What is the correct way to tell a young man's parents that you caught him masturbating?

Question

I heard a noise in the hallway of my apartment building last night, and when I went out to investigate, I saw my neighbor's young son masturbating in the stairwell. I watched him for fifteen minutes before he finished. When he was done, I approached him and told him that what he was doing was a sin and he needs to talk to his parents about what he was doing and why he wasn't in his apartment at 2 am. he said; "F*ck off, fatso, my parents dont care where I'm at anyway". I feel terrible for the kid and I want to talk to his parents. Should I confront them or call social services?

Answer 1

First off, if you watched for 15 minutes and waited for him to finish, you're likely a pervert. You should have either gotten out of there and given him his privacy, or announced your presence at once.

Secondly, masturbation is not a sin. Who ever told you that is probably the same person that made you a pervert. Most boys (and almost as many girls) masturbate, it's a natural part of emerging sexuality.

Let it go. It is none of your business. If you were offended by the fact that he did it in a public space, I'd say you have a right to complain, except that you stayed and watched, so you were obviously not THAT offended. So just mind your own business.

Answer 2

First of all, why were you watching him for 15 minutes? You've never seen such a thing? You've never done such a thing?
The best thing for you to do, once you realized what was going on, was to go back in your apartment and close the door. He wasn't doing it in an appropriate place, but it wasn't abnormal behaviour. It wasn't a sin. It was just a boy with an overload of hormones. Would you rather he was out raping a young girl?
Sorry, but it wasn't your place to tell him where he should be at 2 a.m.
This isn't meant to dump on you, because your actions were well-meant, but there was a line there, that you crossed over. You don't need to 'confront' anyone. You don't need to talk to his parents. You don't need to call social services. And next time you hear a noise in the hall, keep your door closed!
This won't be your favorite response, but it is one you should pay attention to.

Answer 3

First of all, why the hell were you watching him? You know that could be taken as you're a pedophile, right? Second, he shouldn't be doing that out in the eye of the public, true, but it wasn't your business to approach him at all and tell him it was a sin. In your religion, it might be a sin but if he is old enough to make his own decisions like masturbating in a hall way, I'm sure he can deal out whether it's a sin or not in his beliefs. Obviously not. You need to stay out of his life. I doubt he wants his parents knowing he masturbates, that's probably why he was outside in the hallway.

Leave him be.

Answer 4

I hope this is a joke..because I think you're more wrong than him..he shouldn't have been in a public access area, especially if it's somewhere little kids or anyone for that matter, can witness what you did. and more disgusting is you actually sat there for 15 minutes and watched him...It really is non of your business, therefore I would stay out of it. Social services will probably laugh in your face..I'm not being smart, but I don't think they would consider that any type of neglect or abuse.

Answer 5

First off..why were you watching him?? His masterbating isn't your business, his doing it in the hallway of an apartment building is however. You should approach his parents about the time he was out of the apartment and that he was acting inappropriately. You should also think about why you watched him for 15 minutes before you said anything..thats sick.

Answer 6

It really scares me that you watched a kid masturbate for 15 minutes. Please get some help.

It's none of your business what that kid does with his private parts as long as he's not hurting anyone else. What do you think his parents are going to do? Kick him out? They'd probably call the cops if they found out you watched for 15 minutes.

Answer 7

It ought to have been so embarrassing to be caught. having mentioned that what you have been doing exchange into completely common. What your sister is doing isn't. i'm assuming that she is older than you which of them in all risk makes it stressful which you are able to face as much as her. What she is suggesting is molestation. even although she isn't having actual touch with you she is attempting to rigidity you into appearing a sexual act in front of others against your will. perchance she does not see that way and as quickly as she hears this she would be able to be embarrassed and enable the finished element drop. If no longer confer with a counselor at your college. he would be waiting that can assist you you with the region. i could additionally advise you talk on your father and mom. tell whichever parent you sense closest to which you have been caught masturbating with the aid of your sister. you do no longer ought to bypass into info as a techniques with the aid of fact the pictures you used. this could be awkward despite if this is going to open up communique. Like I mentioned masturbation is common. as quickly as your father and mom be responsive to on the subject of the region this is going to eliminate all your sister's capability. As on your father and mom racist attitudes, I understand. My father and mom (extraordinarily my father) have been quite racist. I discovered to stop arguing with them with the aid of fact all it did exchange into frustrate me. You discover ways to easily forget approximately approximately it and in the event that they say issues which you hit upon extremely offensive (i.e. the N be conscious) tell them you do no longer like it and please appreciate you with the aid of no longer conversing that way in front of you. That worked for me. sturdy success.

Answer 8

I'm more concerned that you chose to watch. I would say if he was out at that hour, his parents don't care and social services would be the appropriate ones to call - but don't forget to mention your 15 minute viewing process.

Answer 9

uhm, when since was masturbating a sin.i'm in highschool and practically every guy i know masturbate and even the christian 1s too.so get off his case and even when u tell his parents what can they do to really stop it.??he can do it where ever he goes and where ever he goes his penis goes.uhm and i'm sure ur not a saint either.right? cauz i mean i think u enjoy watchin little boys jerk off u f**kin perve. and that's a sin.get a life!!! peace out!

Answer 10

Either way you react, you're gonna get unkind responses and a "who cares" response. If you report it, you'd best report that it was in a public place. That'll get those dumb social workers all worked up in their politically-correct-frenzy, and they might do something. After that, pray for the man. Nobody else is going to help him the way you want to. God will extend His caring hand to the young man. God Bless you.