my boyfriend likes to to get high occasionally i am completely in love with him and he loves me...i kno because he's constantly proving to me and telling me why he loves em so much...but he always talks about smoking and getting high...and it makes me feel really depressed because it seems like he nevers thinks about me jsut smoking smoking smoking...i don't mind taht he smokes and get high occasionally becuase i love him for who he is not what he does or is....he makes me happy in almost every way...the only other problem is..is this girl named cassie...she likes him A LOT and i'm not sure if he likes her still but when we broke up for the short day that we did i found out that he was calling her and everything wasting no time at all to get over me...then the day he asked me back out...i found out he was still trying to get with her...guys and girls please help me out i can't even regconize my own feelings..i don't know what is what here...HELP!!!
2006-07-29 15:56:35 · 14 answers · asked by angel_monkey_44004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok listen hunny, i had a guy that smoked pot and he told me how much he cared about and all and how he wanted to do anything to prove that he still liked me alot even thou i moved 3 states away from him...and then i asked him that the one thing that would make me realize after 3 years of being beaten up in a relationship with a guy that smoked pot, i simply told him to choose me or pot...
its not the guy that is making all the mistakes, its the pot, and you have to simply tell him to pick you or pot...cuz honey, i hate to have someone else go through what i did, it really hurts when the guy who says hes likes you (loves you) decides that he would rather smoke a joint then be with you....
guys that smoke pot....are bad for girls that dont smoke pot...
2006-07-29 16:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by Daney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be more worried about him going after this other girl than him getting high. Like you said, he wasted no time getting over you. He may have been upset and trying to cope or something, but he sounds like kind of a dog. Especially if he was still trying to get with this other girl the same day that you got back together. It sounds like you two have some issues to hash out.
2006-07-29 23:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by DIRT MCGIRT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all when you smoke all the time like that and think about smoking all the time like that then it is a serious problem. That 's not normal. When you smoke chronically like that you are never in your right mind. I know that you love him but he has a bit of an addiction sounds like. Most folks smoke when they are stressed out if they just want to do something to lighten their day not just because its there. But I think you need to let him go because he is just gonna hurt you in the long run.
2006-07-29 23:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by lilcc2006sing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok he spends more time thinking about smoking than you. He is still trying to get with another girl. umm what exactly is the question here. He obviously not interested or just doesn't care about how you feel. This could be because you haven't told him. Try telling him how this all makes you feel. If he still doesn't seem to care move on he's not worth it.
2006-07-29 23:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by fly on the wall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was on old friend and he was calling her for advice.. Either that or he asked her out and she said no.
If HE asked YOU back out then thats a good sign right?
I feel you on the smoking thing. I don't mind my husband used to do drugs but what I don't like is when he would be all like HEHEH ooo smoking WEED.. So immature and he acts like its the most important thing in his life!
But he's grown up from that now - eventually MOST guys do.
2006-07-29 23:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound to be in some confusion with your thoughts. this makes sense because you are questioning alot and trying to figure it out, but you end up with no answer and feeling more confused. if your bf is smoking alot and thinking about it alot, then he may have a problem. this could explain why he doesn't think about you all the time because he's thinking about smoking. it's easy for ppl to reassure you of their love for you by talking about it, but they need to demonstrate this to you. i would ask your bf if he needs help for his using. if his life revolves around smoking, this is when he has a problem, and you need to decide what to do about the relationship. your relationship will get worse if he decides to continue. it will be hard for you to support him. if he is contacting the other girl, i would look at all the things that are happening to me and ask myself if i need to be in a more healthier and respectful relationship.
2006-07-29 23:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I had the EXACT problem. I even have a child with a guy like that. You don't want to hear this, but he is a liar and a manipulater and he will never change. Take my advice for whats its worth, but i went through it for 2 years, and he still tries to tell me he loves me and I fall for it, even though I prove his lies, and he covers them up, I believe him. I am finally realizeing he is not the person, i made him to be or the front he put out for me. I'm sorry, you HAVE to try to move on!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-07-29 23:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by Whitknee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change someone, they have to change themselves because if they try to change for you they will resent you. If you don't smoke and it bothers you then you have to choose what is best for you. You already compromised yourself and your values by being with someone who smokes and makes you feel unimportant. He most love you alot to make you feel that way. Now as for cassie, she will probably be more than happy to take your place and you might want to let her. Your boyfriend doesn't sound very good for you. He makes you feel unimportant and he hurt you by trying to get with her. He wants to have you and have her too. Otherwise why would he jeopardize his relationship with you by trying to talk to her? You need to do what is best for you and it doesn't sound like your boyfriend is it.
2006-07-29 23:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by guiltyinnosense 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your confusing. You say he always expresses his feelings to you, then you say all he thinks about is getting high. Now your saying he likes this girl. I think you need to move on. Your wasting your time. He's playing you. His brain is fried from the drugs.
2006-07-29 23:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why go for this lousy guy I'd get out because if hes doing these lousy things he can't be trusted.
When dating a guy set some ground rules, if he breaks them dump the chump.
2006-07-29 23:03:02 · answer #10 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋