I would prefer woman 25 years and older 2 answer this but I will listen 2 anyone who can help!?

Question

I was friends with this girl for 2 years and before that she had feelings for me and wanted 2 be with me but I was just getting over a relationship and wanted 2 be single. She understood. We hung out and did everything together. We went 2 red soxs games, buffalo bills games, I worked for her at her fathers business, we partied together and we went wherever we wanted. I finally decided that I wanted 2 date her. After 2 years I got sick of her DRINKING, it was bad like once a month, so I just left her. We got back together but then I left her again because of something stupid. We were together for almost 2 years, and its been 5 months and I finally realize that I love her so much and want 2 get back with her but she doesnt want 2 cause she is talking with a guy on the internet. But she says they are only friends. She has gone 2 NYC and Cleveland and told me she slept with the guy. I still love her and told her I want her back but I did say some awful things in the past.wh 2 do.

Answer 1

Its hard to move on. Trust your first instinct. You were telling yourself that something is not right. It will get easier. I had always been with a woman. The time came when I was single for a longer period of time. I learned a lot about myself in that solo time.

Answer 2

Ok so you broke up with her and now regret it. Do you remember why you broke it off. Are you sure that you are not just going through that remembering the good things and forgetting the bad stuff phase. I am in the opinion that we may find love many times in our lives. While I still dream of a love I once had I know that it will never be the same again. So my advice is to move on. She has. If she has slept with another man she has made a solid step to another possibility. She will never be the same with you. Trust me. The things we say that hurt another leave scars and although they may be forgiven there is a small reminder that it has happened. So find love again. You will. Learn from this that what you say matters, what you do matters. Be sure of your actions before acting. And remember why you took that action.

Answer 3

Move on buddy, I know that's easier said than done, but she has made it clear that she doesn't want to get back with you (even if you ARE a good choice for her she doesn't see that and you can't force it on her). If you really want her then be there for her as a friend, if you guys are really meant to be it will pan out and you will BE together. But it sounds like she's already moved on, she may SAY she's only friends with this guy because she doesn't want to tell you the truth that there is more to it, she may also be stringing you along, for an ego boast or a backup, in either case you don't want that, it's degrating to you and it can't be healthy for YOUR ego. Letting go of someone you love is like deciding to cut off your own finger with a butcher knife, the anticipation of doing it is unbareable and so is the pain, but if in the end it's for the better, then you know you have to do it!

Answer 4

it sounds like she's moved on. it doesn't matter if she's only friends with this guy, she doesn't want to get back with you. it doesn't mean that she is considering you. think about it, you have been moving in and out of this relationship, why don't you move on away from it....you could have been in other relationships by now and discovering new experiences and different personalities. you seem to be clinging on. and if i were her you leaving the relationship all the time would have been too much.

Answer 5

Doesnt sound like a healthy relationship in the making.You cant make some one love you, so be patient and if its meant to be it will be.Words cant be taken back. If you learn anything in relationships, its words hurt the longest and the hardest.It also makes room for insecurity in the relationship.

Answer 6

tHIS IS COMPLECATED... ASK YOURSELF IF YOU KNEW U COULD NOT GET BACK TOGETHER, HOW UPSET WOULD U BE? iF THE ASWER IS REALLY FRICKIN UPSET THEN CALL HER AND TRY IT AGAIN. dOES SHE STILL DRINK? iF SHE DOES YOU ARE GPING TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH THAT PROBLEM AGAIN, B/C IT DOESN'T GO AWAY. wHAT OTHER PROBLEMS DID THE TWO OF U HAVE? aRE U WILLING TO LOOK AT THESE PROBLEMS AGAIN AND TRY WITH A FRESH ATTITUDE TO FIX THEM? iF YOU HONESTLY ARE, THEN MAYBE YOU SHOULD CALL HER. iF SHE IS TOO INTO THIS INTERNET GUY TO LISTEN TO U THEN IT IS NOT MEANT TO BE. yOU WILL HAVE TO ACCEPT THIS. bUT MAYBE A NEW START W/ A NEW GIRL WOULD BE BETTER ANYWAY, JUST BE OPENMINED, IF SHE WON'T TAKE U BACK, JUST LET IT GO. EASIER SAID THAN DONE, GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

I'll go for this one and try to answer it OK. You need to leave her alone, while she is drinking, This can only bring you down, But you seem to love her so go on and go over to her house with a bottle of Jack and Coke. The more the Merrier. Bring Jack alone on this one.

Answer 8

It's time to date an older woman, someone more mature. I think you'd have fun with some sexy MILF. Someone more experienced. Someone who's past all the drinking and partying stage.

Answer 9

transforming into delicate with your id isn't something that occurs in one day. It sounds to me like you're gay (or bi) and merely have not gotten round to accepting it yet (yet it really is not any longer somewhat something a 0.33 social gathering can deduce from a paragraph). trust me, I went even if that for years. in case you choose to "discover out what/who you're" even if, merely supply it time, you'll recognize.

Answer 10

i hate new york.... sorry about your problems.