I've accidentally looked at my engagement ring...?

Question

I didnt know what it was so I opened it. BUT...now that I saw it there is a problem. I dont like it...
Should I tell him that I saw it and see if we can change it or would that be rude so I should never say a word and just pretend that I like it.

Its not that I care more about the ring. Is that the ring is huge. I personatly dont even wear jewerly. Is just a bit much.

Okay. Once again. I dont mind the ring itself. I mind the size. ITS TOO big. Im also a very littel person. So its just something that If I wear it i would be scared to get jumped on or something...

Answer 1

I think you really should graciously accept it. He got you a big rock because that's what most women seem to want, and he wanted to please you and make you happy. You already said that you like the design of it, so in the larger scheme of things, the ring's size, whether it be too big or too small, is such an insignificant thing.

Regardless of any ring you would pick yourself and consider "perfect" for you, it will not compare to a ring that was especially picked out for you, with lots of thought, time, care and more importantly his love. It's not the size, shape, stone, metal, price tag etc that makes an engagement ring perfect. It's the receiving of it from the giver and the intent behind it ie wants to spend his whole life with only you, that gives the ring it's perfection.

Please consider this before you tell him and hurt his feelings. He would be feeling pretty pleased with himself not to mention the excitement of planning this wonderful suprise for you.

Answer 2

Okay. You cannot say anything. If you want to marry him. You smile say yes and wear the ring when you are doing something together. Otherwise, do what I do. I don't wear my wedding ring, hardly anymore and my engagement ring hasn't seen light of day since I had children. My husband doesn't care. Only wear the ring for special occasions - going to functions together, weddings, bridal parties, etc. If he asks, let him that it is a little big for your hands and therefore you are worried that it would get caught on something and lost. Very good observation and lets him know that you don't want to lose it. If he gets really upset then mention that maybe you could exchange for something more practical, for your size and hands.

Answer 3

ok, i am simple person too...but, i have a diamond, its .68 of a kt. its not big nor small. but the thing is, if you had a small one...later after kids your hand might get bigger or your taste might change. (that happens when u have kids) I personally want a bigger diamond. i've had mine for 6 years. just want a change. for you, just shop with him one day -soon- and take him into a jewelry store and point out a couple that you like and mention..."i don't think i could handle a BIG ring" or when you see someone wearing one..say...i hate big rings like that...they always look fake. and look at him and say" are you taking notes?" then laugh it off and quickly change the subject. .....but....you should really keep the diamond...what happens if maybe you two don't stay together, then you can sell it or whatnot and have the money....(not trying to bust your bubble) ....be a good girl and follow ur heart.

Answer 4

No. It is a very personal gift and I'm sure he spent a long time choosing it. Don't tell him that you saw it until at least a little while after you got it, but do it in a joking way. You should like it no matter what he gets you because I'm sure he got what he could afford and what he thought was nice. Coach him during Christmas and other gift giving times so he learns your style. It might be okay to say that you would like to return a birthday gift(after a few days) but not an engagement ring!

Answer 5

Have you been talking about marriage? I would not tell him you saw the ring, it might bring up a lot of problems. If you have been talking about marriage. Grab some books, magazines with pictures of rings in them. Talk about your likes and dislikes with certain rings. This will give him a idea of what you like. Let him start to think about the ring he has, maybe he will change it. I would not pretend you like it. One, you have to wear this ring for the rest of your life. Secondly you don't want to start lying over some thing as trivial as a ring. If he does not change the ring tell him how you feel. If he is to be your husband, he will understand. I hope this helps.

Answer 6

oh boy
Why sneek about looking at things that aren't your business. Maybe he is holding this ring for a friend of his.
Not sure what to do about not liking it. Have you guys gong out looking at rings and you have pointed out the size and shape you want?
You are probably one of the most lucky girl on the planet.
You can't spend the rest of your life hating a ring.
What is your man like? Will he crumble if you say that you would rather have something else? Or is he the kind of guy who can deal with it. It is up to you.

Do it quickly and get it over wtih.

Answer 7

Oh, dear.....you poor baby......what to do when the ring is too big!!! Boo Hoo!!! Just wait until he gives it to you because with the way you are acting.....he may change his mind! Stop being so picky and go with the flow and deal with things as they happen. In this day and age.....the guys usually know better than to just pick out a ring. Perhaps when he sees it on your "little" finger, he can exchange it for something smaller and with the difference......buy a set of golf clubs!

Answer 8

Did you two ever talk about the ring and the wedding before hand? If so you should have told him then and he could've listened. Just a thought b/c my b/f and I are talking about it and I already told him I don't want a rock. Something somewhat small and simple. But, back to your question, just take it and remember the reason behind and underneath the ring itself. You may come to liking it later on.

Answer 9

definitely don't pretend you like it....otherwise you might find yourself not putting it on often and he'll start to notice that, which could lead to a bunch of drawn out questions. then if he finds out you don't like it, he might be hurt cuz you weren't honest with him and that you've been pretending. so you should just be honest with him; tell him you accidentally found it and had to open it (maybe he shoulda hid it better, but since he didn't, oh well....), but since you're not a huge fan of jewelry, you think it's a bit much. tell him what you prefer....maybe something a lot smaller and elegant...not so gaudy. and if all goes well, you can pick out a ring ~together~. which is probably what you two shoulda done in the beginning, so he gets to know your taste. hope i helped!

Answer 10

This is a tough one... you could always go to a jewlery store (by yourself) and grab one of their magazines and bring it home and pretend that you got it in the mail. Start going "ooo I like this... look at how pretty that is" then maybe he will get the idea of your style of rings and on his own figure out that he should take the other one back. But, point out necklaces and others so that he doesn't suspect anything.