1 commandment that is so unfair to me! why?!?

Question

well id like to think i can follow all the commandments except for 1 and its so unfair!

i honestly think whoever wrote 1 of the 10 commandments are seriously homophobic.
if that commandment didnt exist, i think i would be christian but thats the only thing that discourages me... i like all the other aspects of it, but due to that 1 commandment i suddenly loose intrest becasue as a person i know who i am. and i know what i am attracted to, and i would be living a serious lie if i EVER married a woman becasue mabye i would love her as a person, but i wouldnt be happy when it comes to love.
somene pray for me please. i gotta think of something

oh gosh, Key word Homophobic

yeah im gay but dont
hate me for that

To Cinamin Roll
what?! i never had problems talking to girls! i actually talk to girls more than guys im just not attracted to them... most of the female friends i have, usually wanted me to be their boyfriend at first... me getting girls is certainly not a issue... im just not remotely attracted to them. Guys are the only ones that can make me have certain feelings and lvls of attraction for them... girls just dont ...stimulate me like that

Answer 1

Hmm..the first four commandments are about our relationship to God. The last six are about our relationships to each other.

The only commandment that I see you having the problem with is the first commandment (and perhaps the seventh). You shall not have any gods before Him. The "god" you seem to have is your sexual identity. You say that the person who wrote the commandment must be homophobic. God wrote the Ten Commandments. As it is written: "And He gave to Moses, when He had made an end of speaking with him upon Mount Sinai, two tablets of the testimony, tablets of stone, written by the finger of God." (Exodus 31:18)

Since God wrote the Ten Commandments, I'd say your problem is with God. What you are suffering from is the same issue we all do. We think we know better than God does about what we need.

God loves us so much that He came and solved our biggest problem. He made a way for us to come into His presence and be forgiven. But we must surrender that stubborn pride of ours that says we want what we want. And we must come to God through Jesus Christ. There is only one way. Anything else leaves us in our lost and pathetic state.

I will pray for you as you asked, but unless you are willing to surrender your "god," not much is going to happen.

Answer 2

The Ten Commandments do not include an injunction against homosexuality. There are way more than 10 commandments in the Bible. In fact, there are 613. The statements in the Torah about homosexuality are not in the 10 but in the 613. Included among those 613 are also commands against wearing certain fabrics together, eating pork and shellfish, and how to check for mildew, and so on.

I am not a Christian, and I do not believe that the Bible is entirely divinely inspired. However, if you wish to be a Christian, it is my belief that you need not let this one matter stop you. There ARE Christians who are homosexual, and there ARE Christians who embrace homosexuality. There will always be those Christians who condemn these other Christians, but then there are Christians who condemn other Christians no matter what. You can't please everyone.

You need only make peace with God. I do not believe that it was God who wrote those words about homosexuality, but man.

There is a book called "The Good Book" written by Peter Gomes who is a homosexual pastor and he has a good chapter on homosexuality: the last prejudice. There is another book written by an orthodox rabbi called Wrestling with God and men (I think that's the name) and in this, he explains his view on those verses.

There are plenty of Churches which embrace gay people.
If you cannot come to terms with the Bible though, you do not have to give up on spirituality. God is God, regardless of what any religion says about Him. Just seek God.

All the best to you.

Answer 3

Well, why not assume that Christianity is generally right, but some evil agenda thousands of years ago was perpetuated by some really bad guy who changed or added a certain commandment, and that your heart and faith tell you that this is the case, and god wants you to realize that "You must follow your faith for that is the only true path to me" and cast off the oppression of the dogma that is that one commandment?

In short, just because you don't follow EVERY rule doesn't mean you're not part of the religion. You're just, say, out of the mainstream. No shame in that.

But don't take my word for it: I'm agnostic, so what do I know?

Answer 4

Did you know there are 613 laws in The Law? if you break 1, you have broken one of the 10. The 10 commandments are generalized, the following 613 tells you how to follow the 10. The homosexuality commandment isn't in the 10, it is in the rest of the Law, it is part of loving God and Adultery.

Answer 5

I don't know what to tell you. It's hard to feel this way and then say it to someone. I don't know what I'd do but here's what I believe.

God has given you a challenge. You were made with something in you that makes you want what you are not to have. You are called to be celibate therefore. Sex outside of marriage is wrong for straights and gays. Before I was married i wanted to sleep with a man but it would have been as wrong as it is for gays to sleep together.

Hope that doesn't seem harsh. I think our society makes sex too important. You CAN live with out it. Good luck to you and I will be sure to pray for you.

Answer 6

Do you believe God is real?
Do you believe Jesus died for your sin?
Do you believe that Jesus is the only way to heaven?
if you do then why would you let such a thing keep you from heaven?
we all have things that we need to lay aside and for some it is harder than for others....but what it all comes down to is,is it worth an eternity in hell.....if you think it is then don't think about it again...but if you think it isn't then you must be strong and ask god for help and push on ..for this life is gone so quickly and an eternity ..well it is forever.....I would rather give up what holds me back now so that I can have an eternity with Jesus is heaven.....we all must sacrifice.....and no one hates you for being gay....just please consider what is worth living for and what is worth dieing for.....this is serious...

Answer 7

I'm confused by your question. The 10 commandments are listed here, and, frankly, none of them refer to sexual orientation. They talk about adultry, jealousy, deceit, theft, murder, honoring your parents, respecting God, putting God first in your life, having false idols, and not swearing or disrespecting the Sabbath.

How does any of that refer to your sexual orientation? It doesn't say you HAVE to marry someone, or anything like that - just to be faithful if you are married, and to not covet someone who is with another.

Good luck, and I hope you find some peace - I'll be praying for you.



1. You shall have no other Gods before me.

2. You shall not make for yourself any carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth; you shall not bow down to them nor serve them. For I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate me, but showing mercy to thousands, to those who love Me and keep My commandments.

3. You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain, for the Lord will not hold him guiltless who takes His name in vain.

4. Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work, but the seventh day is the Sabbath of the Lord your God. In it you shall do no work: you, nor your son, nor your daughter, nor your manservant, nor your maidservant, nor your cattle, nor your stranger who is within your gates. For in six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, and rested the seventh day. Therefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and hallowed it.

5. Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you.

6. You shall not murder.

7. You shall not commit adultery.

8. You shall not steal.

9. You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.

10. You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor’s."

Answer 8

well, indeed homosexuals will not inherit the kingdom of God, it is stated in 1 corin 6:9-10.
just one thing to share with you and to think about.
do you believe that God create Adam and Eve in the first place? if yes, y cant u accept the fact that males r suppose to be with females? God created Adam and Eve and not Adam and Steve. true christians do not condemn homosexual. but we do have responsibility to tell them that it is wrong. if we do not say, you will be going to hell, this is sad.
yes, God loves everyone because He created everyone. but how many times do we love God. we hurt Him times and again in disregardin Him. and when there are trouble, natural disasters, we blame it on God. but in actual fact, human causes it to happen.
you are not borned to be a homo. think back of the times. is it your mothers, girlfriends haf disappointed you before? or bcoz you have difficulty to talk to gals but feel better around guys? it may be even a childhood trama where you have bad experiences with girls. all this cause ppl 2 tent to tink being homo is better. it is a choice you make. if you think you love God, you have to obey His commands. "This is love for God: to obey his commands. And his commands are not burdensome," 1 John 5:3
God bless you! =)

Answer 9

If you are incredibly sencere in what you said, my heart goes out to you. I know it is a conflict in your spirit. But it isn't one of the 10 commandments. Yes it is a commandment but not one of the 10. I do respect you for not calling yourself a Christian and living contrary to what the Bible says. You have to believe it as a whole and not in parts. There is a Christian singer (and I am trying to remember his name) I would like to give you his name when I find it if I may...he was in a simalar situation....email me if you would like it his name when I find it [e-mail]

Answer 10

Are you trying to find a biblical justification for your sexual orientation???

Alot of us do not understand or like the "rules" for Christian living, and it is hard to give up something that we truly enjoy or give up something that we think makes us whole.

Abraham was willing, and able to KILL his only son, a son that he revolved his life around. It was hard, but Abraham proved that in order to please God and do what is right, he had to give up something... even his own flesh and blood.
This is an extreme example, but many of us are faced with sacrafices like this daily, through addictions, such as alcohol, drugs, sex, or even thrill seeking euphorias.
It feels good so therefore how can it be wrong?
Giving into such things creates a greater dependance on these such things and slowly diminishes the gap to our need and dependence of God. If we truly rely on ourselves and our own pleasures and happiness, honestly what room is there for God? He soon becomes an after thought.
It isn't that God wants you to give up these needs to make you unhappy, it is to strengthen your love and devotion to Him.
Just like Abraham, God stopped him before the murder took place, and replaced that so called sacrafice with a ram.
God can do that for us, if we are willing and able.
It isn't easy and it doesn't come over night, but with dedication and prayer, God will lead you where He wants you to go and believe it or not He will lead pple in your life that will empower and help you!!!

Email me, if you'd like.
Shannon