If you & your partner dont share many common interests & are different ages, are feelings alone enough to sustain a relationship?
2006-07-29 18:24:08 · 22 answers · asked by Ashley 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now that's one of the more interesting questions i've come across. If you believe life is a learning curve and that you're always learning something new, then this could be a fantastic opportunity. Is love enough? I can't answer that cause an alternative question i'd like to ask you is, is love enough for you? Everyone's different but here's a suggestion from someone in the same experience. Get to know what it is he takes an interest in. Have him get to know what your interests are. Learn about one another. You like each other.. love each other.. i'm sure you'd love one anothers interests if you give them a chance. Basically what i'm saying is, find out what makes him tick and give him a chance to find out what makes you tick too.
2006-07-29 18:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
feelings alone will never sustain a relationship. Whole books have been written on this subject, but in a nutshelll, the feelings that you feel when you see someone you love result from a hormone abbreviated PEA. PEA can only last for a maximum 2 years (and often lasts less). Therefore, love can sustain a relationship for 2 years. You can get bursts of it (like when he gives you flowers or when you have sex), but the bursts are not enough to sustain a relationship.
After a steady supply of PEA is gone, respect, proximity, looks, compatibility, humor, trust, etc sustains the relationship. The good news is that you don't have to be exactly "compatible" to maintain a relationship as long as you have a few other ingredients such as trust, respect, and at least something to talk about. My husband and I have little in common, but are very happily married.
Some good books are: "Love is Never Enough"
"The Secret of Loving"
Any social psychology textbook that has a chapter on Liking.
2006-07-30 01:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by mountain_laurel1183 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think and feel that if you can find the right man, that Love alone is enough! If you have love, all the other feelings will follow and you will soon realize that you have more in common than you thought! My husband and I have a big age difference and we have had some very rough times but we still love each other through it all! If you have the right man and you are committed you can make it work! Good Luck!
2006-07-30 01:32:58 · answer #3 · answered by iLoveDawnDawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you respect them and could actually be interested in knowing a bit more about what interests your partner.
If your partner's interests are "lame", "boring", "inmature" etc, that respect that would sustain a relationship is not there.
Opposites do attrack, but people who might seem very different frequently share other things that are very important too, like their views of the world, moral principles, ideals, dreams, goals and are emotionally supportive of each other.
2006-07-30 01:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by Coppernika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no.... If you want to make the relationship work, a common ground will allways help... and if nothing else you will develop a common ground between the two... But without some common intersts.. It will be hard to keep interests together...
But if it is really love, that won't matter and the relationship will thrive...
2006-07-30 01:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by Rob D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not enough! I will be honest there are many other things that can make or break a relationship. For instance, I was so in love with my soon-2-b-ex. Then I realized he drank way to much. I loved him so much I couldn't see that. Years, and years went by and Still in love with him I left. Why did I leave? Because he drank our life away! So no love is not enough it takes commitment and compromise.
2006-07-30 01:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by Carleyheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say no. There is a fine line between love and infactuation. I believe (based soley on your wording) that you are infactuated with each other, and not much else.
Too often people realize this after they take a leap of faith into their relationship (ie. sleeping with each other, getting married, ect.) It would be very difficult to get to know someone if you don't have much to talk about.
2006-07-30 01:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by c_w_b_21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Any relationship needs work not matter the similarities or differences but if neither one of you are happy then maybe it's time to cut your losses and move on.
2006-07-30 01:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by favoritecolorsblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea You'll grow 2 share the intrests.
2006-07-30 01:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by Butterfly 13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so as long as you make time for one another. I love dancing and water and being around people and my husband has too left feet ,hates water and can't be around large groups of people and we have been married for 17 years Happily .
2006-07-30 01:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋