How do you feel about your partner talking online to people of the opposite sex?

Question

My SO has been talking to this girl in India, and I was okay with it until I noticed he's looking up "nude Indian girls" and he has nicer things to say about her than me. I know, she lives in India. He's not going to leave me to go halfway around the planet. But I'm jealous all the same, even if he says they are just friends. What do you guys think, is he being unfaithful or am I just crazy?

Answer 1

I would be fine if they told me about it. In a way it's unfaithful, he probably talks dirty to her, because of the "nude indian girls" thing. I'd leave him, you don't need the stress.

Answer 2

As long as it doesn't change the way he's treating you and loving you then I guess it's okay. But the moment he starts talking to her more than you and telling her things he ought to tell you, then you definitely have the right to tell him off. He doesn't have to go to India for him to be unfaithful.
It's alright to be jealous. I'd feel the same if I were in your position. But I also think that working through this situation would definitely be a positive point in your relationship.

Answer 3

I know three people who left their spouse and children and went around the world to someone they met on the internet, so I would not discount that as "impossible." With that said, it sounds like it's time for you to have an open and honest discussion with him. It's one thing to have an online pal of the opposite sex. It's another to compliment her and search for nude photos of women from her culture. The only way to know where things are is to get it out on the table. Good luck.

Answer 4

I don't like your husband's behaviour a bit. I mean, why does he have to have an online friend woman? A friend of mine was like in your situation; her husband was supposedly talking about history, anthropology and other serious staff... the truth is that they broke up because this gay got hook up with this woman. I'm not saying that this is your case, just that you have reasons to be worried. Ask him why he needs to have a girl friend online when he as one at home, and also tell him that this situation is affecting you. If he doesn't stop, just tell him that you are going to do the same. I'm sure that when you find one, your husband won't be happy. It is probable that he just wants to boost his ego by chatting with this girl, but he shouldn't be doing so at the expense of yours. Take care!

Answer 5

I dont think any communications online should interfere with real relationships. It may be innocent and he is just excited about the new connection, but he also needs to be respectful of your feelings, regardless if he thinks they are warranted or not. I definitely wouldnt appreciate him saying better things or thinking better of someone else. That isnt so much cheating as being disrespectful and that also hurts people. Talk to him, if he isnt going to be compassionate about your feelings, than I say drop him.

Answer 6

Yes, I would be jealous. Just tell him. I have told my husband that I don't like girls calling him even though they were girls from work. They were calling him everyday. I told him and he told them not to call so much. He also introduced me to them and I got over that. Talking on the Internet is taking time away from your relationship. I would put an end to it now.

Answer 7

bein unfaithful comes in many forms, and cyber sex IS 1 of them, u have every right to be jealous hun, every damn right under the sun, is just as bad talking and flirting with some 1 of the opposite sex, even though there is no physical contact its STILL being unfaithful, put an end to it hun b4 it becomes like half a dozen girls, it happens so easily....i get jealous when my b/f adds females to his list, so...i just told him, we talked about it, hes half way round the world and we plan to be together b4 xmas, trust is a big issue in a relationship and i trust him alot, cos he told me, asked me, b4 he added a female to his list, eventhough i said i didnt like it, he respected my wishes and took her off...might sound bitchy to some, but its called give and take....in return i took all the guys i had on my list off after we got together....is ok to have good friends and family, but is best to leave temptation outta arms reach and compromise...talk to him...tell him it upsets u...is silly to put up with it...tc : )

Answer 8

I would be furious! I would kick his a$$... I'm sorry, I got a little over excited there. Back to your question, it's possible that it's just something platonic but if you don't feel comfortable with it you should tell him and he has to respect you and end that "friendship". Ask him how he would feel if you had the same relationship with a hot Italian guy.

Answer 9

if you know about it, its harmless. if he is requesting her pics nude or otherwise it isn't the best. but if she just has them up and he sees them no biggie. its not right for a man to watch a movie once in a blue moon, or look at pics. bc Gf's will get pissed jealousy or eww over it :o) yet gfs can play w/a a shower head or vibe whenever, and its no big thing to them. (me either, but they don't like me looking at a movie even once a month was too much) most say bc they feel inadequate to the women in porn. yeah and avg c*ck is 3feet long, in porn too.

Answer 10

well i know where you are comin from cause my husband is the same way--he cant stand me talking to other men on here--but look,im bein serious ok im not tryin to be a *****,but its like i tell him its not like you can f*** them thru the keyboard ok it will only go as far as you want it to go--thats the key to it all--if he loves you so i wouldnt worry bout it to much he is just havin fun like i do--its fun to chat wit different people in different places from where you live-- i have bout 10 or so chat males from india--it is nice to chat wit them but that is all nothin else--its ok dont stress to much its just chattin