i dont know what to do to help her , she is crying , how can i comfort her ?
2006-07-29 16:30:28 · 30 answers · asked by scandinavian_girl13 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Infectious Diseases
Get busy, busy, busy. She is going to need you like never before. Arm yourself with information. Join and participate in groups who are busy and assisting, comforting and informing each other AND the public about HIV and AIDS. Just because she is infected with the HIV - full blown AIDS does not have to occur. We need to be more informed and you have the abillity right now to help educate others. It's okay to cry - but help her understand - the tears are wasted if someone else does not learn from this experience. I would tell the same thing to someone who's child was killed by a drunk driver - MADD/SADD - there are organizations and foundations and affilifations out there to help us understand and learn from these trials and issues - take advantage of them and push your family and friends toward this issue. Get on board and be a winner.
2006-07-29 16:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably the best thing you can do is to assure her that you have accepted what she has said and that your relationship will not suffer as a result of it. I have often comforted my friend who has certain difficulties with that kind of reassurance because people get scared and leave when they find out about something like HIV infection. Can you handle not leaving her? Then, if you are sure you can handle the situation without prejudice, let her tell you about what happened. I assume it wasn't rape and she got involved with someone who didn't tell her they were infected and neither of them used protection. Well, a bad decision, but now she must face the results of it and that can be very hard to do, especially when you realize that your life is at stake and you may suffer much before you die. It is important that she see a professional who can guide her health decisions and prescribe appropriate medications. There are also alternative medicial options that have helped reduce the effects of aids. They are easily found on the internet. Let me know if you would like me to help you. I suggest counseling because this is obviously a crisis and a trauma for her. She will need several sources of support and to build a support team that includes a group, a therapist, close friends and family (if that is possible), a doctor and any specialist that is appropriate. There would also be benefit in contacting some Aids organizations to get extra support and help. Help her see that she can still make some good decisions and that you will be there to support her and help her find appropriate avenues to deal with the health issues and the emotional issues that most likely may include rejection by some of her friends/family. Who ever infected her must be reported to the police, especially if he knew he was infected and didn't tell her. Charges can be brought against someone for doing that. It may make her feel better and that she can take some control of her situation. Things will never be the same, but it doesn't have to be an ending. Assure her that it is a different beginning and that she can still live a productive and useful life, if she doesn't let the sadness take hold of her too much. It is a fact that negative emotions have a direct effect on the chemistry of the body and can adversly effect her health. Keeping the attitude up will be important. That's why counseling would be very good for her. Chances are she will not have immediate effects and she has time to find ways of helping defrey the effects with different alternative and medical treatments. I hope you can hold her and let her cry. Let her talk to you about it and just listen. After she is calmed, you can let her know the things I have said, if any of what I have said is helpful to you. I think the hardest thing to deal with is the stigma and the fear that people have about the disease. She will need support as these things change and she learns who her friends really are. Good luck. Being a friend is an art and a valuable commodity these days.
2006-07-29 17:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by winyan lowan ounye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is not what should you do but what she needs to do. If she truly is infected she needs to contact any or all persons she has been with intimatly. Next she needs to get the precise diagnosis, and speak with the doctors in charge about treatment. I know she'd scared but crying won't solve this problem. If you are a true friend you can be there for support. Make sure your friend tells the partners, and get her some medical hepl now!
2006-07-29 17:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend, be there
1. Research as much as possible on the subject of HIV, and you can get that by just typing HIV into your search engine
2. There are many support groups and help lines. check them out
3. Not all HIV is terminal, drugs have advanced and people can maintain a reasonable life
2006-07-29 16:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by Foxey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she JUST told you and is crying RIGHT NOW...you can start by getting the frig off the computer! It's not a very appropriate time to be fooling around with Yahoo Answers!
Be her friend. Be there for her. This is a serious thing! She never needed a friend as much as she does right now.
2006-07-29 16:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by pet stylist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, HIV isn't a death sentence anymore. Maybe you could encourage her by finding out some facts about HIV and letting her know that many people are living near normal lives by taking medicine every day.
2006-07-29 16:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do absolutely nothing. Don't discuss it until she discusses it - just be there for her and, most importantly FORGET that she has it otherwise you might start treating her differently and that is not good.
HIV is not AIDS and she can still lead a very normal, happy and healthy life. She just needs to take better care of herself and as her best friend, you can keep a gentle though watchful eye from the near distance.
2006-08-02 10:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jesi G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must console her as early as possible . try to make her feel that it's not the end of the world . she is just hiv victim till now .so, things could go better in future. the must not lose her cool and should think to start a nice, better and healthy life once again. she must cange her outlook towards the world . ALL MY BEST OF LUCK TO YOUR FRIEND.
2006-08-01 19:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by stylish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend. Be there for her, listen to her, and stand by her. Try to help her in her search for knowledge on this subject and help her in her decision for treatment. Don't walk away from her now. This is the scariest moment of her life, but she needs to know that this isn't the beginning of the end.
2006-07-29 16:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by jmiller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Love her, hug her, listen to her feelings
2. Help her get medical help and medication
3. Help her learn how to share this with others, logically. She should also educate others on HOW she got it; to prevent someone from making the same choice
4. Help her live life, find hope, and carry on...
For YOU, seek counselling from someone who can advise you on how to properly help guide her, and those close to you both. If you have the strength, you must take charge for both of you for a while...reach out for help.
Good luck, and call on whatever spirituality (if any) you believe in to guide your way. Take care.
2006-07-29 16:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by ?seeker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋