my sisters 14 yr old got into an argument with my 10 yr old daughter and I asked what was going on, I started to say something and my sisters daughter called me an as*hole , told me to go to hell and continued to scream nasty words at me before I could even get my words out which I was going to tell her to ignore my daughter and do what she wanted (they were in the pool), I didnt get a chance, my sister didnt say a word her daughter continued to cuss me out and my child, on her way to the car, and they left , how do you think I should handle this? I feel like I should say something when my sister calls or should I call her and discuss this? my sister acted like it was ok. this is not the only time this has happened. I would never allow my children speak like that to anyone especially an adult. and especially an aunt or uncle any elder for that matter.any one for that matter!
2006-07-29 16:50:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sorry that you were all raised to be so mean to each other and have such bad boundaries.
re: how do you think I should handle this? I feel like I should say something when my sister calls or should I call her and discuss this? my sister acted like it was OK. this is not the only time this has happened.
......this is about good/healthy boundaries which seem not to exist between you and your sister so I'd get busy learning about boundaries for yourself in some relationship and codependency books. it's up to you to set your boundaries so others can not so easily insult and offend you like this.
look here:
http://www.innerself.com/Relationships/index.shtml
http://www.selfgrowth.com/topics.html
2006-07-29 18:16:25 · answer #1 · answered by jimrich 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A 14 year-old acting that way is unacceptable. Speak to your sister before her daughter cusses out the WRONG person, if you know what I mean. My kids would NEVER be allowed to act this way, especially to another family member.
2006-07-29 16:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by eacreporter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a serious heart to heart discussion about this with your sister. There is no reason whatsoever for a child to speak that way to an adult and what's worse is that your sister allowed it. It's pure disrespect and she is going to have her hands full if she continues to allow her daughter act out with no worry of consequence for her horrible behavior. She isn't being a responsible parent and she needs to re-think her parenting techniques.
2006-07-29 16:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by kel_kat28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have answered your question. You would never allow your children to address anyone like that and you should not allow your sister's children to address you like that or influence your children. Have a little chat with your sister about this. It is very inappropriate behaviour and also you may wish to mention that if they continue to behave like that you will really limit visits with them. Decent people do not behave that way. They will not make or keep friends with that type of behaviour.
2006-07-29 16:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by hopflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow does someone need to learn respect for others! Teenage years are rough for everyone but there is no way that behaviour should be acceptable. I wouldnt allow my child to be in contact with this kid unless she changes her behaviour. I would explain your decision to your sister and let her know your reasons. My guess is your sister cant control this kid. Good Luck!
2006-07-29 17:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by Kim C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally Unacceptable. If you do nothing about it, It teaches your children it's OK to be disrespectful. Also did this happen at your house? Well, myself I would want an apology to my daughter and myself from my niece, and my Sister before she came back to my house. Everyone has bad day's.
2006-07-30 12:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by mrsscott1215 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister that if her daughter continues to act that way around you or your children that she won't be allowed over anymore.
2006-07-29 16:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by Aumatra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that if her daughter does not behave in fount if you guys then you don´t want her daughter around you.Because it sounds like she just needs a big smack in the mouth.And the next time she starts to say something bad to you or your daughter just smack her in the mouth.And if anyone says anything tell them she should have done this a long time ago.Good luck.
2006-07-29 17:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW... what a little *****... im Chinese and this is the way my people would handle this... you should take your niece and beat the ***** out of her and put some respect into her for her elders... children get like that because they arent told NO... and authority isnt reinforced
2006-07-29 16:58:53 · answer #9 · answered by underagelying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definitely tell her that it is unacceptable in your home. If she doens't like it then tell her her and her daughter are no longer welcome in your home. You shouldn't have to be treated that way in your own home. If it was me, I would have said something right then and there. I would have said, "this is m y home and my pool, and you will not talk to me in that manner. If you don't apologize right now, then you will be asked to leave." But that's just me.
Good luck to you!
2006-07-29 17:02:24 · answer #10 · answered by babe_in_the_country 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋