My sister in law is married to a obnoxious jerk( my brother in law)My husband and I seen some changes with his sister and my brother in law since they got married..He always complain if she spends money but it is alright for him to be spending money like it is going out of style.He never helps with the baby or helps with household chores.He comes home,flops down on the couch and if the baby is fussy;he will yell at my sister in law to take care of the baby.My husband and I believes his sister and her husband will end up in divorce in the next couple years if his attitude does not change.I am not one to stick my nose in their affairs but
My own personal opinion;She rushed into a relationship which was her 1st love, He told her she needed to lose weight in order for him to go out with her;moved in after 3 months of dating;sucked up to the family and got married not a year of dating.Is it wrong to be concerned about my sister in law?
2006-07-29 17:28:35 · 10 answers · asked by wsm0628 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My husband and I are both concerned about their wellbeing.Since their marriage;he has no respect towards his wife;his mother in law or my husband and I.
I know we can not tell her to leave her husband but I just hope one day she can see what kind of @$$ her husband is
2006-07-29 17:40:34 · update #1
I think it is great that you care about your sister-in-law...But I wouldn't go so far as to say anything to him. Because at the end of the day, it is her life and she alone has to be the one to make the decisions of whether to stay or leave, or whatever. If you say something then you run the risk of both of them turning on you...I've seen it happen alot. And believe me, they would be quicker to forgive each other than to forgive you or your husband, even though what you would be doing/saying --would be out of love and concern for her. The best thing for you to do is just be kind to her, help her as much as you can, be there for her and let her know that you are in her corner no matter what, whether she stays or goes or whatever.
2006-07-29 17:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by cindybd 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's not wrong to be concerned. You just need to be supportive. She's not going to leave the louse until she's ready so there's no use trying to talk her into it. It may make her defensive. Just let her know that you love her and will stand by her if she ever needs you. Then when she gets enough of it she'll have the courage to either get him to straighten up or she'll be able to walk away from him if she can't.
2006-07-29 17:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by mocha5isfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 06:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course being concerned is normal, but try not to be too judgemental or give too much advice. You don't want to be seen as the one who tried to split them up if they end up together for a long time. Then the relationship that you have with both of them will be awkward. Try to just be there for her to talk to, and don't give her any advice except ways that she can deal with it or talk to him about it, things to improve their relationship.
2006-07-29 17:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real jerk. But, it's not your marriage. It's theirs. You need to let them work it out.
The only exception to that is if you fear for her safety. Then, you should intervene by telling her you are concerned and offering her shelter or to take her to a shelter.
2006-07-29 17:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! It does sound like she mad a bad choice in a husband. However, that is her business and you all can't get in the middle of it. The only thing you can do is support her if she asks for it.
2006-07-29 17:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so she has to care for the infant herself--as time goes by she'll realise life goes on, lots of young men need lots of time to adjust. tell her to look her best and be patient, the child deserves 2 parents, life isnt all about her. life is going to throw her a lot of curves. much more than this issue.
2006-07-29 17:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not anymore divorce can be a wonderful thing
2006-07-29 17:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by mertzball71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I do . Its my sorry *** stepdaughter, she is always cousing me & my wife ( her mother) prombles all the time. so what can I do?
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2006-07-29 18:03:45 · answer #10 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋