Religion and marriage... how do you feel about it?

Question

If your not religious, then what does marriage mean to you? During the ceremony, everything has to do with the couple and being one under god... if you dont believe in god, is marriage wrong? What does it mean to those who arent religious?

Or those with any opinion on religion and marriage, i'd love to hear your thoughts.

Answer 1

It means that my wife and I have loved each other dearly for almost 40 years. Through good times and bad. Through sickness and health. When we were richer and a whole lot poorer. Beautyful childen from 13 to 38 that we love dearly, and precious grandchildren from 16 to 7 months. It has been far better than I could ever have guessed it could be. I wish everyone could feel as blessed as I do.

By the way We have no religous affiliation and never have. We teach our children that there is a loving force in the universe that cares deeply for each and every one of us.

Love and blessings
don

Answer 2

Marriage is a commitment that two people make to each other.. religion may or may not be invited into that. And no, the ceremony isn't necessarily about being under god..there are non-religious ceremonies. I don't believe in god but I don't believe marriage to be wrong.. it is a choice like most other events in ones life.

Religion hasn't always historically been the definer of marriage. Colonists in early New England were married by Justices of the Peace because it was felt that "Christs Church" would remain more pure that way and those early blue laws were partially proposed by a Reverend.

Answer 3

I do believe in God but I will not have a religious ceremony when I do get married nor do I want to get married in a church.

To me, people say that unless God is in a marriage and the marriage is blessed (hence why they say under God as they read the vows or something) the marriage won't last. But the way I see it... look at all the marriages that are 'under God' that do not last. There has to be more to this union!

I don't think that religion has that much to do with it as much as a mutual love and respect between two people. If you want God in your marriage then there's nothing wrong with it. Or vice versa. But I think that there's more to it than religion.

Answer 4

Being or not being religious has nothing to do with the union of marriage. In my opinion if you love someone marriage means more than just saying I Do. You can have your ceremony performed by anyone who has a license to do so. In my state the magistrate can do it. Marriage is legally binding, and everything that is you'res is your husbands, and vice versa. You also want your children to be legitimized, and in this society that means a contract of marriage. I believe in God, and take marriage vows very serious. If you don't believe in God (which is your choice) marriage is still your best option morally.

Answer 5

Marriage is not about religion or god. Marriage is about being in love and wanting to spend the rest of your life with that person. Many people who are not religious have long, happy, health relationships. You don't have to believe in god to get married, you only have to believe in love.

Answer 6

A religious service is not about God alone. It is about the bride and groom pledging their love for each other, promising to remain together till death do they part irregardless if they are rich or poor, sick or in good health, put each other before all others, not to commit adultery (cheat). After the ceremony papers are signed and sent into to government stating the couple are not married. These are the same vows a couple would take in a civil ceremony.

Answer 7

I'm not religious (I'm agnostic if you need a title), and I have been married before...more because I believed in the "romance" of marriage", what marriage meant to me at the time was "happily ever after" in a story book fashion because I believed (for some bizzar reason) that every girl gets her knight in shining armour. I was married at 19 and divorced before I was 25.

Now I believe that the actual marriage (the cermony) is nice but probably not for me, I guess I failed once at it I'm not about to go and do it again. Does that make sense or have drunk too much coffee?

Answer 8

i think marriage is great, if someone feels like they need a partner to be 'whole...'

My definition of marriage will always fit the "traditional" definition of it (no matter how much of the country tries to acknowledge definitions outside of that.) I believe marriage should be between a man & a woman, and that it's a committment made in the witness of God.

I definately feel that God should be held part of the relationship, because He is what keeps it from ending in divorce. (Ofcourse, that's only an opinion...but that is what you're looking for.)

God bless.

Answer 9

You don't have to be religious to get married. However, if you want the marriage to work and be successful, I believe that God must be in the middle of the marriage. When you take your vows to God and your spouse, you are committed to stay in the marriage and work through your problems. If things go bad, you at least have someone to talk about your problems to. Alot of people just get married to be getting married and don't take their vows seriously anyway.

Answer 10

i'm not really very religious at all... i don't like rules or being told what to do or think. i think marriage and religion should be seperate, but can be combined if desired. religion is about faith and beliving in a higher power, like god. marriage is about love for another person. marriage, to me, means that u love someone so much, u always want to be with them, that u love them and they love u back. i don't think the two should really be related unless both people are religious. imho... i don't really care for religion, but marriage is a beautiful, marvelous thing.