i am looking to have sexual experiences with women, maybe even start dating them. this is all new to me. i came out as gay at 14. so i've been ruiling them out for a while. as i've gotten older i've moved away from the need to classify as gay or straight and in doing so, started to become open to the idea of being into both men and women. i see women now and then who i am attracted to. i could no longer approach them as anything other than as a friend, than i could rope a horse or fly to the moon. i am "safe" to a alot of women. safe because i'm gay to them. my gut instinct tells me i should do my exploring quietly, with people i don't know yet, so they have no formed opinions of me to let go of. what do you think? how do i jump into this?
2006-07-29 18:20:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're the stereotypical gay male, your style and wit and sensitivity will make you quite popular with the femmes. More power to you. You just have to head to a straight bar, and flash your gorgeous smile at the ladies. Don't worry about going alone. Then your personality will charm their pants off. You may even mention, that you're thinking about women in a whole new light. You'll be too unique to resist. You soon find out if eating p***y is really part of your appetite.
2006-07-29 18:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by carolynator 2 · 9⤊ 4⤋
First of all love is beautiful so it doesn't matter if youre gay, straight, or bi. A lot of people say being bi is being confused, but personally I believe you can be attracted to what ever the hell you want...hello beast-e-ality!! haha...Anyways...If I was you I would approach a woman as a friend..and flirt a little...see how she responds and ask her out to drinks or what not. Even possibly go to a bisexual chat site or what not and meet other girls into both. It would probably help your confusion. Either way it's a hard situation, but there are so many people out there im sure you'll find someone!!! Don't know if I helped, but hey...advice is better than nothing!! :)
2006-07-29 18:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mandy R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I am a devoted Christian so I can only guess you know where I stand on this subject.
Second, haven fallen for a bisexual man who was not honest with me, I can give you my point of view.
It is not fair to encourage those feelings from someone who does not know you have an affinity for males. I am angry still at the thought, of his callousness. We could have been friends, but he elicited these confusing feelings. By the time I was definite about his sexuality, I was in deep for him. So when I ended it, it really hurt. I think that was selfish on his part. I think to be intimate with someone, it is important to be honest. This was not the only reason things ended but it definitely played a part on trusting him. But hey I am not talking for some of the freaks out there.
2006-07-29 18:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by *•BK*• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd jump right into it kinda like you jumped into it with men. Men and Women are about the same anyway. Of course with an minor exception. when you figure this out, you'll be OK. Safe to use condoms.Just a little hint. wink.
2006-07-29 18:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by SecretUser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you as far as exploring quietly. Because like you say right now you are safe to you Girl Friends. And therefore when it gets thrown on the table that there could be interest on your part. That would break your girlfriends comfort around you. They may feel like you are now wanting them.
2006-07-29 18:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you answered your own question "I should do my exploring quietly, with people i don't know yet, so they have no formed opinions of me to let go of." Woman are not as much into accepting a man saying he is bisexual as men are to accepting a woman saying she is bisexual. Wow that is a mouth full.
2006-07-29 18:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask yourself why you have a need to USE people....what woman would want to have a "gay" guy???? Besides that, all your gay friends will be appalled that you just proven that being gay is a CHOICE and that there is no gene involved!
2006-07-29 18:25:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do like my sister did tell everyone you know and if they are ok with it then you know who your friends are. Talk to other bi women and see what they have to say there are more bi girls than you think that are willing to help you.
2006-07-29 18:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest, with yourself & the woman in question. Never hide or be ashamed of your past. Let her know where you have been & where you would like to go.
Honesty is the best policy!
Good Luck!
2006-07-29 18:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by Feeling Froggy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are such a lying bit*h. This is the best hook for scoring babes I have ever heard. All women love gay guys ----
2006-07-29 18:26:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋