vows, our version of in minute usually means when we have nothing better to do we´ll get round to it, however because women actually exist in a different space time continuum, they percieve the passage of time differently to us.

Therefore any tasks not completed immediately turn into a nagging situation cos they slipped into their own realm when we were´nt looking.

Unfortunately you can´t do a damn thing about it.

They also have a different perception of reality and that one is even worse than the whole space/time thing.
Example ( and please feel free to use this to warn other unsuspecting males)

I was out shopping with my ex(thank god I saw the light...) wife.
She was admiring some over-priced piece of scrolled metal junk for holding glass bells, and asked me what I thought, TRICK QUESTION !!!!!!!! it was a trap and when I made the mistake of saying I could make it myself and better, I had to follow througfh on the promise or face the whole NAG NAG NAG experience, but even worse than that, all her friends liked them so much my free time and lunch breaks for the next two weeks were spent making C.rappy scroll work stands for her friends.

The moral of the tale is simple really: If you do what you´re told straight away they expect it straight away all the time, if you take your time they nag but at least the pressure is off and their expectations of you will ease off, only for a little while but it´s still worth it.

The other alternative is also simple, Buy ear-plugs and put your feet up.

They will only ever be happy when they have something to nag about, and if they had nothing to nag about they´d only complain about that too !!!!!!!

Answer 7

Simple. The moment you think it stopped sounding like a request and turned into a nag. It's all relative depending on your and her mood. My wife has just told me off for doing the washing yesterday without powder in the machine. I did put powder in the machine, and therefore this was nagging because she nagged first without asking me. God bless 'em. We'd miss it if it stopped (I think)!!!

Answer 8

When you hear the voice become higher and strained and she's speaking through gritted teeth after asking you more than 3 times. When a woman asks a man to do something it is bliss when they do it as soon as possible, because usually they have waited in the first place to see if it would be done without having to ask.

Answer 9

Your wife does not have to nag, if you have volunteer to perform the task in the first place.

Answer 10

that depends on how long you put it off. If you complete the task she won't have to ask again and will never have to "nag" you at all!

Answer 11

When you don't complete the task in a timely manner or have to be asked over and over again!