Are girls not attracted to people with disabilities?

Question

I have some disabilities.. one of them being, i have a knee problem and i can't walk sometimes, .. i'm working on self therapy exercises, but it seems i'm going to be like this forever. i'm 26. used to be active and healthy, but it all changed.. 6 months ago. So, how in the world can you be special to someone? especially if you're not very Social, which would be the only thing you could have left.

Answer 1

Well I am a teenage girl, but I have often asked myself the same question about guys. I have rheumatoid arthritis in both knees and (and have had six operations on one) , one ankle and I walk with a limp. For a long time, as soon as I told the guy I liked why I walked "funny" he would disappear. This happened to me several times, in grade school and since I started high school. So in honesty, some girls (and people in general) are not attracted to people with disabilities. I never make my disability the topic of conversation unless asked about it. But still I get strange looks when I go out. I think the problem is people in general are not accepting of people with disabilities. On the other hand, I recently started dating a guy who totally understands and loves me for who I am in spite of my disability. So don't give up hope, there is someone out there for you!!!
Best of luck!

Answer 2

The reason a lot of girls don't usually feel attracted to men with disabilities is the fact that they don't feel like those men can be the protector or provider that they look for. Also, it's a lot of times awkward to try to come up with a guy with a broken leg or something, because you know they are thinking about it, and that you're thinking about it... what do you say? do you avoid talking about the leg? or is it the first thing you ask? what if you ask too much? what if he's a really needy guy? That's usually the story for a lot of girls. Other's, however, look past that. They see a guy whose just a guy. Sure he has some problems, but doesn't everyone? Don't you worry about finding someone. Just make sure you go to places with people, like starbucks, mall, library.. Keep yourself with the crowd. Always have a smile on your face. Never have the look of "pity" or "i'm so helpless". Show people you have accepted your disability, but that the disability does NOT rule you.
Again, keep a smile on your face. Ladies are always attracted to a smiling, open face. Try not be Johnny RainCloud. Women will come, do not worry. Keep a positive attitude, and know that someone out there is waiting for you.

Answer 3

Unfortunately, we live in a superficial world. In general, when women look for men, and vice versa, they generally aren't seeking someone with a disability. However, being a Christian man I believe that God has that special someone for everyone, whether with or without disabilities. Personally I have learned it is how a person is on the inside that counts the most. My ex-wife was an extremely beautiful and attractive woman. She was everything I thought I had ever wanted. Unfortunately after we were married she showed her true colors and in the end I found myself not even standing the sight of her. True beauty comes from within. Don't worry about your disability. When the right woman comes along she will see you for the person you are rather than your disablity. I will be praying for you. This is the Caveman laying down this club and signing out. Peace and God bless.

Answer 4

I say of course. If they have a big enough heart and definitely have the right mindset. I mean disabilities can happen to anyone at any time. I see no reason why the disabled shouldn't have love and happiness too. I'd go for ya, no prob. Cuz there are like a million things you can do without walking. Just have to be creative and maybe even help you out with your excercises. But back to my main point, the person has to have the right mindset and attitude to be accepting of who you are, not about what you have or don't have anymore.

Answer 5

It is tough to do too many projects at once. If you are trying to fix yourself up (and the idea has been reviewed and approved by a therapist or someone who knows what they are talking about), I'd suggest focusing on that for a while.

A seperate phase would be building a social life. Join a club or two. Go to local lectures that interest you. Go to parties, even if you don't know many of the people. Volunteer somewhere. You'll never meet HER if you are not meeting people.

One of the issues of disabilities is that their social circle collapses until it is caregivers, therapists, and so forth. Sadly, it is not easy to keep this from happening and unfair though it may be, it is entirely up to you to rebuild it.

Answer 6

I wouldn't worry, Your disability is worst the younger you are. As you grow older the less it means. As for girls, No they're not attracted to people with disabilities. Not at first but such people grow on them and love is usually the product.

Your disability is not as bad as many who will never know love. You will, just hang in there and make up with personality what you've lost in the flesh.

Answer 7

If you, yourself, look at it as having a disability, then girls will look at it that way. But if you look at is as "This is part of who I am, take it or leave it." then girls will take on the same view.

I don't look at a person's abilities, or lack there of. As a matter in fact, before I married I dated a couple of guys that were "disabled". One had MS, and the other was deaf.

Don't feel sorry for yourself, get out there and just BE yourself. That is what a girl will be attracted to - YOU not your "disability"

Answer 8

Some, not all, women will overlook your knee problems. Personally, I have to get my shoulder, knee, and hips operated on and I'm only 18. I hope everything works out for you! Good Luck!

Answer 9

I used to date a guy who was on a dialysis machine several times a week. He had all kinds of health issues but we got along great because I looked past that.Unfortunately he passed away while we were still dating but I'll never forget him or his charm and generosity.

Answer 10

of course girls are attracted to people with disabilities..you just have to find the right girl. I was so attracted to a guy I met where I work, he was a guest, and he was in a wheel chair. but he was the cutiest guy. Its hard, just hang in there. :)