I'm sooo confused! my friend's wedding date got moved to the weekend i was supposed to go to san fran. with my band!!! i've been waiting for both of these to happen and i'm actually part of the wedding party! each of these will only happen once and they're both on the top of my priorities list...i'm just praying something comes up and she'll move it again.
2006-07-29 19:14:32 · 4 answers · asked by jaijay15 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i meant "or the trip"
2006-07-29 19:15:11 · update #1
the wedding is in oceanside and the gig is in san fran on the same day. there's no way i can drive b/t the two in enough time.
2006-07-29 19:45:19 · update #2
Have you talked to your friend? Told her about your problems? People are asking if she's a close friend but I think that since you are in her wedding party you're pretty close...and since her wedding was just moved to that date, I'm wondering if that's because things are flexible for her and maybe she could move it again.
I have a question though - why is the San Francisco thing only going to happen once? You could get gigs in San Francisco at any time in the future...I just don't get why this would be your only chance. Maybe you could call the venue and change days. Also, a big factor is - how important is the band to you? Is this a career thing or is this just kind of a casual band that you don't expect to really go anywhere?
In the end I have to say that this is something that you have to talk through with your friend, and then talk through with your band. You'll be the most informed after that. I know that it sucks to feel like you have to let someone down either way - which you are going to have to do if no dates can be changed - but maybe someone will come up with a solution that ends up working out. Maybe the band can get someone to fill in. Maybe your friend will decide that you being there is worth moving the date. I hope it works out for you!
2006-07-30 04:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you don't mention how far the wedding is from SF. or what time the wedding is or what time the band plays.
Gather all your information. Sit down with your friend and tell her you are trying to figure out how to do both. Geesh if she changed the date once she can change it again.
I am not sure what I would do, this is a tough one. Is this a friend who will be a lifetime firend? not all friends are. Is this gig in SF going to make or break your band? Do you know somoene who can fill in for you in the band. Or maybe your friend has someone special who can stand in for you at the wedding. Right now there are on ansers, just questions.Talk to your firend who is getting married.
Maybe you can be in the wedding and then rush off to SF. But make sure your friend knows the details so after there isn't any thing for her to be upset with. In her mind the wedding is the most important thing.
Think this all through. And the answer will come to you.
2006-07-29 19:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to the gig personally because you already had this palnned and shes the one who moved up the wedding. Did she know about your gig the weekend before because if she did then thats pretty rude to move your wedding up like that. Who moves a wedding up anyways. I've never heard of starting to plan a weddign then moving the date. I would talk to her and tell her that you have previous plans that day and cant make it. She cant expect you to rearrange your life for her wedding.
2006-07-30 01:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a person who is gettin married in a few mths myself, I would be VERY upset if my cousin who is close to me decided not to be in my wedding. I think you should go with the wedding. But also as the person before me said is she a close friend?? Is there a reason why she moved the date? If not then talk to her.But if she is whats more important to you? This is a hard decision that only you can make. I wish you the very best.
2006-07-29 22:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by dmestle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋