Would you stay with your mate if he/she was verbally abusive but then continued to apolgize every time?

Answer 1

no

Answer 2

An apology means noting. You do not need verbal abuse. It breaks down your soul so you are more accepting of other abuse. Do not stay. You are better just doing your thing and being with your friends. Get away from that toad. He is insecure if he does that and takes it out on you in a despirate effort to weaken you so you will not leave. It has the opposite effect because it makes someone leave.
I had a boyfriend do it to me when I was very young. If felt as if I was a butterfly and he was pulling off my wings. They grew back a bit mangled, but I was able to fly again. Crooked, but enough.
Get rid of that toad before it gets worse. You have a chance at a good life. You have to get away from him. It takes time to heal. Perhaps you will be smarter than I was and get some counselling so your are not an emotional basket case for years. It took me years of my life to get better. I am now, but I wasted prime years.

Answer 3

I would try some form of counseling first. You obviously love him/her because you let them apologize and stay. I would try the counseling with the understanding with your mate if he/she doesn't change and this doesn't help, for your own sanity and health, you must leave. Especially if you have children, or better yet, before you have them.

Best of luck. Verbal abuse is almost worse than physical I think. In verbal abuse, no one can see or know the depth of the scars but you.

Answer 4

I have a friend who is verbally abusive when he is drunk (which is quite a lot!) I have continued to be his friend as when sober he is lovely, but l do wonder why l put up with it. When is your friend abusive? Is it when drunk or just generally? I would have words and explain if it continues you will have to take a break from them...this is what l have done

Answer 5

Definitely not. He's obviously not sincere about apologising since he continues to do it. If u let this continue, it may eventually even lead to physical abuse instead of verbal abuse. End the realtionship. Now!

Answer 6

i did for a long time ,there was always somthing for her to be bent out of shape about and she constantly berated me and chalenged every thing i did ,minimized me in front of our friends
i finaly realized that leaving was my only chance to be happy
her response to my leaving was to report me missing ( i asume she figured the police would tell her where i was when they found me) the police did track me down but did not disclose my whereabouts given 1 we were not maried and 2 we have no children together
to protect your sanity leave him

Answer 7

NO i was there been there done that , the only reason he apologizes is to buy time. he doesnt mean it. the reason these people do this is power and control. if you leave who is he going to beat? he already has you "broken in" and doesnt want to have to go to the trouble to train someone else, so when they say " i',m sorry" they dont feel bad and they dont mean it.

Answer 8

The thing is, if someone says Sorry, then they usually don't keep doing the action over and over and over. Because, they aren't sorry, they're just telling you what you want to hear. Run before the next time he kills you and he can't say sorry.

Answer 9

I would say "adios beyach". Once an abuser, always an abuser. Apologizing will not stop them from doing it again, and again, and again.

Answer 10

It's obvious to me this person has issues to deal with. As for me, I would take just so much. Then, I would get up, and not walk away......BUT RUN!! ( as fast as my feet can move)

Answer 11

Help your mate to help himself and talk to him when he is in a good mood, try to change him