I have a friend that ive known for a few years now. He's 20 and im 21. I told him a year ago that i liked him. He never really took me seriously. I still love him and we talk often. Its hard for me to hear his voice anymore because of the way i feel about him. I try talking to him about this but he changes the subject. I really love this guy! He's helped me thru a lot of things. He's not a bad guy, he's just afraid of his feelings. What can i do to help him see that we could be together??? I need him!!!
2006-07-29 22:17:16 · 13 answers · asked by daddysgirl85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
reveal your love to him sencerely
2006-07-29 22:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he just shy, or is he involved with someone else? If he's already got a lover, your attention makes him nervous because he does not want to betray her trust. If, on the other hand, he is just shy, you need to take the initiative in subtle ways. Be too obvious and you will scare him, but if you step one little toe across the line between friendship and intimacy, he may accept it.
Of course "toe" is a metaphor here. A kiss on the cheek when you greet him, or when you say goodbye, might be accepted. Then look into his eyes, and see whether you should put another little kiss on his lips. If so, he'll get the idea quick enough!
It is also possible that he is neither shy nor involved with someone else, but that he is looking for someone other than you. You are a year older than him; many boys and young men find that frightening. (One year, you say! Oh, yes; if he prefers younger girls, even one year older would put you out of the range for him.)
But forget this thing that you "need" him. You need a good relationship, yes. And you would like it to be with him. But as I am sure you have heard by now, it takes two to tango. If he is just not interested, move on.
2006-07-30 05:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself is the best way to win any heart. Don't pretend, don't overdo, don't chase him, don't obsess with him. You should read the book "He is not that into you", which is really helpful to check if the guy is interested in you or not; go to any public library and you can peruse it. This man knows that you like him as a man, and he obviously likes you as a friend but he doesn't want to go beyond, whatever the reason is. If he is not prepared to face his own feelings, don't waste your time sis. You deserve someone who, despite being afraid of his feelings, wants to be wiith you and will do anything to win your heart, not the other way round.
2006-07-30 05:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself; maybe dating isn't what he looks at you like. Quite possibly you could be a sister or really special person which an relationship could destroy. And maybe if its meant to be, keep saying special things to him, or write him a poem about how you feel and give it to him. If its meant to be it'll work out, and if its not meant to be things will step in the way. But just be grateful to have him as a close friend. But good luck
2006-07-30 05:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by Stay-funny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down girl! He will come around on his own when he is ready.
If you have told him how you feel and he isn't responding the way you want him to, he may not be ready. Maybe he likes having you for a friend,and he isn't looking for a long term commitment right now.
Have you ever heard"anything worth having is worth waiting for"?
2006-07-30 05:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell him how you fell inside ,
I know it's scary in sometimes because you don't know what he is going to think about what you said.You try your best and never give up on your hopes,
and this might not help but as long as you feel comfortable what you say nothing can go wrong.
2006-07-30 05:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by jovi_poohbear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know who said that of "To win a man's heart comes through winning his stomach..." Well, it doesn't have anything to do with the question.
You should be direct, I guess. Tell him how in love you are and ask for a yes or no.
2006-07-30 06:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is nothing can show the love .. if you wanna wait perhaps u can win but perhaps u cant win too .. at this time the reality in front of you is '' time is only medicine of all problems'' be with love ..
2006-07-30 05:24:23 · answer #8 · answered by kedi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't see you that way. Move on. And stop being codependent. You shouldn't want him to love you because you need him. That's very unhealthy.
2006-07-30 05:21:01 · answer #9 · answered by lindakb24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you don't need anybody to be who you are. Ask him one more time of he would like to have a relationship with you. If he doesn't, move on.
2006-07-30 05:23:02 · answer #10 · answered by D baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way to his heart starts at his belly button and goes south from their cause if your giving he's gonna be getting
2006-07-30 10:48:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋