2006-07-29 20:22:50 · 28 answers · asked by princess_cristee 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You've gotten a lot of bad answers!
I agree that you should *usually* not give in to your child. What my doctor told me to do when my daughter used to hold her breath (she passed out more than 10 times, including in a store once) was to lay her down so that she would be safe and then leave the room. It is one of the hardest things I have ever done, but it does work.
A 15-month-old is not aware of the fact that she is going to pass out. She *is* aware that her behavior is scaring you, so leaving the room means she is not getting the attention that she wanted and it helps eliminate the behavior.
The most difficult thing to understand is that nothing bad will actually happen to your child if she's lying down at the time (if she isn't, she could fall and get hurt). I still find it hard to see a child holding his or her breath, despite knowing this.
2006-07-29 21:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by IVF Expert 6 · 546⤊ 17⤋
agree with O, let her. When you give her what she wants after she holds her breath, she's seeing that if she does it, she's going to get it from you, therefore making it positive. If you just let her keep going and stay firm, after a few seconds she'll start to breathe by herself again, because face it, she's not going to die from it. The more she see's that it's not helping her get what she wants, she'll gradually stop doing it.
Don't get worred what she does. See how long you can hold your breath beforeyou jsut HAVE to breathe. It'll be the same for her.
2006-07-29 20:29:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 36⤊ 7⤋
Let her hold her breath!
It sounds mean I know, but if you give in, she'll just keep doing it because she knows that is what works. Giving in is the worst thing you can do. So let her hold her breath, she won't hold it so long that it will hurt her, she'll come up for air on her own and when she sees your not going to give in, she'll stop doing it.
Good luck to ya!
2006-07-29 20:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 31⤊ 8⤋
Let her hold it! Come on this one is easy to win she simply can't! Don't even start playing these games or you will have a brat and a half on your hands. She needs to learn right now that she will get what you want to give her no matter what stunts she pulls, unless of course you want to be bullied by a kid your whole life!
2006-07-29 20:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 17⤊ 11⤋
Don't worry, she'll start breathing again on her own. That will take care of itself. Whatever you do, don't give in because that is her reward and they learn very quickly.
Move on and do something else, within eyesight of the child, let her know you love her but her behavior isn't going to work. As she is holding her breath, give her quick hug and say sorry sweetie, the answer is no.
2006-07-29 20:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by chris 5 · 54⤊ 7⤋
By giving her what she wants, you're rewarding that behavior. She is obviously playing you, be the adult and show her who's boss. It's not being mean, or abusive it's being a parent. If at that young she is behaving that way, what about when she's 3 and throws a full blown tantrum in the store, and everyone is looking and judging. Stand up and be a parent. There are some good sites on discipline, look it up. Discipline at this point is really important for the foundations of her life. When I use the word discipline I don't mean beat her, or whatever. It's setting boundaries, and standards of acceptable behavior. Unless you want a problem child, you should handle this situation now before it gets out of hand.
2006-07-29 20:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 46⤊ 12⤋
Call her bluff and wait it out. She cannot control her body's need to automatically gasp for breath. Once she realizes this tactic doesn't work she'll stop and find some other way to manipulate you. That's a whole other problem, but probably the primary one you should be dealing with.
2006-07-29 20:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by Rare Indigo 4 · 52⤊ 13⤋
Let her hold her breath - she will stop if she doesn't get her way.
2006-07-29 23:38:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 33⤊ 19⤋
let her hold her breath...
the worst thing that can happen is she would pass out and then her auto system would kick in and she would breathe fine...
I have known several kids who do this... and without fail each of them had parents who just freaked out at the sight of their little darling going all pretty colours...
without fail when the parents were advised to simply let them hold their breath and walk away from the child the kid started screaming instead.... screaming is impossible without breathing..lol
Don't let your little one rule the roost with the oldest of little kid ruses....
no means no and she needs to know a no is a final answer.
2006-07-29 22:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 55⤊ 15⤋
distract her and doing so hide what she wants try keeping her busy on something else
2006-07-29 20:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by a e 1 · 11⤊ 60⤋
ignore her she can't hurt herself she'll start breathing if she passes out.
2006-07-29 20:27:38 · answer #11 · answered by Daniel H 5 · 50⤊ 46⤋