My boyfriend dumped me saying that he needed some space and I believed him. I always told him that I was there for him and that I was waiting for him. I waited for two months without a word from him, and after that, I find that he is with another person. This totally destroyed me. How do I ever trust someone again??? Should I keep waiting for this person I love, and have already forgiven or should I give up? Should I fight for his love or move on? I really love him.
2006-07-29 15:08:23 · 9 answers · asked by maidapr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont fight for him.
Ever heard the quote...
Never make someone your priority when your only an option
Well it applys for you, this guy obviously was too chicken to admit that maybe the relationship wasnt working for him and what it really was that he didnt like, instead he let you see him with another girl. And that can hurt alot.
But alas, theres hope, look for love in other places like in the CHURCH. Find friends and hobbies that interest you, if your in school occupy yourself in your studies. You can always casually date to get your mind of him, of course no one can replace him, but sometimes you'll be surprised to see how many great guys come your way. Keep a journal to express all your feelings, let everything out and you will feel lighter. Most of all, use your good friends to help you get by, go out with them and also they will probably will be a shoulder for you to lean on.
As for trust, it will take just the right touch, from the right guy to make you feel special enough to let him in. Theres nothing you can do to speed of the process of trust...its a building block you have to begin.
Hope this helps!
2006-07-29 15:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonstar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough question to answer...when people say that they need space then it could mean many things....he may have been leaving you the whole time sadly and was just looking for an easy way out...if he didn't give the time of day i think you should move on..i don't think you should even give the time of day to someone like that anymore. he is totally not worth it....i don't think you should wait for someone that hurt you so much because you may be waiting for a long time and he will never come back and it will just hurt more....i think you should move on..it will take time but you will learn to love again...you will also learn to trust again..it will take awhile as well but if you are strong you will make it.. no use holding on to something that isn't there anymore...and don't exhaust all your strength fighting for someobe that may not even turn out to be worth it...
2006-07-29 15:15:15 · answer #2 · answered by EvEl_LiL_kArEbEaR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is only you can really answer this question. I would suggest you start off by sitting down and having a one on one conversation with him. Have him tell you his feelings and not hold anything back. If you still love him and want to be with him, but he wants to be with someone else, as much as it may hurt, it's probably best to move on. You have to ask yourself if you guys do get back together, will you be able to trust him fully again. Any doubts or not having any trust will cripple the relationship and will not be as enjoyable for the both of you. Remember, though it may seem like the end of the world now, you will be able to move on and perhaps to even better things.
2006-07-29 15:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by Guy_in_SA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a similar situation happen to me. the best advice i can give u is to move on because u deserve better than that and there are plenty fishes in the sea sooner or later u the right guy would come to u when u least expect be patient like me girl. i know that u love him and that u would always be thinking of him the best thing is to keep ur self occupy ok. Try to think positive and show them that u are strong ok .
2006-07-29 15:16:20 · answer #4 · answered by sweetbiscuit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure I definitely have been in a protracted distance relationship, yet i do no longer think in on line love. If this is a question approximately what to do, i could say stop doing that to your self. Love is a fickle element. i could be responsive to. I made myself have self assurance I enjoyed over 40 of the girls folk at my college. loopy sure, yet i recover from it. And if somebody broke your heart, forget approximately on the subject of the discomfort, lose administration and act on impulse. Wanna get a cup of coffee? Splurge. Wanna bypass dancing? Do it, and don't supply a damn approximately who's there. My element. existence is a foul element, could as nicely develop your experience of relaxing :)
2016-10-08 11:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are jerks ... unfortunately there is no set rule for determining which guys are and which guys aren't, and chances are you won't know for sure until the relationship ends ... it's a horrid reality of dating. BUT ... you gotta kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince ... so don't let this bad apple put you off trying the pie!
2006-07-29 15:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by ♪ Nickels ♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive found that its human nature to want something that is a challenge to have . When you know something is there it makes alot of people not realize how valuable it is and not care about it .Its my opinion that if you love him .You will have more chance of getting him back by not acting like it . By acting like you could care less about him and its his loss . Maybe let him see you can enjoy life with out him . I think you will get more positive results
2006-07-29 15:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by dollars2burn4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure plenty of people have told you this, but honestly time will make it better. Do not wait for him. Go on with your life. he is not worth you. He does not love or respect you.
2006-07-29 15:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by True 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely move on!! find someone just to screw then move on to someone else
2006-07-29 15:25:08 · answer #9 · answered by chris p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋