is it normal for me to email my friend 12 times a day when he only checks his email like once a week? do you think im getting on his nerves? he lives in washington and i live in oklahoma.
2006-07-29 17:53:07 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
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2006-07-29 17:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it could be considered "not normal," I mean, there has to be a good reason you email him so much. If I were you, I wouldn't do it though. You probably are getting on his nerves a little, if not even more. If you send him too many emails, he might not put as much time into reading them. Whatever you have to say might lose some value if you say too much.
Here's what you do: Whenever you think of something to say or email him about, you write it down as a short memo. Then later that night, you put all of it together into 1 message. Just save up your thoughts throughout the day and email him just before you go to bed. If you forward him stuff, just cut back. Only forward things he would like. Either that or you call him once a day.
2006-07-30 02:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by Silver Spoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want you to be really honest with yourself. Do you believe this is a good situation. If things were in the reverse how would you feel? After asking yourself those questions then think about what you can do to occupy your time in a healthier way that would give you a more even return. If you are lonely join a club or start a hobby. If you enjoy writing then begin to journal your thoughts and feelings...even starting about why you started emailing someone 12 X a day, knowing he would only look at his email once a week. Addicting habits can be reversed and replaced with positive actions!
2006-07-30 01:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by Peace&Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked yourself why you're doing this? You must have some sense, on a gut level, that you're not being "practical," or else you wouldn't have asked us for a "reality check."
You do realize, don't you, that if you e-mail someone 12 times a day, and he only checks his e-mail once a week, and you KNOW this, then it's sorta like TALKING TO YOURSELF?
Also, how would you like it if every time you opened your e-mail, there were a couple of hundred things in your in-box, and 84 were from one person? Would you think that that person was a pest? Would you even bother to open and read every e-mail?
What you're doing seems to be really counter-productive, so find a way to check your impulses.
2006-07-30 01:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Cyn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep an open email in your "Drafts" folder and add to it through the day. You can then send it once or twice a week. Only he knows if you are getting on his nerves though.
2006-07-30 00:56:38 · answer #5 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he would get annoyed. end of story, i dont know this guy. maybe he likes getting emails. I do not. I still have 712 emails to go through and delete and read.
Too me, i hate having to read all this crap when i could hear all this in 5 minutes of talking instead of sitting for an hour reading tons of crap. Reading smiley faces, reading the same phrase over, the same bye, the same ttyl, the same goodnight, and i hate having to type that everyday 5 times.
Thats off topic but i just wanted to say that.
2006-07-30 01:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by tenacious_d2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he mite want 2 aviod u b/c he mite think that u are obsesive and if he only checks his email like once a week and you send him stuff 12 times a day than that means that when he checks it you sent him about 84
emails.
LuV<3
2006-07-30 00:58:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're acting like a stalker. Cool it with the emails. Try to limit your emails to maybe 1 or 2 a week or mayeb call him if you have a cell phone. If you keep bombarding him with emails he'll think you're a stalker or you're clingy. Trying to horde somebody by emailing them or calling them several times a day never works.
2006-07-30 01:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Settle down on the emails. Try to fit all you need to say to about 1 every 2-3 days maybe.
2006-07-30 00:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by jjc92787 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, I forward a bunch of stuff to people daily. Not personal messages just stuff folks have sent me. If your actually sending personal messages that many times a day and he only checks once a week, I don't think he finds you that interesting.
2006-07-30 01:03:36 · answer #10 · answered by kenny p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer is "yes". Yes, you're normal; yes, you are getting on his nerves......
When I get obsessed like that I put a limit on my behavior.....if you only allow 2 emails a day, then you have to make them good ones....
he can't meet all your needs....
see, cnvc.org
2006-07-30 01:02:22 · answer #11 · answered by bjoybeads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋