what should i do?

Question

i am 15 and my father past in march and my girl friend had a baby in june and already this is alot for a kid my age and i need to know what should i tell my daughter about her grandpa when she gets old enought to understand

Answer 1

My father died in March, too. I'm so sorry for your pain. I know it is enough to knock you to your knees, soak your clothes with tears, and twist up everything in your chest until you scream in pain and anger and rage against the fates.

This certainly is a lot for a kid your age. Too much, dear. Way too much. To lose your father at this age will be life-shaping. Do your best for yourself. That doesn't mean not crying. It means not letting yourself off the hook for your responsibilities because you're devastated.

Some moments, I struggle to be available to my kids when I'm seared by pain at my father's loss. For you to need to be available to an infant at such a young age is nearly insurmountable anyway, let alone with your father's death taking your energy.

This loss takes a huge physical toll. Be realistic. Be good to yourself. Try to enjoy lots of time in nature with your daughter.

I know that you are aching because she won't know your dad. About her grandpa, you don't tell her one thing at one day and time. You will talk about your dad all her life. You'll tell stories, you'll show pictures, you'll even mention things about when he died while talking to her, before she can even understand.

And then one day she will say, Well Where Is Your Daddy? and your eyes will flood with tears and you will struggle to speak and you will say, remember how i said my dad died. that means..... whatever it means to your family.

She might be so hurt or surprised or sad for you that she says something mean about him being gone. Take it in stride. Say he really wished he could be here, that he didn't want to go.

You'll tell her you miss him and how much he'd have loved her and you'll tell her the ways she's like him and this grief and this celebration of his life will just be a fact of your lives.

Poor you. Poor her. Poor me. Poor my kiddos. And, oh, our poor dear daddies.

Answer 2

you are so young tell your daughter the truth tell her that her grandpa is watching over her and that he loves her verry much on a personal note u have a rough road ahead alot is going to happen the next few years that u won't really know anything about but just remember all parents make mistakes sometime just do your best

Answer 3

How might you comply with teachings that you just consider "are unsuitable"? Does Buddhism educate to comply with a direction of deception? Is that what your mother and father desire - so that you can fake to be whatever you're now not. Will that lead them to comfortable? I suspect now not, but when they're fairly that egocentric, then the unhappiness is ordinarily extra manipulation than actual. If you consider and comprehend the gospel of Christ, why could you reject such an superb salvation? God has paid this type of prime cost to make certain your salvation. Why reject what you consider to be real? Perhaps God will use your salvation to deliver your mother and father to Himself.

Answer 4

Understanding death can be very hard for a kid. But it is still something that they need to learn to understand. So what you should say to her is the honest truth in the most gentle & kind way.Sorry about your dad that s real sad

Answer 5

Sorry for the loss. When she gets old enough tell her straight up. Dont keep it from her. It will hurt worse if you say something other than the truth

Answer 6

You have alot going on sounds like, I say cross that bridge when you get there, but rest assured you'll figure it out in time and she'll understand.I wouldn't worry about it right now.

Answer 7

Just tell her the truth when she is old enough to understand,

Answer 8

the truth

Answer 9

What the hell are you doing having children so early! It's called PROTECTION, and ABORTION.

Answer 10

Answer her questions honestly, she will respect you for it later.