why????can someone help me?

Question

why dont guys like me, yea i know i sound hopeless but i just wondered, im 15, single(never had a bf), im 5'2 and i weigh about 205, yea i know im pretty thick for my age but i have a sumwhat pretty face. im a pretty shy person and have a low-self esteem, can any1 help me?? PLZ ? NO RUDE COMMENTS, I HAVE FEELINGS TOO. thanks

1.im a vegetarian
2.yea i guess i need to exercise more
3. i want some advice on how to not be shy?

Answer 1

No offense, but 205 is pretty hefty for someone who's 5'2" tall. You're about 50 lbs heavier than the guys your age, and I'd guess about 75 lbs heavier than the girls your age. I know it isn't politically correct, but that's too fat for most guys' taste. And I bet you're feeling pretty bad about it, right?

Well, to start with, you need to take better care of yourself. Not only will it make guys like you better, but you will feel better in your own skin. Just adopt some sort of exercise routine and eat healthy food (whole grains, fruit, vegetables, lean meat, etc. and very little soda, candy, or fast food). It doesn't matter much what program you choose as long as you realize that there are no overnight remedies for losing weight. If you really want to lose weight, you need to just stick to some sort of program and change things around if it isn't working. If you do everything right, you can expect to lose about 2 lbs per week. If you need some specific information, your local public library should be full of useful books about weight loss and nutrition.

Losing weight should be a good start. As far as looks go, that's about all you can do to improve your appearance. You can dress more neatly, and keep your hair nice and natural. That should help too.

There's also the issue of personality. Because I don't know you, I can't really analyze your personality the way I normally would. However, here are a couple of things you need to be aware of if you are to be successful with men:
1) Guys hate liars. Never lie to anyone. If they lie to you, forget them and move on.
2) Guys like to be appreciated, and hate to be used. Be moderate about it though, because you don't want to seem like a pest.
3) Almost everyone thinks they're shy. Shyness is really all in the mind, and it is therefore easy to overcome.
4) It helps to be an optimist. No one wants to hang with someone who's always complaining about something.

That's about all I can do for you over the Internet. Good luck!

Edit: OK, I see that you added some details. Well, to start with, one can become fat under almost any diet if one eats too much or at the wrong times. In that respect, being vegetarian probably won't help. I recommend you analyze the nutritional value of all the stuff you eat in a week, and judge from there what needs to be cut out. There are tables of the recommended intake of all the essential nutrients online. Also, don't eat snacks or eat dinner later than 5:00 PM.

As for tips for not being shy anymore, all you have to do is start talking to people. I used to consider myself shy for the longest time. Since I started college, I found myself talking to so many people that I pretty much forgot that I was once shy. I believe that shyness is mostly an imagined problem. If you believe you're shy, and that people won't like you, then you will act shy. If you just start talking to people, though, you'll get better at it and you will be outgoing! Talk to as many people as you can comfortably talk to every day, and you'll overcome the problem. If you find that you don't have anything to say, just ask a question! Good luck!

Answer 2

What evidence do you have that "guys" don't like you?

Your first priority is building some self esteem. You have begun this process by acknowledging that you have a pretty face. Losing weight may also help elevate your self esteem. There are weight-loss programs available that don't require spending a lot of money. At 15, however, you will need the support of your parents and other family members. If you can't afford any of the weight-loss programs available, begin a daily exercise program and limit your daily caloric intake.

There is a procedure called "gastric by-pass surgery" that has gained popularity in the past few years. You may be a candidate for this, but you will have to consult a physician.

To confront your shyness, you might consider taking part in extracurricular school activities. Try out for a part in a school play, join the band, choir, math club, science club, anything that is going on in your school, JOIN!

Answer 3

Build your self-esteem first. Have self-confidence and believe in your heart that you possess positive traits that other may not have at all. Try to control your weight and if you can lower it down without risking your health, it will be a great benefit to your having self-confidence. Perhaps, 120 to 140 lbs will be better.

Your low self-eteem, I presume, is caused by you seeing yourself with that weight which you think is a turn-off for men. Well, honestly, it's true. A lot of men are turned off by fat women though a few of them are turned on on the other hand.

If I were you, I would consult a medical expert on weight control and from there I would build my self-confidence believing strongly that with my positive disposition about everything, more guys would surely come my way. Conceive that in your mind. What your mind can conceive, you can achieve. Good luck.

Answer 4

I think that all you need to do is look on the brighter side of things that might help make you feel more positive about yourself.........next don't take this wrong...I am only saying this to help...stop eating candy, chips, soda, cut out carbs. such as breads, pastas and just start walking every other day if not everyday, start out with even just 15min a day and work up if you can do more do more, this alone will help. Remember people see when a person is happy in how they carry themselves, stay positive...maybe even wear brighter clothes if you don't already...I'm not talking neon or anything but if a person only wears earth tones as pretty as you may think they are they are not much fun to look at....but remember don't over do that rule either...good luck and chin up...you are young...it only gets better.

Answer 5

Aww baby just put urself out there dont have such a low self esteem guys see that they want a outgoing girl not one whos not gonna be fun teall ya what go out buy urself a hot lookin outfit and go to the mall and hang with ur friends and just be normal act single checka guy out look at him and just stare until he looks at u and then look away give hima sexy look and dont be SHY that looks bad check his face out his a** out just totally act like ur into him the reason why I', telling u this is 1 of all this will mak ur self esteem higher and u will know what ur supposed to do when it comes to really wanting a guy.

Answer 6

Honey, you are still 15 years old, you are very young. And i'm sure guys like you, but just as you have things to deal with at this age, they probably have things to deal with too. Besides, you have your whole life in front of you to find many many guys that like you.

One advice, look around you. You might actually find someone who loves you but is too scared to say so.

Live long and enjoy your life, these things will come in the right time...when they are meant to be.

Answer 7

You are still very young. Some girls don't have boyfriends until they are in college. Don't worry about it. You need to get out and play sports and get some exercise. Get rid of junk food and snacks and eat a healthy diet. You will feel better about yourself if you lose the excess weight.

Answer 8

When I was 15, I didn't have a bf either. Don't worry about it so much. You shouldn't have a low-self esteem because everyone is beautiful in their own way. Always remember to be yourself and love yourself for who you are.

Answer 9

Alrighty, ummm spend all of the cash you desire on so known as puppy making a song classes.....its certainly not gonna occur, puppies { growl, bark, and whine every now and then. That's it, feels like your mistaking whining for making a song. Seek support together with your moneys as an alternative.

Answer 10

Just try to be confident, and don't act desperate. Guys like to go out with smart and confident girls that know their stuff .

Good luck