Guys, do you like to pay for the girl when you're on a date? What would you do if she offered or insisted?
Girls, do you ever ask to pay? Would you rather the gay pay or not?
I'm asking because my bf thinks it's weird i try to pay all the time. (We both have low budgets and I don't want him to have the pressure of going to work and spending it all on me! I personally have no problem paying, but he don't like the idea because he's very traditional. What do you think?)
2006-07-29 21:49:11 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
We've been together for nearly two years, but have known each other for a long time. We're good friends. It really doesn't matter who pays, but he and I always both insist.
2006-07-30 07:10:17 · update #1
i like to pay especially if i am asking the girl out. I also use it as a sign of whether i want to keep dating the person or not. if a girl that i have been dating for a while refuses to offer to pay then i get insulted because it is a sign that she just wants to be taken care of not not an even part of the relationship. i would suggest to offer to buy the meal before you get to the retaurant because i know that i more than likely wont let a girl pay when the bill hits the table. if he doesnt go for offering to pay before you get to the restaurant then offer to cook hime dinner. that way you are sure to pay for the meal. if he is a good guy he will still bring something like wine to complement the meal.
2006-07-30 01:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by rayce92 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If the guys insist then let them. But seeing as you both have low budgets, he also needs to understand sometimes that you feel weird having him pay for everything. yes, its the gentleman thing to do, but let him know (if you haven't already) that there are times when you also want to treat him, and he doesn't always have to treat you unless he REALLY wants to. I'm not implying that he should stop treating you now because you make the offer, but once in a while tell him you want to treat him. So offer to pay with the abovementioned reason.
2006-07-30 04:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by Engela van der Walt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he insists on paying like other people said pay the tip, or split it a different way. If you go to dinner and a movie and he wants to pay for dinner tell him you'll get the movie tickets, or if you're just at the movie and he gets the tickets get the popcorn.
When he pays for something tell him ahead of time that you are paying for something else so there is no argument when you get there.
2006-07-30 05:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And thar is the reason why chevarly is dissapearing, some women can't let the guys to be gentlemen!!!
If you feel bad about the dates, do something in return, get him some groceries so he has breakfast in the morning, help him with his laundry, when you come to his apartmente, come with food wither made by you or take out, there are many ways you can reciprocate with him.
If you really can't take he picks all the bills, offer to invite him once in a while, and tell him you expect him to accept your treat, but please, let the man be a gentleman, they are endangered species, the last time I saw one I think it was a dodumental!!
I am not a gold digger, but chevarly maker better men, better partners and in the long run better husbands.
2006-07-30 05:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by esmefort 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rule is: whoever asks the other person out.
However, in your situation, you probably both decide most times, right? Simply split the bill. I understand where you're coming from, but since tradition appears to be important to your bf, please also understand that he is willing to pay the price for it. So compromise with him (so you'll still be helping him out and he'll still feel like he's taking care of you) by going Dutch.
Bonne chance!
2006-07-30 19:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by jodraven03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always offer to pay if I didnt pay the last couple of times. I'll let them know, hey thanks for the dinners last two times, but I have it this time. Let me go ahead and get the bill, and if he wants, he can leave a tip for the waiter/waitress.
Sometimes let him pay though. Don't insist on paying all the time though.
2006-07-30 04:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by Mac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I always pay, and ask my date to leave the tip. That way she is contributing but under much less pressure to come up with money.
2006-07-30 04:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by Not Tellin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person who issued the invitation pays. There is nothing wrong with each of you paying your own portion but discuss it in advance.
2006-07-30 11:57:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to share the expense 50-50. No hassels! Just plain mutual understanding!
2006-07-30 04:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by vkm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the guy...
but i guess whoever asked the other person out must pay...
though not always the case...
i have on many occasions paid even though she asked me out...
2006-07-30 04:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋