Can you list the pros and cons of couples living together before marriage? Is it better to live together before marriage? Why ? If no, then why not?
2006-07-29 23:01:10 · 8 answers · asked by Strawberry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand, that religion makes it harder for people to move in with their significant other before marriage...and that is not what I am asking...I do not want to know about who's religion says yes or no to moving in together. What I want to know is the good side and the bad side of moving in together.
2006-07-29 23:41:29 · update #1
dating a person and living with is totally different.
good things.....
they're always there for you
you get a preview of what it's like being married to them
you get to see the real person
bad things........
you might not like certain things they do
you might get into arguments about the house
chores might become a problem
you might not be as close to them
2006-07-29 23:09:34 · answer #1 · answered by shabana0903 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is all bad. Shacking goes against the bible and regardless of what most people say, of COURSE you can know someone before and without living with them. Anyhow, are we RETARDED? Can't we just unconditionally love someone enough to commit the rest of our lives with them without controllingly (is that a word?) knowing everything about them. That may seem wise but truth be told, you should be able to communicate and observe everything through courtship. THAT BEING SAID, I shacked twice, much to my Mamma's, Daddy's and Grandparents dismay and married the second guy. I see how it HURT and didn't help at all our relationship. Living together goes against God. It is only for after the vows are exchanged.
Pros ~ knowledge of good and evil which we weren't supposed to have anyway
~ you know whether the other person takes out the garbage or not or you could just ASK
~ you may get a little help with the rent or mortgage
~ you don't have to be alone in the dark anymore
Cons ~ They're ALL cons, honey
2006-07-29 23:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by Sleek 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it's probably the best way to workout if a couple is really compatible, the chance is that if the relationship does not have what it takes to survive it would disintergrate and end without the added trouble of going through a divorce.
there is a downside, especially if the couple have a really conservative background. in this case there is bound to be an element of guilt which could tarnish the relationship or even end it. Also some cultures just can't accept this arrangement on moral grounds.
lastly there is the possiblity that one of the partners could just be used for sex, or for money only to be dumped even after several years.
Advice. tread very carefully!!!
2006-07-29 23:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by ndaoyo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There some undesirable issues approximately shifting in with one yet another. people who pass in jointly before marriage have a tendency to break up. heavily. the single time I did it I broke up with the female after some weeks with the aid of fact it lifted "the veil" on how she fairly lived her life, and emotional breakdowns behidn closed doors, etc. i be responsive to quite a few different people who moved in before marriage and it additionally ended up badly. traditionally, people who stay jointly before they get marrried have a tendency to attend longer until they actually do get married. with the aid of fact why get married once you already stay jointly? countless the inducement is long previous with the two one or in keeping with possibility the two persons. i'm no longer asserting it could no longer and could no longer artwork out with you 2 shifting in jointly, besides the undeniable fact that it is going to heavily project the relationship in strategies you have never thought, specially being with the aid of fact there is not any long term dedication
2016-11-03 07:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good.
1. they know each other well b4 marriage
2. they learn to stay together co operating
3. their house is well settled
bad,
1. if they get kids b4 marriage & they decide not to get married kids may suffer
2. the craze of marriage gets over
3.marriage becomes a mere formality as the sexual life no more matters
2006-07-29 23:26:29 · answer #5 · answered by faizlokhan007 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i can only think of the pros : knowing exactly what kind of a man are you going to tie your life to ; seeing if during a long period of time spent together , your private spaces don't interfere in a negative way ; does he snore ; does he suck his teeth after eating; is he sloppy or tidy ;does he eat the last piece of chocolate cake in the fridge or does he keep it for you ; can he stand your PMS moods ......
living together before marriage is only for the best for you : it can either complete the two of you as an accomplished couple , or definitely show you that he is not the ONE ...
2006-07-30 00:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by curioasa 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u'l learn 2 discover each other's deeper personality / character when u live 2gether & avoid ending up in divorce once things get really messed up..
jaz make sure u dont get a child under any circumstances
2006-07-30 00:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by 2D1iLuV 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people change, that's a facted!
2006-07-29 23:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋