I have no life?

Question

i have no life because i dont have any friend because i am not allowed any friends because my boyfriend of 3 years is abusive now everyone on here keeps on telling me to leave him because ill get killed in the end but im already dead inside so why should it matter the police dont do anything anyways and i have already been to court about it they just wont do anything, i have been abused and neglected my whole life and i just am looking for away out i know im confusing but who isnt and what should i do?, one day i tried to leave but he cut me and i havent tried since because i justam about to give up on myself can someone help me? please,.................

Answer 1

ok you need to officially cut him out of your life. first of all, tell your family whats going on. buy an apartment where he cannot find you, like 30 mins away from where he lives. get your family& friends to move your stuff to the new apartment and when its all there just tell him that you will see him tommorow and go to your new apartment. and from then on, never answer his phone calls, dont reply to his emails, and somehow make sure your family and friends dont tell him where you live. just cut him out of your life. i know it will be hard, but if you truly want to leave him and are conserned about yourself, just do it.

and also you should probably see a physciatrist for emocional help.

Answer 2

G, I was just looking 2 see who was on here 2night, and what do I see (I HAVE NO LIFE), it hit home 4 me. I have been feeling that all day (no life no life, I have no life) but it's not because of a man abusive man. My father never hit me so I believe that no man better not hit me and if he try he better know that he's about 2 meet his devil. My mother always said, u can do bad by yrself, so u don't need a man who don't respect u. Listen u got up this morning right, than that mean u have another day 2 try again, and yes u can do it. I do understand about no one helping u (police,others,courts,and sometimes u think god don't care) God do care but he did say help yrself 2 and he will b with u all the way, and u have alot of people that u may not know praying 4 u , and u r strong because u came here and ask 4 help that's a start . Right now u r alone there so u will have 2 help yrself until u get away from there (him) wait not that alone god is there ok. I will pray 4 u ! As 4 my no life thing I'm just fearful of thing , but I'm working on it , no friends,no family, just me and god , my dog 2 that help alittle , and I go 2 the YMCA now and therapy 2 times aweek. Say, (I can I can I can do it) every day ok !

Answer 3

You need help....both emotionally and physically. You sound as though u may be depressed and overwhelmed by your situation. However, have you thought about the possibility of having this email forwarded to local law enforcement agents? What you have described (if indeed true) is abuse/assault which is a crime and punishable by law. Having some experience in the field of law I can tell you that the only reason nothing has been done, is if you have A) Pressed charges and had them dropped B) Taken out order of protections and then violated them by having contact with him C) Not really sure what it is you want to do (not sure if you're really ready to leave this guy or not).

Get yourself some help. Nobody on any website can do anything but give you suggestions; what you choose to do from there is up to you...........Best wishes...

Answer 4

theres a way out of it. You can mysteriously leave town, join the military or tell him to grow up because real men dont hit and there is always a butch in jail that rapes women beaters. DOnt be scared to call for domestic violence and if you have a mark the police will throw him in jail. Get a restraining order but the mental abuse hes giving you is life restraing. Ill be your friend I dont care what he thinks he can do. I doubt he can hurt a ex army ranger :-)

Answer 5

So you'd rather live an empty life for the rest of your life with your abusive boyfriend? Nice choice. *Sarcasm*

Life doesn't change unless YOU change it. From your post, I understand you've tried. But life isn't always easy and you have to keep trying until you get what you want.

As for friends? You can make those easily. I'll be anyones friend.

Try your best. Don't give up yet.

Loose the boyfriend. He's making it worse.

Answer 6

If he's abusive and you can't seem to live normally, ending the relationship is the best thing you can ever do for yourself. Move to another city. Start from scratch. Tell him you don't want to continue with the abuse.

If you want something, you really have to stand up for yourself, coz nobody else will for you.

A restraining order may be handy at times, since I read that your BF kinda flips out from time to time.

Answer 7

Contact a battered women's shelter in your area - they will help you get away... But you have to be committed to STAYING away. Too often, the women in these situations wind up going back to their abusers, and many do wind up dead.

Life is too short and precious, and you are a beautiful person who deserves better. You can get away and start a new life for yourself. There is help out there. Go to a web search engine, type in women's shelter and your city and state. Don't look back...

I wish you success and happiness!

Answer 8

I would seek some help from the community. There are a lot of "shelter" programs for women victims of abuse. Look up those on google and call the one next to your place. The day you will be gone he will never know what happpened.

Answer 9

no one can help you if you choose to be in your current state. It's not difficult at all to leave someone who ever dare to hit or abuse you. What are you hoping to get from guy like him?

I said you move away, leave the town and stay a new life. It's NEVER too late to start afresh, trust me.

Answer 10

Get yourself a passport and get the hell out of the country. Keep running until he stops looking for you, 'cos everyone else is right HE'LL KILL YOU ONE DAY? Im even suprised he lets you use the internet if he's that abusive.