My girlfriend and myself had the first Kiss yesterday and then my gf kept on asking me that whether we are doing anything wrong.. I kept assuring her that it is normal for couples to kiss...
What shall i do to make her feel better...
2006-07-29 14:28:55 · 14 answers · asked by Spliceguyz1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Both of us are 26 years of age
2006-07-29 14:32:53 · update #1
We have been together for the past 2 yrs.. but just kissed for the first time...
2006-07-29 14:34:17 · update #2
She needs to loosen up.
2006-07-29 14:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Cristalle T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for asking that thoughtful question.
The fact that you are concerned with how she feels is a good thing. I would tell her that while a kiss is fine, that she is obviously feeling some of the "warnings" from her conscience that anything more than that could lead to other things that she isn't comfortable with, and that she, and you, already know are wrong.
I think you two have a chance at beating this "must have sex while we're dating" thing that most of the teenagers here have. It's not a good thing. In fact, it's a disease and that practice will come back to haunt all of them.
Since you obviously have a girlfriend you can respect, honor, and that you will be proud and honored to have as your girlfriend, consider this, please.
Sexual Abstinence is a choice – it is YOUR choice. If you have decided to abstain from sex until marriage and someone is pressuring you to have sex with them, explain that you have decided to wait until you are married for reasons that are important to YOU. If they continue to pressure you then they are disrespecting you and your choice.
There is a difference between love and sex and it is not necessary to have sex with someone to show them that you love or care about them. It is not right for someone to make you feel bad or say that you don’t love them because you do not want to have sex with them. If someone truly respects you and your choice they will never make you feel bad or guilty for choosing to abstain from sex.
Even if it's a boyfriend, a girlfriend, or a friend, sex of any kind without YOUR consent, is RAPE.
Abstinence can make dating better! If you abstain from sex with someone you are dating there is no need to worry about STD’s or pregnancy. Not having to worry about these issues can take a lot of stress off of a relationship.
I hope you both continue to question things like that. That means you're both on the right track.
Thank you. You've given me some hope for teens!
2006-07-29 21:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's always a big aftershock on your first kiss. Hers just might be a little longer than yours. Give her some time to come down to earth and wait until she's ready before you kiss her again.
2006-07-29 21:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by kat_katty_chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you two? Adults would know kissing is okay...where is she from that kissing is a foreign idea?
Perhaps to help her feel better (ya can't "make" her feel anything) you should withhold kissing for a while...apparently she's not ready for it...
2006-07-29 21:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her at this point in the relationship it is time to start showing emotion physically at that as long as you have been together for more than a couple of months you are right on tract in building a lasting relationship
2006-07-29 21:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by jason b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by a season of ne reality TV show n watch it with so that she know that it is natural for couples and even non-couples 2 kiss
2006-07-29 21:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by RJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok it is very normal too kiss there really isnt a right or wrong way to kiss I promise.......you can look up tips for kissing if you think you can inprove ...yeah in dating and bf and gf he it would be wrong if yall didnt kiss ... there is nothing wrong with it .... dont forget to vote me best ! http://teenadvice.about.com/od/kissing/or
http://www.fun4world.com/kissingfun.html
2006-07-29 21:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by Melanie<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may as well learn right now that you are not responsible for making any one "feel better".....that is on her. That is a very important secret that no one tells you......that you are not responsible for others' feelings! Learn it now......it will save you a lot of heartache in the future!
2006-07-29 21:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Study up on kissing...I think you're doing it wrong.
Or maybe she's doing it wrong...either way, someone's not doing it right.
Kissing is the easy part.
2006-07-29 21:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by kaaaahhh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she isn't comfortable about it then don't push her.
But kissing is a nice thing to do if you love each other.
Try gently holding hands to help ease her concerns.
2006-07-29 21:31:29 · answer #10 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up kids!!!
you should kiss her again.. do it right this time maybe she will get to really like it
2006-07-29 21:30:34 · answer #11 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋