I think I have a problem, when a guy asks me for my number I freak out. I just don't want that kind of attention, Guys are cute and nice to look at and all but when it comes to talking to one i'm just not interested. I'm getting pressure from family to date, they said they just want tom see me happy, but I don't see dating has happy. It a pain in the ***. I think i'm on the road to be an old maid. what can I do to spark some interest in a dating life. Do I just wait for the right guy to come?
2006-07-29 18:21:24 · 14 answers · asked by Dottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah don't push it. If your not feeling the desire to date, then don't. This could be for a number of reasons. If you were really hurt emotionally or physically in a prior relationship, this could be a defense mechanism that's manifested. If this is the case and you really feel it something beyond your control, you can always seek counselling for it.
However, if your just seeing all the negative aspects of dating right now and your just kind of burned out on the idea, then just wait. When the right guy comes along, you won't want to wait anymore. Being with someone should be natural and if you try to force yourself, you'll just mess it all up.
As for your family, their pressure on you could also be a factor. How many times do we rebel just because we can? It may be something like this going on too, ask them to please back off. Remind them that your young and you have plenty of time to date and all that and that you'll do so when your ready. Let them know that your happy as you are right now and just want to enjoy the single life.
Don't stress over it too much. You'll give yourself a complex about it and there is no need to. Ok?
Good Luck!
2006-07-29 18:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by chalis913 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, I'm sorry you are going through this, but I think if the right guy comes along, you will definitely be interested. I thought the same too this past year at college, no guys really "sparked" my interest, but then I came back home and worked and I met this guy I just can't get over. So I think once that special guy comes along you will know and you will definitely want to be with him. And good for you, don't date just to appease others. Do what you feel is right and don't worry about what other people think or say. Good luck and God bless! :)
2006-07-29 18:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gather that you were in a marriage because you said you've been single for 3 years. I guess you got deeply hurt by a guy, and you're just not ready for a relationship yet. You shouldn't rush things, and people shouldn't push you either. Finding the right person takes time, so don't worry. When you're ready, you'll meet the right guy. Good luck. :D
2006-07-29 18:28:24 · answer #3 · answered by danielle s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you have a problem. I actually think this is a good thing. Don't let others pressure you into dating if you don't want to because it's just going to make you unhappy and you will be miserable. Your young so give it some time and just be happy where your at. You don't need to rush into anything that many of US regret. Best wishes
2006-07-29 18:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by favoritecolorsblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when you're ready, you'll know it. My relationships don't last long because I don't trust women, thanx to the example my mom has set for me. Just start off as friends, that usually goes better.....well, if you're ever interested in dating again. I think it's totally normal that you haven't dated for a long time or even if you ever want to again. Tell your family to lay off you, it's more than likely pressuring you to not date.
2006-07-30 00:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by i_am_tweeber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i'd say you're just selective. i'm the same way. i don't see any point in dating someone that i don't really like. and if i don't like someone at some point, i'm not going to waste my time and energy just so i have a guy to hang out with or so i won't be weird.
i say good for you. if you don't want to date anyone now, you'll probably have less grief than most people. and if someone special does come along, you won't have to break up with some person you don't even like
2006-07-29 18:26:02 · answer #6 · answered by al 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dear! Definitely there's no wrong with you. You just need time to get ready to have any relationship again. Now that your single, enjoy it! Actually we're on the same boat... i, too, does not have any interest to have any commitment yet, but that's for now only. I'm taking my time...you have to do the same... Just be yourself and follow what your heart wants...
Have a good day!
2006-07-29 18:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by shine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you don't it seem all my life i went from one relationship into other and i had no time for myself now finally after the last year i have not dated anyone . i do have guy friends but not dated you know when the timing will be right for you . your family loves you and don't want to see you alone, but you have to think about yourself and do what is best for you. believe in your enter feeling
2006-07-29 18:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by angelface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time sweetie it sounds like you have been hurt. You are very young and you have plenty of time . Just do your own thing and tell your nosy family to lay off. You will get the spark back it'll just take time . Good Luck!!
2006-07-29 18:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are perfectly normal..You have just not met the man that will "sweep you off your feet yet" You are young..enjoy life and what it has to offer you..You don't find love..its finds YOU
2006-07-29 18:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by Mommy Dearest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋