Will I ever find a man? I seriously doubt is b/c I'm ugly and this world is pretty shallow.?

Answer 1

Don't think anyone on this board knows the answer to that. I have hope that everyone finds someone. I'll cross my fingers for you!

Answer 2

missgigglebunny,
First of all after reading your description of yourself I wonder if you really want a man. Before you can attract anybody, male or female you need to look at yourself in a different light. I dont believe that you are looking at this world the right way. True there are some shallow people out there and you obviously have the ability to spot them. Thats a start, stay away from people you that you feel are shallow. Trust your gut feelings. Then you need to not look at people just from the outside. I know its hard to do. But before you discount anyone as not being attractive talk with them, lisen to what they say, how they talk, how they laugh, how they listen. I once had a boyfriend who was about 80% bald, with a great body, but not what you would call attractive by your average person, someone I never pictured myself being attracted to, until we started talking. His personality was great, he liked to do alot of the same things that I did and he was extremely funny. I really fell for this guy in a big way, because he was so attractive on the inside that I couldnt stop looking at the outside and believe me, then when I looked at him I saw the most gorgeous man. Also dont put yourself down by saying you are ugly, you need to focus on your good points, everyone has them you just have to find them. You need to like yourself, and be happy with yourself as a person or you wont be able to make anyone else happy. Remember when you are out there just be yourself and dont judge a book by its cover. Think about this " even a book with a beautiful cover can have a lot of blank pages inside " slparrott2000

Answer 3

Yes you will find a man but dont try so hard and dont be hard on yourself, I have said this many times on this site & I'll say it again dont worry about what other people think if you want to be happy in life, It does not matter if your fat, skinny, tall, short,ugly, pretty or in between, Its the personality I look for in a person & how friendly they are NOT their looks and if you want to be happy, Dont worry about those shallow people out there in the world cause what would they know with their tiny little minds, So dont be hard on yourself , you will find that man when you least expect it.

Answer 4

With a pessimistic attitude like that then maybe you won't. There's someone out there for you, just be patient and never give up! Not everyone judges others solely based on looks, many do but NOT everyone. You don't need a shallow boyfriend or husband so keep searching! I would start acting like the person you want to meet and marry (in values and character, for instance have the good qualities so others are attracted to you).

Answer 5

I hope so. Because if they're so no hope for you, then there's no hope for me. And I really dont' want to end up as a crazy cat lady!!! I hate that the world is shallow. I'm not hideous, I'm mostly just tall and that seems to be a big turn off to all the guys around here...around anywhere really. And besides I'm confident and strong and independent..and i think I intimade guys. Anywaaays. Enough about me. Try to remain positive. Act confidently even if you don't always feel that way. Smile and just be you. I am sure that all hope is not lost yet. Keep searching.

Answer 6

There are several things to address in your question that have to do with misperceptions.
1. Physical beauty is a matter of symmetry (beauty as a result of balance or harmonious arrangement - American Heritage Dictionary courtesy of Yahoo) so, in order to judge whether you are truly ugly you would have to give yourself the symmetry test. If you pass the test, then you are not truly ugly. If you are not symmetrical, there are plenty of makeup and clothing tricks to fool the eye, therefore it is pretty difficult to be ugly.
2. People are not shallow, they are driven by millions of years of genetic and hormonal conditioning. This includes the search for a good mate for the purpose of replicating genes. The "good mate search" involves symmetry (also known as beauty). There is another thing guys look for (that they are not aware of): waist to hip ratio. You can find out more about it at www.healthcalculators.org/calculators/waist_hip.asp
If you don't fall within the waist-hip ratio guidelines, they will probably tell you how to "get it done." I prefer a girdle and strrrretching myself as tall as possible.
3. Will you ever find a man? Surely you must mean a "male person." They are pretty easy to come across when you are all dressed up (with lipstick), and you smell nice. Looking them straight in the eye and smiling also works well.
Yesterday I went to the grocery store in clogs, a girdle on the outside of my clothes, black socks to my knees (one had fallen to my ankle), my hair and teeth were unbrushed, and I stunk to high heaven. I piled up the cart, spent a lot of money, and looked around for some help. Nobody wanted to look at me.
Today I went to the store after I had taken a shower. I also put on some makeup, a pretty dress (with girdle under the clothes), cute shoes, brushed my teeth and hair, and splashed on some cologne. I FELT pretty. I picked up a pretty plant and two gallons of milk (without a cart). One guy insisted that I needed help carrying the two gallons of milk to the checkout counter. Two guys insisted that it was their turn to help me carry the two gallons of milk to my car (which was parked right outside the door). So, today I was pretty, yesterday I was butt ugly and both times I got what I deserved.
So, I leave you with this thought to repeat to yourself several times a day until you get it right:
Beauty is a state of mind brought about by doing beautiful things to yourself.
And here is another one:
Pretty is as Pretty DOES! So go do something beautiful and you will be beautiful.
And there always is the good old standby predicated on the fact that men are genetically impelled to spread their genes: Men are always attracted to a WILLING female.
'Nuff said.

Answer 7

Well, you will never have a man with that attitude! Your confidence says a lot and if you walk around thinking, feeling and acting ugly, no one will pay you any attention. Get some confidence girl and do things that make you feel beautiful. Look at Whoopi Goldberg, she was married and has child!

Answer 8

Do not listen to any of the idiots that posted on here, they are all a bunch of immature children, i can tell your hurting right now, and that sucks cause Ive been there plenty of times, wondering if ill ever meet a good women, or if im even good enough for a women to date. but i believe that there is someone out there for everyone, and you can't give up. soon he will come and make your life sooooo much better!!

Answer 9

Why do u think u r ugly? Just becuz you haven't met a boy yet? Seriuosly, if all guys only went out with hot girls the population will be shrinking and we'd be a extinct species. Just focus on your best assets.... You mind.

Answer 10

There once were two guys.

One was walking a tightrope strung between the two tallest buildings in the world.

The other guy was getting a bj from an ugly girl.

At the same exact moment in time they both had the same thought......

Don't look down, don't look down!

Answer 11

You can find a man though you can't be picky if he isn't handson. I use to look like a hefty boy and my boyfriend still asked me out. (no he isn't gay). I changed my appearance since then though still a little hefty. He isn't the cutest thing or very reliable but he loves me no matter what i look like.