Ever since my mom started working she never has time to do the things she used to do. What should I do?

Question

Ever since my mom started to work she never has time to do things anymore. I am ver fustrated because this interferrs with my friendships and social time. How do I controll this?

i help her out and everything but she doesn't seem to notice. i try harder. she tells me to do it. i do it. she screams at me for no reason and spoil my little sister. my sister slaps me and my mom doesn't care. whats going on?

Answer 1

Is it because it interferes with your social life that it is making you upset or is because she cannot ferry you all over any longer. If you are upset because she is not at your beck and call any longer, then you need to figure out how to get around on your own. For instance, you want to go out with your friends and you have her permission, take a bus! You want to see your friends, go to the mall, take a bus! She should not have to wait on you hand and foot. The fact that you want to control this says that you are too dependent on her. Figure out what you can do to help her. Is she coming home to a messy house that needs cleaning, is the laundry piling up and needs to be done. She has more on her plate now than she did before returning to work. Help out at home and maybe she will have more time to help you get around. Besides it is not for you to control her....it is for her to control you!

Answer 2

I'm a mom and I work, too. I started working when my kids were 6 and 10. I had the option of staying home but wanted to work so I can buy my kids the extra clothes, toys and other fun things. If I didn't work, they wouldn't be able to go out with their friends to the movies or the local cafe. Yes, I am not there for all time too but they have to take this into consideration...do they want the nice things or not? In your case, maybe your mom has bills to pay and needs to put food on the table. Whatever it is, she is doing it for you.

Answer 3

Sweetheart, I remember when my mom started going back to school when I was 9... parts of it were kind of cool... I actually liked SOME of my additional responsibilities (I enjoyed cooking dinner because that meant that I didn't have to do dishes) and other things I didn't like (like having to do more housework). It seemed that I was getting all the "grunt work" and my mom didn't do any. I didn't fully appreciate everything she was doing and I understand how you feel. You may never feel differently (my brother never did) but if you don't, you are just going to have to find a way to deal with it. Like I said... I didn't like it either... now I'm 41 and do everything for myself.... some of those things I learned because I had to.... and thats not all bad.

Answer 4

You should sit her down, ideally when both of you are calm and fully rested, and just talk to her. Make sure you address the issue in a calm, loving manner rather than in an angry, aggressive manner. Pay attention to your body language and just open up and tell her how you feel. Clear communication is the key here... you want to let your mom know that you want to spend time with her and that you and she need to plan a schedule for social activity... for both of you. You have to balance work and play without getting too much of each. Just relax, it will all be okay.

Answer 5

First off: THE WORLD DOESN'T REVOLVE AROUND YOU!!

okay now that I've said that here is my advice:
Try to see where your mom is coming from and what she is trying to do for you, be more understanding and sympathetic. Then try and help her out, she'll be much more willing to and able to help you if you offer her assistance. Lastly find a good time to tell her youd like to talk then when she is ready calmy adress the situation and tell her how you feel, without yelling screaming or throwinf accusations. I hope this helps.

Answer 6

Depending on your age, I would either: talk to her and let her know how you feel; try to be more helpful to her around the house so that she doesn't have to be the one doing the majority of things (she is tired after working, anyhow); try to understand that she is working to benefit you and make your life better. If she wasn't working, she might not be able to give you things you want.

If it interferes with your social time and friendships, then you are being selfish. You should try to be understanding of her. Moms have enough problems without having to be tormented by kids with self-centered attitudes!!

Answer 7

Well I understand what is happening in your life. My mom works everyday too and I do not get to see her alot. maybe if she had to do some chores at home, you could hhelp out. Or you can talk to her about this, you do not have to post a question on the internet. She will come up with some answers for you.

Answer 8

Sure.. you can make her quit.Oh..but wait... Then, you won't have food on the table. No roof to live under. Oh, and get this!!! Your social life will go from sometimes having a social life to having no social life at all. Give your mother a break. She's trying to support you and pay the bills.

Answer 9

You could help around the house. I'm sure she's tired when she comes home and then she probably has to do the laundry, cook dinner, and straighten up the house. Where do you think she's going to find the time to be your social director too. Take some of the load off her when she's home.

Answer 10

Hmm.. How can you and your mom's social lives clash..?

Why not talk to her and share what you feel inside? Tell her how much you missed the things you do together. Also remember, maybe she took a job to earn money for you and your family.

Balance both and meet in the middle. Take care and God bless ^_^