Should I feel bad about drunkenly peeing in an alleyway on a girl’s night out with my friends?

Question

I went out on a friends hen night recently (that’s a bachelorette party for anyone outside of the UK) and after many hours of drinking, dancing and stumbling around town failing to find a taxi, the evening finally ended with a group of us squatting down in an alleyway for a much needed pee! I mentioned this in passing to some colleagues at work when we were discussing our respective weekends, expecting them to find it a humorous incident, but instead they reacted with disgust at my ‘unladylike conduct.’ The colleagues in question were male. Since their attitude is pretty clear, I would like to know from other women what they think of what I did and, if they have ever done the same thing after a night on the tiles, how people responded to their behaviour?

Answer 1

I'm not a female however I felt compelled to respond. You're colleagues must be horrible bores. The next time you have a good time don't tell them about it they're obviously wrapped way too tight for living. You were out having a good time and you did something you wouldn't normally do I call that living life. They're were no victims, you didn't harm yourself I clearly don't see a problem here. You keep having having fun and screw what uptight dorks think.

Answer 2

Sometimes too much to drink will make you do things that you wouldn't usually do, in your case it was perfectly Innocent. Your coworkers probably thought that you shouldn't have told them your story while being in a professional atmosphere and probably felt uncomfortable with your story. Even though it was harmless, I believe that stories like that should be mentioned in the presence of friends and possibly family who know you better and wouldn't judge you. Just a tip for next time, keep a business mind at work even on break and personal stuff at home or when ever with true friends.

My story is that I blacked out and forgot what I did in a restaurant because I accidental spit into someone Else's food while laughing too hard. How embarrassing when I found out, I felt like a dork. My friend who was with me said to me the next day, that all the other so called friends of hers stared making fun and saying mean and hurt full things about me. While knowingly she knew that I really wasn't like that and how they perceived me to be when I am sober. So, some people don't understand and it's okay, I'm just not going to let it bother me!

Answer 3

Tell those colleagues to kiss your azz! My friend and I got drunk a few years ago and were riding around the Downtown area of our city and could not think of any gas stations or places that were still open after 12am. We stopped in the parking lot of an attorney's office, hitched up our skirts and peed away. Then our dumb, drunk azzez realized we didn't have anything to wipe with. I opened my glove compartment and had ONE damn napkin left so we ripped it in half and of course had pee on our hands because it went through the piece of napkin we each had. We laughed so hard and I wouldn't have gave a damn if someone else found it not funny and unlady like. I'll be damned if me and her would've peed up my leather in that Infiniti Q45!

Answer 4

first off you should not pee and tell. what is up with that! out of the whole evening that part could have been left out in the retelling of the nights events. Think next time. Maybe you gave out a little too much information. Second if you want to feel bad over it, that's your call, personally I say learn and move on.

Answer 5

I am a christian so I haven't done it your way, but I have had to find a quick place to pee. My husband and I love to ride our motorcycle. We rode wtih some friends and of course when you gotta go you gotta go. We found a nice secluded embankment and there it was. One of the ladies said, Oh I can't do that. My husband just laughed and said honey have you never been bush bred. ( That's the term here in WV, If you gotto go just sneak behind a bush.)needless to say, she went too. So don't feel so bad, it happens to the best of us. God bless you and take care.

Answer 6

You had to pee!! it would have been really gross if you would have wet yourself!!
Don't guys pull on the side of the road and pee when they gotta go!! Or for all the guys who hunt where do you think they go.. there are no restrooms out there!!
Unladylike maybe----necessary at the time Yes!!!

Answer 7

As long as you are comfortable with it, what do you care what other people think. You said it was a "hen party", so I take that to mean all women. There are a lot of narrow minds out there that can't accept it. And the one's that condemned you are probably just jealous because they would have peed their rompers first.

Answer 8

NOOOO! Don't be ashamed of yourself, I peed in front of strangers once because there was too much underground porn going on in the bathroom! And as for the co-workers of yours being grossed out? They're men! And they pee anywhere, and mostly because they're too lazy to find a bathroom! Maybe you should just start peeing on them or there stuff and see if that grosses them out!

Answer 9

... as Smokey Robinson said ... "I second that emotion."

The only reason you should NOT feel bad is if your life long goal is to be a skank. If that's your goal, you're well on your way!

Further proof of the downfall of western civilization: when British girls, once the model of decorum, don't know that there are differences between men and women - and what men can get away with and what women can get away with.

Bring on Islam and the veils!

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Answer 10

I am a guy, and the way i see it, your colleagues should keep their traps shut, because i would bet big $$$ that they have done the exact same thing, the only difference is they could do it standing up. I say, if ya gotta go, GO!!!