My mom and i have a bad relationship--she threw me out and I was forced to live in a homeless shelter while I go to college. Its been six months, but she still comes to my job and bothers me by calling me stupid in front of the customers or by telling everyone that she is my mom and she doesn't know why I don't talk to her. I really like my job and I don't want to quit, but this is tearing me up inside. What should I do?
2006-07-29 13:56:01 · 9 answers · asked by policethesoul 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would let your boss in on the situation right away so if things get out of hand they are more likely to help you for being open & honest about it. It's up to you to set the boundaries for your Mother. It's your job and you need to stop wimping out. You're obviously a strong soul because it sounds like you've held strong through a lot on your own. Continue to do so. If your Mom won't listen, you may have to seek help from your boss to keep her away from your work, possibly something as serious as a restraining order through the D.A.'s office. Not that your Mom's a physical threat, but perhaps a threat to your lively hood. Sometimes we don't know when we're suppose to close the door in our lives...and even when we do, we spend so much time looking at that door, we miss the one that's standing open right behind us.
You can do this! Best of luck to you!
2006-07-29 14:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that. I think its very important that you notify your supervisor that you have absolutely no control over this woman.. If she is harassing you at work, have the management staff call the police on her to have her removed. If you feel that is too harsh, then you can always try to tell her that she needs to stop coming into your work "just tell her on your day off that way she doesn't cause a fuss at your work"..
Thirdly which I would use as a last resort, is to get a restraining order against her. She sounds like she has some personal issues that she has to deal with and unfortunately you have to be the adult in this relationship.. So the ball is in your court. You can always go to your local police station and they can offer you some sound advice on what to do so that you get all the right answers about what can happen legally.. Take care and good luck!
2006-07-29 14:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by Deu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! You HAVE to speak up and you have to speak up immediately. Your mother is an extremely immature and narcasistic person. I don't care what you've done to her or just done, she's your mom and is suppose to be the leader. She's showing nothing but complete ignorant and pathetic behavior.
Speak up immediately. Say to her "my bosses asked that you do not come in here anymore. if you do they said that they'll have to get a restraining order against you". That is IT, that's all you need to say, I mean it. She is trying to intimidate you so you let her know that other people are on your side, including the company as a whole (even if it's not the case... just yet) and you say exactly what I wrote, no more. If she continues to show up even one more time, get a restraining order yourself immediately specifically for the work location. Or, plan to look for another job because you will be fired. Your mom is creating a liability for this company that NO company will tolerate for very long at all. TRUST ME.
2006-07-29 14:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your boss if he will ask her to be so kind and leave or he will have to call the police. Be honest with your boss. If you are a hard worker, this should not be a problem. I am so sorry you have a mom with a problem like this. I wish you so much prayers and good fortune. I hope your mom finds peace in her life as well. God speed.
2006-07-29 14:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if she keeps coimg up there you will loose your job and that the manager has already had a talk with you about it.. If that doesn`t work then I`d stick her tires on her car with a knife so she won`t be up there for a while!!! Let her spend the money buying new tires on her car!!!
2006-07-29 14:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by bren_jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plz plz plz be polite and set her aside and ask her y she is doing this(if all fails fall bac on a restraining order) don't let no1 call u a disgrace if u get a restraiing order on yo own mom
2006-07-29 14:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by Double D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your boss and explian how it's upsetting and important they have this woman removed from your work place.you don't want to lose what you have and seen to enjoy
2006-07-29 14:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by sexydiabla592 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU KNOW I WAS GOING TO SAY SOME SMART *** REMARK BUT IF THAT ***** MADE YOU LIVE IN A SHELTER PUT THAT OLD DRIED UP HOE SLUT *** ***** IN A RETIREMENT HOME
2006-07-29 14:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the cops
2006-07-29 13:59:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋