Should I tell him or not?

Question

I'm pregnant for my ex. When I told him he said hed be there if I needed him yet hes never there. A couple weeks ago he said I'm too much of a B-I-T and to quit calling him cause I got angry at him for not doing his part. I didnt want to tell him I was pregnant but I did he said if I had an abortion hed never speak to me again, fine that isnt an option for me anyway, he says if I give it up he'll take it and hate me forever. I dont know if he cares about me and the baby or not. I know he said not to call him but I find out if its a boy or a girl Wed. and that is the main thing he kept asking. If I knew it was a boy or girl, when I was gonna find out. he really wants it to be a boy. Should I even bother telling him? Should I call him or send him a text message? What would you do?

Answer 1

YOU KNOW....I WAS IN A SITUATION LIKE YOURS A WHILE BACK. EXCEPT MINE WAS ALOT WORSE. I'M GOING TO TELL YOU SOMETHING .......FROM WOMAN TO WOMAN........IF THERE IS ANY DOUBT IN YOUR MIND THAT HE MAY NOT BE E GREAT FATHER TO YOU SON OR DAUGHTER, DONT LET HIM BE. YOU AND THE BABY WILL ONLY GET HURT IN THE LONG RUN. YOUR BABY DESERVES THE BEST OF EVERYTHING AND IF HE IS TELLING YOU NOT TO CALL HIM, DONT EVEN BOTHER. I AM A SINGLE MOTHER AND IT IS VERY HARD, BUT MY SON HAS EVERYTHING HE NEEDS. DONT DEPEND ON NO ONE BUT YOURSELF AND GOD.........E-MAIL ME IF YOU NEED FURTHER HELP OR ADVICE. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 2

He is the father and it is his right to know.. You cant deny him of that. just leave him a message . if he needs to call about anything then he will. what ever sex the baby is he should not care if it isn't a boy.He should be thinking about taking serious responsibility for his child .

Answer 3

You have to tell him! I grew up without my father, but that was his choice. However, if it had been just because my mother thought he wasn't good enough or thought he wouldn't be there and hadn't told him I would be pi$$ed! Do you want to deprive your child of his or her father because of your personal relationship with him? Just because the 2 of you didn't work doesn't mean he wouldn't be a wonderful father, So I am telling you tell him now please, don't wait another minute!