to thoughs who have been following my story you'll know whats going on...but to the rest of you let me give you a quick update.
i've been after my best friend for about 5 years. i alwaysed loved her, with all my heart. recently she has started to like me (so it seems) i've been kissing her on the cheek, holding her hand, scraching her back and just cuddling. i think i have finnaly gotten out of the "friend zone" and i couldn't be happier. my dreams are starting to come true, it seams.
i asked her recently if we are "offical at all" and told her how i would like for her to be my girl friend and she said eather "we'll see" or "maybe" (i can't remember which) so i feel she isn't quite ready for the relationship to be offical but she is starting to like me as more than a friend.
earlyer today i asked her if it was to soon to kiss her on the lips and she said it is to soon. then she kissed me on the cheek.
what do you think about all this?
you think we may get together soon?
2006-07-29 19:00:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she didn't say no, but that is is still to soon.
we are both 21 and neather of us has been in a relationship before.
we are making sure we move slow. and we are staying eachothers best friend.
2006-07-29 19:01:37 · update #1
i huged her and kissed her cheek back after she kissed me.
she is a very shy person and i am not sure is she has ever kissed anyone before, so i feel extreemly special. she is such a great person.
2006-07-29 19:09:07 · update #2
this recent closeness has been about 3 months now. she comes over to my house once or twice a week and she stars about 6-8 hours. i get to hold her for a really long time it is the best feeling.
we are not going for sex and not going to even worry about it for a long time.
2006-07-29 19:11:32 · update #3
i've told her about my feelings about 6 or 7 times through the 5 years i wished to be with her. she always said no because we were best friends.
i respect her alot and i am not pushing her at all i repect her wishes when she said it is to soon. infact i am perfectly fine with it. holding her in my arms is perfect right now. i would like to kiss her lips but i'm not in a big rush to. i guess i am just trying to figure out how close we are right now (subcoinscienciously)
2006-07-29 19:17:00 · update #4
I know it's hard to hold back but just be glad and realize how lucky you are to be with a woman who isn't a whore and who has self respect. The foundation you are building with her will enable you two the best chance possible of having a strong relationship if it ever developes! I knew my lady for two years before we even started dating. We then waited two months before doing anything sexually at all. . .We didn't even kiss until our 5th date! The anticipation was excruciating yet so exciting at the same time! Stay with this LADY and keep respecting her. Most women out there will jump in the sack the first date and there really is no fun in that. Good Luck. . . And to all the women out there. . . here is a lesson for the day. . . You can attract a good man with sex. . . . but you can only keep him with respect. The only guys that stay around for sex without respect are almost always degenerate scumbucket losers! Take it slow for a while and things will come naturally. Don't be a whore. .. keep your feet on the floor! Of course that might be outdated since there are several very pleasing sexual position involving the lady standing up!
2006-07-29 19:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its quite possible that you'll be together soon.. its hard to say though... Friendships that turn into relationships are the best relationships ever, especially if you guys have been best friends for 5 years... you know everything about eachother and you're not judged by eachother.. i say keep doing things the way you have been, going slow it will allow her to get more comfortable with you and make things easier for you guys when you guys get together because than she'll realize that you have a lot of respect for her.. Good Luck!
2006-07-30 02:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by heather c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What You should do is a wait for a couple of weeks or months she probaly not ready to be with someone yet i think that you should respect her wishes and wait for a little while girls do this all the time and its takes a long time too but try not to push her to much then you screwed there if you keep pushing too much just ask her one more time and sees what she say if not you have to wait for a couple of weeks or days i mean it should work one way or the other cuz
2006-07-30 02:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by LUIS ROSA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let me get this straight - after 5 years you got a kiss on the cheek and are quit happy with this result.
Wow a kiss on the cheek - in baseball gargain that would be like a foul ball (where the goal, of course, is to get to first base - and eventually home).
If you are completely unfortunate then I say stick with it - maybe next time you'll get both cheeks kissed - just imagine the bliss!
2006-07-30 02:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by singfella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient.It's really important to Give her time to figure out her feelings toward you. when she is ready she will give you some hints. It's a good thing you are not rushing. Sounds like she likes you but not sure yet because she never been in a relationship before so just wait and soon you will find out. BEST OF LUCK!! =) ;)
(p.s.) keep us updated with your news okay.
2006-07-30 02:29:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be...and then again maybe she's scared of losing her best friend if things go wrong between you....i know that that has cost me one good friend and lost out on two probably very interesting relationships...but the only thing that you can do, if you feel this strongly about her, is to keep pursuing her, but don't rush things!!! especially if she is shy. and by the way, read your profile, & personally very very proud of you being "one of those"...anyways, good luck & may blessings from the Creative Powers abound!!
btw, craigman25, u rule, dude!
2006-07-30 23:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by Morgan T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
patience young one...
soon...
very soon...
ok what I have to say, is that's a great, quick response...
and very very nice
the correct reply would have been,
to kiss her back, on the cheek
and then say, how about now?
lol
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kudos to you
now then what I have to say is you guys are as close as me and my best friend. so yea... we're not really togather but we love eachother. we will be soon. I say that with confidence.
and I say the same about you with confidence too.
believe in it, and it'll happen
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it's good to know somebody else out there is where I am
:) thanks.
2006-07-30 02:03:38 · answer #7 · answered by The greatest and the best. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm impressed.....you sound to be very gentle, patient, thoughtful, just overall a sweet guy. you have a very healthy start to the relationship. yes, the signs show that you will be getting together real soon. you seem to be doing everything right.
2006-07-30 02:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well damn u guys havent been in a relationship before and u have been having feelings for her for 5 years why didnt you tell her sooner.....well all u can do is wait for her to make her move i guess....good luck
2006-07-30 02:08:19 · answer #9 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go ahead and do it. It's just the shy feelin in both of you thats stopping. Once you do it you will go on and on
2006-07-30 02:04:12 · answer #10 · answered by guyss_2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋