Do you think it is fair?

Question

Do you think it is fair for parents to socialy isolate their children? Because my parents are doing this to me and my siblings.

Well i live on a farm. I cant go out at night because my they dont have time. We cant do sports on the weekend and we cant go to friends houses. and my siblings are getting older and are starting to get sick of it

We arent home schooled but and none of us are in trouble i really hate it on a farm we arent near anyone remotely my age : (

Evrytime i talk to them about they scream at me and tell me to go away. And if one of my siblings talk to them about it I get blamed for putting nosense in their heads.

It isnt a fincial problem cause we all have private schooling and have nice things.

Answer 1

No its not fair at all although I can understand that they want to protect you from possible danger etc. but to be honest I cannot understand why they cannot get off their comfy seats and get you and/or your siblings to your friends' house for a bit of fun. They cannot claim they are protecting you from your friends. By the way you didnt say if they are jews or not? as I know for a fact that my friend who was jewish wasnt allowed to mix or do anything socially. What a boring life poor thing had. Now your parents gotta watch out too as this way it might even back fire on them since you guys are desperate and might even mix up with the wrong crowd at the slightest opportunity. Talk to them again and again and again even if you have to shout back to make yoruself understood about how you feel and why they should allow some kind of fun. good luck.

Answer 2

You didn't go into much detail so I don't have specific advise however, I do not believe in isolating children. Is it for punishment or are you talking about being home schooled? I am against home-schooling because those kids are missing the opportunity to learn social skills and how to interact with the world. Finding out at 18 is too late....
As far as for punishment, time-out can be a good teaching method if they are issued consistantly and not for long periods of time.
Do this help at all?

Answer 3

Try to look at this from your parents' perspective. It's possible that it is all they can handle to run a farm and care for you and your siblings. They can't add on shuttling kids from place to place, or worrying about which ones are out or in, or when or whether one or the other child will get home okay.

Your experience is different from most kids in this country today, but it is still a valuable one. Embrace it. Relearn to enjoy the farm and all the diversity and closeness to the Earth that entails. Make your siblings your social group. Even engage your parents in discussions; maybe your dad or mom know how to dance.

If you can figure out how to make yourself content and grow the most in whatever situation you find yourself in, you'll be better off than most of your pampered, childish friends at school who get chauffered around and can't keep themselves entertained.

Answer 4

yes and no. No because 10 times out of 10 the child or children will not see it from the parents perspective.
Yes, because as much as it sucks at times, our parents know so much more than we do it's ridiculous. I'm 24 and my parents raised hell about some of my friends...make that all my friends and I only had a few. To this day I'm thankful for my parents intervention because out five friends one is dead two have been shot and one is in prison...the last one has never been to prison...never been shot...and is currently operating his own company and starting a family.

OH, sorry. The time of " intervention" was around 16 or 17
I'm not saying I'm better than anybody or anything like that. What I'm saying is, those guys were good loyal friends. If my parents didn't make it hard for us to hang. I have no doubt that I would have been with them when they were shot, killed or doing something that will land you in the prison system

Answer 5

NO! I sort of understand what you're going through. My mother was very smothering, and wouldn't let me do anything either. My dad would say he didn't really mind, but my mother would always get the last word. Unfortunately for me, I was a very depressed teenager. I did not cause any trouble, but I did do alot of stupid things to get attention. I eventually ran away from home (like a idiot!!) at 17, with my boyfriend, out of state, just to get away from her! I eventually moved back to town, 3 yrs later, married with one child and one on the way. I had a hard time, and a lousy marriage that I suffered through for 7 long years. Please don't go that far, it wont be what you think. Just try to deal with it, and look forward to a long healthy life once you get older. Stay in school and get a good education, so you can get a good job, and get out of there!!! That's the order it should go in!! I wish you all the best!

Answer 6

No.. it will actually cause you problems. Stint your growth. THe younger the children are when the isolation starts it will make it harder for the children to know how to act properly in public or manners. I am not talkin elbows on table while your eating thing i am talking peer manners....


and it depends what you mean by socially isolate...what are they doing that makes you feel that way?

Sometimes it is healthy to regain family boundness but not for a long period of time and not at certain agees. If you go to public school and or do sports their not socially isolating you..granted fun time with friends is greatly appreciated and does help when interacting with strangers...


talk to them about it.

Answer 7

It depends on the circumstances. If, to give just one example, your neighborhood is full of gang-bangers, then I could see your parents wanting to make you stay away from them.

On the other hand, if your parents are a bunch of right-wing religious nutcase homeschoolers, then they have an agenda, and that agenda is to keep you from being corrupted (to their minds) by the influences of other religions and belief systems. If you live in an environment like that, then you'll have to wait until you grow up (or become an emancipated minor) to get away from them--that is, unless they're also being abusive, in which case, you can petition the court to put you into foster care.

Answer 8

Yes it makes you grow up and not be able to handle social situations. Even though I was allowed to go to school, I wasn't allowed to go over friends' house or do anything outside of school. My parents were so strict that I couldn't go out and talk to other people without being scared of them. IF I am like this now, just imagine how you will be when you talk to other teenagers finally. They will think you are weird.

Answer 9

No, I come from a family that did this, and stills tries to this day. Every child needs to socialize. If you do not socialize and learn about things, easy and hard, you will never know how to make it in the real world. You cannot protect a child even if you keep their ears and mouths shut. They are just depriving you of a healthy life.

Answer 10

You don't say how old you are. If you're not old enough to drive, then your folks have to shuttle you everywhere and that takes time from their jobs. Do you own a bike? How about some good old fashioned exercise, get on your two wheeler and provide your own transportation. Too young to go so far, too bad! Whoever said life was fair?