50 years old!?

Question

I will be 50 soon....I'm tired, don't want to work after 33 years of employment, not interested in sex ..... I need a pick me up....any suggestions? Or, is there something wrong with me....what's your opinion?

Answer 1

Nothing's wrong, you're just in a re-evaluation phase right now.

If you are able, take a couple of weeks off.....from everything. Go somewhere and get away, someplace you always wished you had gone but hadn't; and not for the purpose of "vacationing" yourself into exhaustion, but somewhere you can just appreciate being there and being alive. Get completely alone. Let every day unfold itself; don't sit in your room, neither plan out every day. Learn to breathe again.

Give yourself an opportunity to reflect on your life, and think about where you want to go from here. It sounds to me like you're just stuck in the routine; unless you have goals, thoughts for the future, life seems like a big merry-go-round. You need it to become the roller coaster again.

Answer 2

I too am 50 this week
I too am tired and could care less if I ever have sex again ( but then again I am stil recovering from a very painful breakup where my guy of 8 years broke up with me via a email)
so right now I dont want sex but if the Mr. He'll do came along well... thats a different story

For me to increase engery and feel good I take B-12 , B-6, Vit E, Alpha Lipolic Acid, DMAE, Ester C, calcium w/vit D,Biotin, every day

I go to a 1 1/2 hr butts/guts class and 1 1/2 core w/upper body strengthening class every week
I ride my bike every few days and walk at least a mileevery eve besides running around at work

I too wish I did't "have to work" and worked because I wanted to but that ain't happening anytime soon so I try make the best of it and havae fun at work.. some days it works
other? UGH

I go to car shows/car cruises , at least 6 concerts through out the Summer

I dont think I look my age and I KNOW I don't act it

Sometimes I feel 50 ( thats what aspirin is for) but then again I am Damm proud that I made it this far

Age is all in the mind and attitude
You Go Girl!

Answer 3

You may be reacting to turning 50 without realizing it. I really had a hard time with 47 until I realized what it was all about. I feared becoming my mother at 47 and older. Realized it wouldn't happen because I have a different and more active lifestyle.

I am now over 50 and sometimes don't like my job, but like working, love sex, and have a very active life. People guess me as being late 30's or early 40's. I have already been through menopause. I think a lot of it is my attitude and staying active.

Find out what is going on with you. Maybe you're having a hard time with 50. Go to your doctor have, your hormone levels checked, see if you may be anemic. It can be better for you if you want it to!!

Answer 4

Take L argenine about 1500 mg per day. This will open up your circulatory system. Take a multi vitamin daily. Take two table spoons of aple cider vinegar with a glass of water daily. Take some comunity adult education courses, It's a great place to meet some decent interesting people. Once a week try and do something youve never done before. Expanding your horizons is always a good thing. Look into the mirror each day and tell yourself how beatiful a person you are. Learn to love yourself and everyone will love you in kind. As far as working. Is it ever to late to find a different job. Take some yoga and pilates classes. stretching will help you to be a better lover. Open yourself up to the idea that you can still have the best sex you ever had in your life. Learn to be sexy, because in reality someone probably thinks you are.

Answer 5

Suspend your apprehension. Look for a board certified Chinese Accupuncturist and Herbologist and you will find your answers. The Tortoise Clinic of Chinese Medicine has locations in Destin Florida and Atlanta Georgia. Frank Gibson is the physician and let me tell you, he can work wonders. They helped me with PolyCystic Kidney Disease, incurrable by western medicine, terminal in fact. Stones gone, cysts gone, all pain gone, weight back up to normal, more energy than I have ever had, no lie.

The certification is the key. There are not a lot of certified clinics in the US, but to find one and take advantage of what they can offer is worthwhile. You are tired from stagnating in a pointless drudgery, no offense, but it is extremely taxing and causes imbalances that result in energy blockage. Typical fees are about $80 - $90 per visit plus the herbs @ $10 a bag. Given my condition, I went weekly and consumed 3 bags a week for over 9 months. Barring any serious conditions, your visits would most likely be less often and for a shorter length of time. Probably like a few months at a couple times a month. Then once every six months to a year depending for maintainence. It takes about an hour each visit. You brew the herbs like tea, they taste like crap, but they do amazing things.

For us it is alternative, for a billion Chinese it is just medicine.

Answer 6

It's time for phase 2; make a change! You still have a lot of time left. Can you convert those 33 years of employment into your own business? Do you have money saved? Is there somewhere else you'd rather live? Dream big! If you're unencumbered, move to your dream locale and be what you've always wanted to be! You sound like me after my wife of 23 years left me unexpectedly 1.5 years ago ... everything was crap! Well, it took more guts than I thought I had but now I'm 56 and living this ethereal life on the island of Maui!!
Color outside the lines! Good luck.

Answer 7

It sounds like you might possibly be depressed. I suffer from depression myself. When it is mild, I find that instead of lying in bed (which is easy to do when your depressed), I get up, take a shower, and go to the tanning booth for say 15-20 minutes.
It might not work with all types of depression, but it sure helps mine. When at home, I open the windows and turn on some music. Its amazing how much this too helps.
If this doesn't do the trick, and you would rather not go to the doctor for a trial and error of different meds, then go to the health food store, or better yet, to a homeopath. There are homeopathic remedies out there that do amazing things. If you can't afford the homeopath (although you can't really afford to be depressed either), then find the most knowledgeable person at the health food store and have them help you.
Depression doesn't cure itself. It is a chemical imbalance, and is even more common later in life when our systems are changing.
Please do this for yourself and the people who care about you.
The hardest part is reccognizing that this is depression, and the next hardest part is that first step.

Answer 8

Go on a vacation and perhaps find a more interesting job. You will be retiring sometime in the near future (although you never know anymore). There is nothing wrong with not wanting to have sex...sometimes the moments and times are simply not right.

Answer 9

i agree that estrogen pills will help you feel a lot better if you're not already using them. Also try to go out and do things you could never do while you were raising your kids, you know pick up a new hobbie. Work out to keep you mentally and physically good (maybe yoga) and remember that some things just get better with age. Try the boyfriend thing, maybe some lovin will help you feel a little better again.

Answer 10

Sounds like you want to lay in the corner and do nothing all day. You need to have a plan. What do you want to do (if you can afford to retire)? Do you have plans on what you're going to do with your day? It sounds like you're in a rut and need some motivation to get out. Maybe a depression also. Maybe you're just tired of your boring job and need another job to get some stimulation moving throughout the brain.

If you feel that you are depressed, please visit a doctor. My brother in law just went through this and he's doing better.