Here's the deal. I've been talking to someone for about 7 months now. We've gone out, done the deed, all that good stuff, but I haven't seen here since late April, even though we've talked on the phone and what not. We're about a 3-hour drive apart, and she just started a new job. I really want this woman in my life. Should I tell her that I want to be with her or should I respect her want to start her career?
2006-07-29 17:14:53 · 18 answers · asked by King Matthew 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should tell her your true feelings, but do it in a way that's not too dramatic for her to feel like she's being pressured from her new job. Just simply state your feelings for her, and your intentions. While you tell her also add that you want her to complete her job and not to quit for your sake.
If she takes it kindly, all is fine; you get your woman and she still keeps her job. But if she acts as though she cares more about her new job than your feelings for her, don't give up. Just give her a little bit of time, after all, she just started a new job; it's always hard for everyone. So just take it easy and play it cool.
2006-07-29 17:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age has some things to do with this so, how old are two? If she just gotten out of high school or in college or graduated from college then yeah you should respect her. she is young and want to fulfilled her dream to the fullest before getting tied down with family and kids.
1.) Some people want to get married and have kids right away. Once the kids are all grown up then they work on their careers. 2.) They want to finish college and go have a good career for several years and be comfortable financially and think about getting married or having a family.
3.) There is the kind that people just get married & have a family, and go to college and work part time till you get a degree and then struggle in trying to get ahead financially.
You two need to sit down or talk on the phone and find out which of the two future catagory you fit in and go from there. Only, you two should have an idea what you really, really want in life and how.
I wish the two of you the best luck.
2006-07-30 00:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by Paula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do both. When you are telling her about how you feel and if she is worried about her career, you should tell her that you guys can date while she is fulfilling her career goals and when things get more serious and you guys are both at where you would like to be maybe ask her to move in. Pretty much just get her to feel that you are willing to support her decisions and not hindering her with heavy realationship issues. Because I believe thats what gets many women frustrated, because they can't have a career and a good relationship because the guy can't support her and is always demanding more of her time that she needs to focus on her career. Basically she wants things at her own even pace. When both career and realationship work out everyone wins.
2006-07-30 00:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her! what have u got to lose? what is your fear? that she says no? well, you cant fall out of bed if u sleep on the floor! now go out there, get her a dozen roses, bring a bottle of wine, and tell her that you want her in your life! and yes , i mean drive the 3hrs right now! go and get off this internet and profess your love to her! u should not have last seen her since april if u r this into her! that is telling her that u r not that interested in her! well make it apparent you are! go the extra mile! if i found that one special girl (again) i would drive 100 hours if it must be....distance does not matter as u can change schools or jobs if u have too.....he who hesitates is lost!
2006-07-30 00:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by derek s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you want her to be with her, she might not like her new job and she might find a position where you live. Or you could move where she is. Especially if she feels the same way you do. Better than not knowing.
2006-07-30 00:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by guiltyinnosense 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should follow your instincts. If you do love this woman and want to be with her, you should tell her; she may not know that you feel this way and she may feel the same way about you, but also be feeling uncertain about telling you. Im in a LDR, it can be scary to tell someone how you feel about them, but there is often that lingering feeling of regret for not doing something and having an answer....
Good luck with making your decision.
2006-07-30 00:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by saint7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her how you feel, and if she respects you and really likes you, she will understand. You should also respect her and her choice to pursue her career though. What ever you do, don't wonder about what to do because it will just make things worse.
2006-07-30 00:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by fariygurl2014 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her. Why not? Be confident in yourself, show good character. And if it does not happen the way you wanted, then just pick yourself up and start over.
2006-07-30 00:20:21 · answer #8 · answered by happymixer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be together when a reasonable amount of distance. It depends on what you do for a living. Do you want to relocate. Bottum line. What is more important
2006-07-30 00:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by Terry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write a note in a cute card, females usually like that, just say something very casual and light--like 'let's go out sometime for dinner', remember take it slowly- if you keep pushing-she has nowhere to go but backwards.
2006-07-30 00:21:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋