Domestic, Violence How Can We Destroy?

Question

Hi,

Just need your opinion,

Thank-you.

Answer 1

I think the following ways are needed to destroy domestic violence:
1. Better schools and better parents - neither of which there is a silver bullet for. I think that the respect of women in today's society is not nearly where it should be. I have too many female friends who walk down the streets of NYC and are constantly cat-called at. This isn't something a guy picks up randomly, this is a behavior that is taught by some other guy on how to act. Parents (especially fathers) need to set an example for their children. Schools/teachers need to have a zero tolerance policy on fighting and on verbal abuse. (Sure we're all going to have a bad nickname or teasing, but there should be a hard and fast line that shouldn't be crossed).

2. More information on places that can help. Women, as early as high school or college should be told about places/institutions that can help if ever they encounter such a situation. Information is power and giving women an option other than a) taking the abuse or b) going to the street is crucial.

Answer 2

Domestic Violence has no cure. The only solution is to lock men or woman up that are violent. If they are a repeat offender...throw away the key! Next the victims need counseling. I was raised in an abusive home. My father was verbally, sexually and physically abusive. By the time I married I excepted that was part of life. My first husband was abusive. I actually told him, "You can hit me but, not the children!" Eventually he went after one of my children. What saved my life was a shelter for battered women and children. I lived there for 30 days and got daily counseling. They gave me guidance and made me realize it's not alright!
I broke the cycle of abuse in my family. Abused women and children feel there is no way out. I think there should be classes in school to educate our youth. Teach them what abuse is! So many people do not see verbal abuse as a real form of abuse. Usually physical abuse begins with verbal and then accelerates. They should teach our children zero tolerance! More often then not the abused become abusers. There is not enough counseling offered to guide victims in the right direction.
Again, the punishment needs to be harder! How many times have you read that a person found guilty of murder had a long history of domestic violence?

Answer 3

Domestic Violence. The silent violence of the real world.

Answer 4

First step might be to get away from thoughts of destruction.

Second I have to wonder which you wanted to destroy first. You listed both Domestic and Violence.

Answer 5

Violence is normally caused by frustration and also they way we have been brought up.
You will also find that violence is normally bred into us as children, often with the mother smacking and shouting in order to maintain a level of obedience.
Once the smacking has a steady progression then the child will assume that it is normal. When they reach adulthood then they are faced with the Law.
So, what we are brought up with is not acceptable in our society.
It is therefore upto parents, such as myself, to look at life differently to the way were raised.

Answer 6

domestic voilence is the hardest thing to talk about to any 1 especially when u go thru it, its like ur forbidden to mention ur guy hits u cos thats another reason to deserve a bashing....i was in domestic violence for 18 yrs, with 3 different partners, but the last 1 was mostly verbal abuse, still a form of violence and in my honest opinion the WORST FORM as bruises heal, but bein abused verbally and mentally takes alot of years to heal... being told ur worth less, ugly, fat, useless as a woman, it all gets to u and b4 long ur believing it all...is hard to explain unless u been thru it, but i was smart enough to escape it...in the end, and now i help alot of friends thru theirs...no guy (or girl) has the right to control u, u have the power to stop it, and u sometimes just need the strength to take the 1st step is all... ppl say i deserved it cos i didnt leave straight away but its hard, especially when u believe ur at fault when ur not...there should be tougher laws on domestic voilence... apprehended voilence orders these days r not worth the paper they r written on, my ex's all walk thru them...the only safe way is to re-educate them... make them see what they r doing, especially when kids r involved...

Answer 7

Like one of the readers said if were that easy to answer we wouldn't have a problem. But my opinion is that 1st of all we need education, the law doesn't take it serious enough. Some one as die as a result it's not fair. Chances are there are children involved and are left motherless and fatherless because she is dead and he final goes to jail, for a little while. I also think that it comes from upbringing, if they have crappy parents pretty much they will become crappy parents as well. Churches need to get involved more not just asking for money all the time. For women they need to check out their partner very carefully it will take money and time but it is worth it. I wish I would have.

Answer 8

By picking our partners more carefully.
By treating our partners with the same respect we would like them to treat us.
By not marrying / living with someone 'exciting'.
By remembering that men can be victims too.
By locking up those who do it and the authorities and neighbours not turning a blind eye.
By encouraging religious leaders to teach respect for women, and not painting them as vile temptresses.
Erm, out of ideas sorry. I adore my wife and would rather die than lay a finger on her.

Answer 9

People I have seen with those issues seem to be stuck in a vicious cycle of abuse (male or female).It usually takes a help shelter or somebody that has been through that to stop it .If left on their own they keep making the same mistake. (some people aren't happy until they are sad.)

Answer 10

the laws need to be changed. in the uk most abusers walk free from court to continue their violence. injunctions are ignored and police do little to enforce them. granted they are a busy force so i guess we need to bring the issue to the fore and speak more openly about it. education, education, education.