How can I feel sexy when I stay at home cooking, cleaning, and taking care of kids all day??

Question

And how do I make time for it all?? I see no need to clean the house in heels and a dress....but I am tired of feeling frumpy and "housewife"-ish.. I know there has to be a happy medium somewhere.

Answer 1

If you did all that and you were my gf/wife you would be sexy to me no matter what. Guys like this sort of thing. But looks like your doing it for yourself sort of thing and I did some reaserch for ya, the most interesting point to me was sharing the load..YES!! get daddy involved, as a poppa myself I know how men can get carried away with thinking there only there to put the bread on the table. Also what about grandma and grandpa, uncles aunts anybody that can pick the kids up once a week or something, this way you can go and spend some time for yourself. Feeling sexy is going to take time every day and we only have so much of it, so do a little organization and recruiting and you will be well on your way - good luck !

Answer 2

Honey, you need to make the time, it will not set itself aside for you!

The person you really want to look/feel sexy for is your husband, right? Set aside the last 20 minutes before he comes home to "fix up, brush up, and paint up".

Put on music that makes YOU feel good (the kids can do without "Barney" for awhile). Put on something YOU like to wear, sans the baby food stains and grease spots. Etc.

I'm not saying "get a professional do" here. Keep it simple. You both work hard all day; respect that in each other.

Remember that your romance life is NOT diminished by your job or his. It is simply another part of life that you share. It is part of being a wife. Just one of the more "fun" parts.

BTW, when the kids are asleep, and the doors are closed, use your imagination a little! Everybody loves a little suprise once in awhile. Let him get to bed first, and then walk in to the bedroom in heels and a raincoat, and nothing else! You get the idea.

Sexiness is deliberate, not an accident. If you work at it, you will feel it.

Have a really great time!

Answer 3

You don't have to be frumpy to clean and and tend to kids: put your hair up where a cut up tee shirt and some cut off pants.

During day when kids are sleep, take time and paint your nails - they're probably short, cause cleaning and all, but no reason not to wear a light color and don't forget the toe nails.

After the kids are in bed a nice shower bath if you have time, fragrant soaps, lotions... nice satin top with cute panties or cute or fem. p.j.s

Once a week you should always have private time for bath, lite some candles, a music - do a facial,etc.

p.s. and once a week you should always have a date out with mate! That's a must!

Answer 4

Let your husband read this post. It is blunt, but I feel it is true. Sir, Man the f*ck up. You went and had these kids, took these marriage vows, signed the papers to get all of these bills you work so hard to pay. I'm sorry that life is tough, but it is tough for everyone. I work hard at a job I hate so I can put food on the table for my family. My god how selfish can you be. You're just gonna' put your whole family on the street because you are bored. If you're so damn bored, buy a gameboy, take up a hobby, make your life more interesting. Your wife is a saint and you're just pissing it away because??? What? You can't afford that new sports car? You wanna f*ck your secretary? I don't know what your problem is, but your family is one responsibility you don't walk away from EVER!!! They are the only ones who will be there for you. They are the only ones who love you, and they need you. Figure it out, but if you leave them, you are a true piece of sh!t. I'm not saying you are, but if you do this you will be. Please get some counceling.

Answer 5

I am also a stay at home mom and I go through the same thing. What I do and it may sound funny but when I have to go to the supermarket or doing run arounds I'll where a cute outfit do my hair and just go and it helps a little. When I put the kids to bed for the night thats when I take the time to do my fingernails and my toenails and that also makes me feel good. Its worth a try right..If you get different more interesting answers pass them on.. lol

Answer 6

Well i doubt you really are trying to impress someone or feel sexy while cleaning. Just remember that cleaning time doesnt really matter what type or kind of clothes you wear.

To feel sexy, its simple just go out, and wear something a little revealing but of course not too much that the perverts out there will be drooling all day. Just wear whatever you think you can stand wearing, and of course that makes you feel sexy.

Go out somewhere with some friends, go with some 'girlfriends' to eat or something.

-Edward

Answer 7

Girl I know it sounds weird but everytime I come home from work, do the laundry, put my husbands dinner in the fridge, help his little brother with his homework (who is like a son to us).. I feel so empowered that I feel sexy!

I'm not saying "turned on" but "sexy" .. like accomplished. I love running around trying to be superwoman. But of course I know my limits I don't wear myself out.

You should try to get a partime job if it's possible. Take a class at the community college. At least a Saturday class. This independence will make you feel soo sexy and strong.

Answer 8

For cooking buy a reall cute apron, while cleaning, etc. no need to wear shoes/heels just dress cute otherwise lowcut shirt, tank top, shorts, skirt, don't just go around in sweats, you start to feel funny like you said. SO even if you are just doing this for you, do what you have to to feel cute and sexy while doing daily things.
You can also wear pretty earrings or necklaces, as long as they don't get in the way. Doing daily things can be sexy, as long as you feel it, believe you are and know you are!

Answer 9

For starters you are doing the BEST thing for your children and husband by being at home. Kudos to you. Before your husband gets home try to get your shower in and get your makeup and hair done. I know this is easier said than done so try making it a goal two or three times a week. Then for those romantic times buy yourself some lingerie. Or go buy yourself some cutsie undies and bras. You will at least know you have some sexy under garments on under your frumpies. Your hubby will like knowing that as well. Hang in there and good luck to you!!

Answer 10

Well, now you're shootin' juice, Girl!

Yeah!

Sexiness depends on how you dress, on keeping yourself in shape and on your self perception and personal confidence.
Genuine self-confidence has a natural appeal about it.
For many women this can actually be better gained in their natural role as a housewife than in trying to pursue some competitive career.
Fundamentally, whether hitting work, dancing, or playing ball, how girlish, feminine, or sexy you look depends on the fine arts of your dress, grooming, personal mannerisms, language and your self-image and confidence.

Sex Appeal, on the other hand, is also reliant on your how you 'see' and like to relate to the opposite sex.
Do you like to appeal to your mate, or do you not prepare for his homecoming?
Do you take out perhaps 30 minutes before his homecoming to appropriately prepare for him and set the mood, as then, it's his turn to receive your focus.
So, your personal presentation needs to center more on him at that point.

As someone else pointed out, also, you should religiously observe at least one day [set it] per week to go out together.
This does marvels for the overall relationship between you.

One other thing:

Homeliness in a woman can be one of the most attractive things about her!
There is a certain femininity and softness which is not so present in 'Career girls'.
Many women also even look very sexy when pregnant.

So, you tell me whether you can't be sexy as a home mother and wife!