Wat would be the easiest way to dump a guy and not hurt him so we can still be friends??????'
2006-07-29 18:15:39 · 23 answers · asked by travis`sgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it never works... but tell him that you want to best friends or tell him that you need a break or that you have mixed feelings.. good luck.. Poor guy!
2006-07-29 18:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are young enough to say that you just don't feel that you are ready for a serious relationship, go with that. Just tell him you need some time to grow up before you can be with anyone. If you are a bit older, tell him that you are in a place in your life where you feel like you just can't have a relationship. Say you are trying to find a job, or trying to focus on school. After saying that, tell him that you think he is an amazing man with great potential. Say he is the nicest sweetest guy you have ever met and you don't want him to hate you and you would love it if you could still be friends. reassure him that you will always be there for him and you will always care about him. While dumping him, keep asking him if he is okay and how he is feeling. Hope that helps!!
2006-07-30 01:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by Heather616 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You can be as nice as possible about it, you can avoid making them feel like they are undesireable, don't give them a list of their faults, put the blame on yourself. Being friends with an ex rarely works and it definitely doesn't work until you spend enough time without any contact to get over the relationship. Trying to stay friends is just a way of letting go and holding on at the same time and it really isn't a fair thing to ask him to do. Look at it this way though, you aren't doing him any favors by staying with him when its not really where you want to be. Let him go (gently) so he can find someone that does really want to be with him. Do it quick, like ripping off a band aid and do it in a way that lets him keep his dignity and self respect.
2006-07-30 01:20:46 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't think there is any way to end up not hurting somebody when you are going to dump him/her. It is hard but best to be truthful. Just say what you need to say, and you can say you do still want to be friends and hope you can both be mature to do that. However, in my life experience, not many can do that! So, be prepared to say goodbye and not have anything more with him. I hope it turns out okay. Good luck!
2006-07-30 01:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word "dump" and the phrase "not hurt him?" Would you be hurt if you got dumped?! There is NO way to DUMP and NOT HURT. Dumped=hurt. Get it?
If you don't want to be with him be honest. Yes, it will hurt. He may not like you after that, but what are your choices? Stay with him even though you don't want him? That sucks. For both of you!
2006-07-30 01:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you can never find a way NOT hurting someone when you want to break up with him. It always hurts, but it heals as time goes by. Don't expect him to feel the same way about being friend, cause he may be too hurt to want that. Sorry, but this is reality.
2006-07-30 01:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by danielle s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way is to be honest with him tell him why you are breaking up and let him know that you want to be friends you both never know the timing could be off now and maybe some time down the road you may start dating again. always be honest
2006-07-30 01:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by angelface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.. Just tell him honestly. But not too honest that it will hurt his feeling. Whether you all will be friend again will most likely depend on the guy. Good Luck to you and that guy~~
2006-07-30 01:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by JonathanT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that that u dont love him anymore you only care for him as a friend now sometimes you just lose them feelings you cant help it people grow apart...just let him know you still care but not as lovers...and tell him you want to be friends...i really dont know what to say but i hope everything goes good........good luck
2006-07-30 01:21:56 · answer #9 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pull the "let's be friends" crap. It's insulting. Just tell him that it isn't working and you want to move on. The "let's be friends" thing is about your guilt -- not about his feelings.
2006-07-30 01:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋