I have a crush on this guy from my camp but i have only known him for about a week. He has a girlfriend but he sometimes sends me signals that he likes me. All of my friends tell me that I should tell him but i don't know how. I have never had to tell a guy that I liked him before they always just sort of figured it out and so now is the time that I need to tell a guy I like him but I don't know how, I'm afraid of rejection, and i don't want to screw up our friendship.
2006-07-29 18:29:23 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should just let it happen naturally. If you don't have the courage to actually say something to him, write him a little note.
It drives my boyfriend crazy, but often I'm much better at expressing myself with the written word.
In this case, I think a note would be appropriate. In the note, ask him to respond if he feels the same way, but if he doesn't, he doesn't need to say anything, and your friendship won't change. That avoids putting him on the spot.
Hope this helps!
2006-07-29 18:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by nightevisions 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You've only known him for a week? You should take things slow. Moving too fast and jumping into a relationship with someone you don't really know can create a painful relationship with someone you don't really love. Hold on a second... you said he had a girlfriend, right? If he has a girlfriend, I'm not really sure that he's really sending signals that he likes you. I've been in the same situation. It turned out that I was being really paranoid, and I was making a big deal out of little things that he was doing. But if you really like him, and you really think he likes you back, tell him, and try to work something out. Don't let your fear of rejection hold you back.
2006-08-02 06:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by BlackRose1312 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How to:
1) Focus on spending as much time with him as possible. Don't focus so much on telling him you like him. The more time you spend, the more you will either be drawn to each other or have opportunity to exchange warm comments.
2) Be honest with him. Share with him that you understand he has a girlfriend, but that you also want to be close to him. Don't allow him or facilitate him being dishonest with you or his girlfriend. You don't want to start a relationship on a dishonest note.
3) Decide if you would rather be his friend or boyfriend. And concede that if you try to be his boyfriend and that fails, it will be very difficult to remain friends - not impossible, but rare.
Good Luck. I'd enjoy hearing how it turns out.
2006-08-01 08:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by onemorealternative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello dear!
Well, there are many factors, which you know (you understand most). We know so little! DO you live close? Age? How close is he with his gf? What sacrifices are you ready to proceed? Most likely you do not see someone now, does he seem like the one you could see for long - long time? ...
2006-07-30 11:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by soubassakis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋