my daughter is 5 years old.?

Question

My daughter is 5 years old. She had been in very stress since my wife had been so much querelling , but over the period of time she left me and my daughter with my mother. But after sometime she came and realised that she has commited wrong and came with us.
But problem now is my baby though she is very active and intelligent she gets scared easiliy. Even her school teachers reports the same. She is very learnive but when asked to speak something she gets scared that somebody would beat her.
I request all friends that kindly suggest some games or some therapies to resolve this as of now we both ( me and wife ) are trying to give her best what she has lost.

Answer 1

1. See a physician and a family counselor as soon as possible.
2. Keep you daughter's world perfectly stable and structured until she's well. No missed meals. No food that she does not like. 8-9 hours of sleep each night. Stay home. Don't separate for very long.
3. Absolutely NO MORE quarreling in your daughter's presence.
4. No adult visitors for awhile in your home.
5. Reduce noise. No loud music. No loud voices, except hers.
6. Stay with her by her bed until she goes to sleep. Sing softly or read quietly to her.
7. Reassure her. But, do not over-do it. Be matter-of-fact and rational.
8. Absolutely NO violence. Do not even kill a fly or yell in anger at someone on the road when your daughter is present. No disturbing TV or other entertainment.
9. Watch her more closely. Don't let her get scared or frustrated or lonely while she is not well.
10. Stay well-groomed. Do not appear sloppy, hopeless, sad, confused, drugged or drunk around her.
11. Let her play and be with good friends when she wants.
12. Encourage her to talk and draw and sing about what she is feeling.
13. Listen to her. Get to know HER better, her dreams, favorite color, favorite dinosaur, etc.
14. Make a cheerful change or improvement in her surroundings. For example, clean up an alley, paint her room, make a bookcase, plant some flowers, etc.
15. Let her hold and play with babies and baby animals. (It's a wholesome girl thing)
16. When she is better, empower her. Teach her how to be braver and how to cope in healthy ways. Increase her confidence with knowledge and self-sufficiency skills. Teach her how to use the computer.
17. Send her to day school.
18. Write a family Constitution together. Discuss your values and goals. Aim high and hopeful. Create a family vision that you would all be better with.
19. Remember: A little girl is one of the most fragile, delicate creatures on the planet, physically, emotionally, spiritually. If you are as tough as a tree, and your wife is as tough as wheat, a little girl is as tough as a green blade of grass. Tread lightly.

Answer 2

I'm a primary teacher and have taught reception for 8 years. I have also been acting head for 2 years. I find this totally unacceptable and if I had a parent coming to me with this problem I'd have taken direct action immediately and ensured that the problem never happened again. I find it amazing that the children are not supervised closely enough to let it happen in the first place as every school I have worked in, children's toilets and unstructured times such as lunch and play are usually where staff are most vigilant. There are a number of avenues you can take though - you can speak to the LEA yourself and make a complaint and also contact the head of govenors/ parent govenor for your school - this will mean your complaint will have to be dealt with and external forces will act on your behalf within the school. Good luck and act now because as you are aware the foundation years are so important to how your child will progress through school

Answer 3

Sorry, your English is a little hard to understand. I hope I'm answering what you wanted to know. I suggest you take her to a child psychologist AS SOON as you can. Even though you never hit her, she now associates anger with something physical. If it's affecting her in school then you know it is bad.
Please take her to a Child Psychologist as soon as you can. It's the best thing you can do for her. Hug her a lot, don't fight in front of her (no matter how small) and tell her you love her all day.

Answer 4

Did your wife abuse her as a child? maybe you should take her to councelling they should have something at her school for it? i dont know anything else that would resolve that!

Answer 5

SOMEONE MUST HAVE BEEN BEATING HER IM NOT SAYING YOU ARE BUT IT'S NOT USUAL FOR HER TO GET SCARED

Answer 6

what your saying would make a lot more sense if everyone was high.

Answer 7

children are resilient - don't worry

Answer 8

nothing will happen